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Good questions. Bacterial vaginosis is the consequence of a change in the resident microbes in the vagina. First, the vagina is "self cleaning". The normal flora help: some produce hydrogen peroxide in small quantities that help kill the undesirable microbes. What happens in BV is that the pre-existing delicate ecosystem gets replaced by some anaerobic organisms that prefer to multiply without oxygen. As they take over, the previous flora are forced out. The problem arises knowing which anaerobes are the problem. If they are bacteria, then clindamycin will help. If they are protozoan, then tinidazole is likely to help. If the problem is candidiasis--which can be confused with BV--then fluconazole is the answer. The challenge is making the *correct* identification, treating for an adequate period of time, and then letting the normal flora re-emerge. Some reassurances: it will eventually resolve. Some advice: make sure that your health care professional is experienced in treating this. It may take an experienced GYN to look at the fluid under a microscope. Some logical things: avoid behaviors that favor an anaerobic environment. If discharge is a problem, then wear absorbent yet breathable cotton underwear and change often. otherwise, it may make more sense to go without and wear skirts/dresses and not trousers. No tight yoga pants, bike shorts etc. Shower and dry immediately after exercise. and so on. Avoid home remedy douches. Generally, avoid douches altogether. Yes, sex can predispose to BV. Yes, sex with more than one partner can predispose to BV. But sex is not necessary to develop BV.

A great deal to unpack here. Allow me to begin by saying I respect and defend your choice to not be vaccinated at this time. Also, I appreciate you pushing back on the notion that people who choose not to get the vaccine are somehow "less serious" about their health than those who do. And I am sensitive your feelings around this subject. However, being entirely fair, you also make some assumptions about the vaccine that need some additional commentary. I'm writing this is good faith and not to be combative or argumentative at all: The idea that this vaccine was produced too quickly for scientists to have adequate data to determine its safety is something that can be objectively challenged. The study of the family of COVID viruses goes back all the way to the 1930s. The development of COVID vaccines started nearly 20 years ago to combat the outbreak of two very deadly COVID variants, SARS and MERS. Scientists had fully developed these vaccines, and they were ready for large-scale human testing, but were determined to be unnecessary due to the steep decline of the incidence of these two diseases. The salient point being that there is little that is actually "new" regarding the current COVID-19 vaccine. Scientists have an extremely high level of objective evidence that allows them to conclude it is safe for the general population. Of course, negative reactions are possible, but quite rare. As far as the issue of a "lack of time to study the effects", this is half-true and half-false. The COVID-19 vaccine is an mRNA vaccine, a type that has been used and studied in people for many years in response to diseases including HIV, ZIKA, rabies, etc. Yes, COVID-19 is a new use for this kind of vaccine. But the mechanism (aka how the vaccine works in the body) is the same. Also, respectfully, one cannot attempt to compare smoking cigarettes in the 1950s to taking a vaccine in 2021. It is difficult to describe how far science has advanced in the last 70 or so years. Not to mention the tobacco industry, intent on protecting its own economic interests, was behind the so-called "science" that promoted smoking as healthy choice. Medical professionals in the US had linked smoking to health problems as far back as the late 1700s. By the 1920s, medical doctors had definitively linked smoking to lung cancer. The tobacco lobby had the money and influence to squash the science for several more decades, but the truth eventually emerged. Your body is entirely made up of chemicals. Chemicals are introduced into your body every time you take a breath, drink a beverage, eat a bite of food, shampoo your hair, soap up your body in the shower, dab on some lipstick or makeup, put on a skin moisturizer, go for a swim, ride your bike, or take a walk in the sunshine. The vaccine introduces a protein to our body that stimulates our own natural defenses (aka our immune system) to recognize the interloper and build up an adequate defense against it. True, your immune system may be able to combat this virus on its own. Or, it may not. The vaccine simply gives our bodies a running head start against it. Finally, as we age, our ability to ward off infections and diseases eventually declines. It's simple medical fact. Diet and exercise more or less help to slow down the aging process on certain levels, but it cannot be avoided. In spite of all of our health and medical advancements, the "oldest" people alive are all dead by the eleventh or twelfth decade of life. We haven't moved that needle at all. Wishing you continued good health and a happy Sunday :-)

Science? I heard Dr Q on Tucker Carlson, that makes it fact.

