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I'm more inclined to believe that the person typing this is a 62-year-old dude that gets a cheap-thrill from the responses because this dilemma just doesn't ring true of a real world experience nor would this the place for that fictional character to come for a solution. Maybe it's just me.

That is why we try to treat every question as real. Even if the original poster turns out to just be looking for a cheap thrill (not saying that you are, just talking in general) there may be someone later who comes by and finds the advice helpful. We hear you about the FWB and one night stands but swinging has never been mainstream. Maybe a tributary during the late '60's/early 70's, but never mainstream. There are guys out there, you just need to keep looking. Referring back to what Idaho said: The best way to catch a fish is to first find a lake that HAS the right fish. Start with meet and greets or a swingers club. Trust me, you will have NO PROBLEM making friends. Just make sure that you vet them and never settle. You hold the cards here and should be able to find exactly what you want. It just takes some time, effort and patience. Now, did you ever take off your clothes and assume the position?

Yeah, context is king. I have to wear diabetic shoes, and this latest pair is causing a sore on a toe. I had an appointment with my very cute doctor today. She looked at the problem, then at my shoe and said, “You need a big box.” Then, she realized what she’d said, we both laughed, and she explained, “your shoe needs a bigger box at the toes.”

I'm single female interested in swinging. I'm struggling to find relationships with single men into swinging. I'm not big on just casual fwbs. I'm 21 so I feel like my whole age group is not as open to swinging.

So, as a lifetime user on SLS I often review new profiles. I do it . . . just cause. Single guys tend to give me a good laugh every now and then. Like this: "Let's get together and no each other." True story . . .

Sorry about this but a VERY old joke from when I was just a kid. What's worse than a woman with tissue paper titties? A girl with a cardboard box

Unfortunately, many seemingly healthy people have succumbed to COVID. The importance of vaccination cannot be overstated.

Getting to no you, getting to no all about you. I would hate to see this guy’s resume.

The swing comment reminds me of a scene on some sort of a documentary where Tim Conway and Betty White are sitting on a porch swing. He is gently swinging the porch forwards and backwards. After a minute or so, she asks him to stop and without missing a beat he says "Oh, not a swinger huh?" :)

Good panel. A lot of people miss HPV and herpes testing. I think these are the most likely, but often overlooked.

The panel we get includes exactly: Chlamydia Gonorrhea Hepatitis B Hepatitis C Herpes HIV Antibody HIV Early Detection HPV Syphilis

We are one of those rare bareback couples. We do the whole std panel with new playmates so have always asked for and provided paperwork. The covid vaccine is just another piece of paperwork.

Well put, but for us it's about what you say AND the sex. Neither my wife nor I hide the emotional aspect of our relationships with other partners. "I love you"s are exchanged by her with one couple. It is part of swinging and we talk about it positively.

For me, it's not about having sex or sex acts or multiple partners. It is about 'feeding' different aspects of my personality, occasionally, in diverse ways with sex. It transcends role playing, it's a sexual moment as I'm giving, yielding, engaging and driving my partner(s) into an exquisite moment. To build them up, for the men to enter me in a pure moment that thrills or kissing a woman with tongues plunging deeply. I love it when someone I may have just met can surrender to me and I to them. Then, once we're done that it's perfectly alright to go to the next partner and, who knows, have that same person again later that night (or not). Or, if it's simply to play with another couple, have the sex with the husband be so great that the wife thanks me. Then, of course, there's the knowledge of my husband having another girl, whether it be a wife or innocent bystander, knowing she just might be asking herself if watching me fuck means my husband must be amazing (he is).

The advice here is good, but if you're looking for a man who is into swinging and a long-term relationship, potentially marriage, I don't think that like every other guy is into that. Men who want to share of life of non-monogamy and swinging with a wife are certainly out there (and if they are like my husband and the way other husbands here seem to be, the are above average spouses), but you need to be honest about what you are looking for and be choosey. Most men still think that they want monogamy, so you need to say that you aren't going to be monogamous up front so as not to waste anyone's time.

A 21 year old can’t find a guy to party with? I suggest visiting any college campus and setting up a table at the Union building and taking applications. I don't know what you look like, I just feel there are millions of guys who would be willing unless you are into some craziness.

We are experienced but within limits of the number of contacts. Amy and I have different experiences. We first swapped with friends about 13 years ago, before we were married. It was a unplanned but great experience. Nothing happened for ten years, then about 3 years ago Amy discovered the delight of two sessions of sex with her friend's husband. So delightful that I was enlisted to start foursome swinging with Lesley and Ken, my wife's lover and his wife. We now swing with them frequently, plus twice with our old friends from 13 years back and a couple of swing parties. We do hall passes with our individual lovers which is the most exciting part of swinging for both of us.

Started so long ago. Except for my experience with Ms. Kaye. My first adult swinger experience happened when I was in the military I was having lunch at a bar when I was picked up by a couple for my first threesome. When I was in the military I got plenty of sex, sometimes just a BJ other times fucking. I can’t even guess how many. I got out of military met my first wife, she did a lot of first with me, her first anal, her first woman, her first swap & overnight, we were married about 5 years, very sexual. We divorced stayed friends & still fucked. Dianne my second wife, I met at a house party, we fit together perfect. We were wonderful sex partners, our marriage last about 3 1/2 years. After Dianne, I kept swinging alone or with a partner, lots & lots of one night stands. Then I met Debbie we have been together for 16 years or so, about 6 years ago I started having heart problems so my swinging slowed down, we still go to house parties butt I mainly watch.

Hubby always bring up wanting another girl involved, wanted me eat her while he fucks me, her eat me while he fucks her. I do admit I was not in it at first. I do have a kinky side of me fantasize things... I told him I may do so if I can have another guy to fuck. Oh gosh well here we are.

This is Mrs. Idaho. A few months ago a bunch of my coworkers got together for drinks. I got quite drunk and kissed two females. I liked it. OMG. What have I done? were my thoughts. Had to go home and tell the husband. Did I cheat? (We've been married 35 + years) But man it was hot. He was so shocked. In a good way. And very turned on. In the last couple of years with an empty nest we have reawakened our sex life and are like a couple of kids with new toys...each other and toys, sub Dom, light bondage and spanking. Now the thought of adding extra players to the mix has blown our minds. We have chatted up some couples on sls and going to our first meet and greet next weekend. Then the following weekend traveling to Portland to a club. One night is kink night. We want to learn. Hoping to pop our swinging cherry real soon. We have been doing our due diligence in reading, learning, lurking and above all most importantly talking. We are doing this to have fun. Nothing is broken so not fixing our marriage, not missing anything in our relationship, not jealous, and neither one of us pushing the other into this. I know the thread was which partner brought up swinging? After a long winded explanation it was me the wife.?