Not worried. We read and hear so many stupid things. I figure our parents had us vaccinated years ago and one more won’t hurt.

I do like bdsm. I was more referring to dominant as having a boyfriend who wants to swing.

Are you vaccinated for measles, mumps and polio? Have you had any side effects?

No. COVID vaccines do not cause infertility. COVID vaccines do not cause impotence. COVID vaccines do not interfere with contraception (birth control). https://www.statnews.com/2021/03/25/infertility-myth-covid-19-vaccines-pregnancy/

There’s lots to worry about in this world, but this isn’t one of them. I suggest you check with your primary care providers, and perhaps also Honey’s Ob Gyn, if this is a factor that would prevent you from being vaccinated.

I have some clarification on how our contact happened. Contrary to what I thought was stalking she told me she has been too nervous to approach me for over two years, one of those was during lockdown. Her friends confided in her how they were looking to find a couple, and approached her and her husband. She said that her and her husband were not into anything like that. What happened was her friend telling her how they finally met us. She swears it was coincidence that she belonged to the same gym I belong to. I still don’t remember telling anyone I belong to the gym, possible? Maybe. Things changed after her friends met us. They kept telling her that the experience was what they needed. The way she explained it to me, her husband agreed to play with the couple we met. She backed out several times. She couldn’t go through with it, being friends was a bigger problem. She said the closest they got to playing was her husband encouraged her to play and he wouldn’t do anything unless she was comfortable. The night she was prepared to go all the way our friends husband got as far as putting his hand in her pants when she froze again. That is when my name came up. Better to try with strangers than friends. I explained we are more open to women who are curious and that our focus would be on that if we meet. She said she understood, she knew that is what we did with her friend. Is this the real story, it sounded feasible. She sounded sincere in wanting to get involved with any pressure and without a friendship that could be ruined.

Unfortunately, many seemingly healthy people have succumbed to COVID. The importance of vaccination cannot be overstated.

We are now both fully vaccinated, I feel more open to play and would prefer any partner to be vaccination. My wife has played more than I have, her partners live closer to us and my okay has been centered on my business travel which has been very limited this year. My wife’s play has been mainly with married men she finds on a site catering to married people. Over this crazy year she has found out Two men she had met died from COVID-19. Both were healthy as far as she knew.

Alas, the obscure references to "Be Seeing You", Number Six, Number One have dated us. In the middle of the 20th century, during height of the Cold War, there emerged a number of television series about spies and their lives. Among the best were two British series. The first was called "Secret Agent", and the second called "The Prisoner". Both starred the extraordinary Patrick McGoohan. You might know the former from its catchy theme song by Johnny Rivers, listen here The second series implied that McGoohan's character had tried to leave the spy biz and was interned at a camp for such people (hence the title "The Prisoner"). His name was indeed "taken away" and he was referred to only as Number Six, engaged in a game of wits with a series of Number Twos, and always asking the question "Who is Number One?" This was Brit TV at its best in that era. Be seeing you...

Then take off your clothes and present for inspection!

I'm looking for dominant partner into swinging. I see the other options are good for the current time.

I can get guys for fwb and one night stands. I'm in college. No one seems to be into swinging at my school.

A 21 year old can’t find a guy to party with? I suggest visiting any college campus and setting up a table at the Union building and taking applications. I don't know what you look like, I just feel there are millions of guys who would be willing unless you are into some craziness.

That's good advice. I feel very relaxed. I'm not a jealous person or insecure. I am patient and accepting too. How's ur current swinging situation?

Honey is getting crazy after we were with another partner who is a little younger than us. We were talking vaccines and she said vaccines can fuck you up if you want kids and also mess up your birthcontrol.