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Thank you. The woman from the gym and her husband are nice people. Some people need time to adjust to what they think they want to do. We never push and let others go at their own speed.

Fortunately this like many things in life is a matter of personal choice and preference. For both of us we prefer men and women look and feel like men and women. We both prefer our play mates to be nicely trimmed. We both prefer the softness to the 5 0clock shadow. that said it is a preference.....neither of us have said no based on this. I am sure there have been a few who have said no to us as we are not shaved....but in over twenty years I am sure it has been a small handful.......no real way to tell.....it isn’t stated to us for this reason.

We have met for dinner with another couple and really hit it off. All too often, it seems like too many couples are hesitant to talk about sex, but they weren't and were experienced so we were quickly talking about past experiences - both good and not so good. They were the first couple that conversation seemed to just naturally flow...like we knew them for years and were just catching back up. It seemed like we were all getting along GREAT and having a good time. We both stayed and talked for 2+ hours. In the end, we both told each other that we were looking forward to seeing each other again. Then -poof- . They vanished and blocked us online. Really strange as everything seemed to go great. This was the only time like this so we figured that maybe they just decided to stop or pause swinging for awhile. Their loss, but we still hope that if there was a problem, whatever it was, that everything worked out for them. If there wasn't a problem, and they just totally played us, we hope they rot in hell ????

Rejection by no shows or newbies backing out.

So I will play a little game by myself whenever I watch a threesome/moresome porn video. I prefer the videos that present real people/real couples. Then, while watching the sex scene occur, I like to guess which pairings are the real couple, and who is the "extra" person in the video. I judge by how the participants kiss each other, how they look while giving a blowjob or going down on each other, little playful verbal banter caught on film, type or amount of dirty talk, volume or quality of vocalized pleasure during the scene...so I guess the question is: Am I the only one who does stuff like this, and what else do you do while watching porn (aside from the obvious activity)?

I think the oddest is working with a couple we met in person with, really clicked, and the lady decided that Mrs. Swing was not bi enough

I wear bras to work, panties sometimes. While going out it's 50/50 on the bra. I love to have my pierced nipples on display. Summer is coming, I can't wait to break out the string tank tops

If you're not attracted, just say thanks but no thanks and walk away. You want your first time to be enjoyable, it won't be if you're not into it. Other guys will come by, I promise you.

I often wear very low cut shirts with and without a bra lots of cleavage showing. Hubby like to “show me off” and I love the attention. Recently we went to Florida and I must say felt good to prance around town with a bikini top, and very revealing clothes.

Shaved below is the norm for both sexes in the people we’ve met.

Spot on! Go have your fun and show her a good time.

We are and always will be our own worst critics.

(A man typing here, so you know what perspective I'm coming from) Linzy, I had quite a number of relationships before I met my wife. People come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. I've been with women who are very small chested and one woman who was very, very large chested, and everything in between. For most heterosexual males, breasts tend to be fascinating. But, a woman with small breasts is no less attractive to me than a woman with large breasts and vice versa. I care about the person. The body she lives in is considerably less important than who she is. I've known some very attractive women in my life who I would never in a million years consider dating because I know who they are. The reverse is true as well; I've known some women who aren't all that attractive, but whom I would happily jump into bed with because they are awesome people. The body they live in is not the most important thing. Now, when it comes to swinging; you boyfriend would be having sex with a woman whom he likely has based most of his decision to have sex with on her body, and less about her mind as he would do in a relationship such as yours. That doesn't mean he would find you less attractive. Keep in mind; he chose to be with you, your body and whatever faults you think you have included (more on that in a moment). If he chose to be with you and loves making love with you, it is highly unlikely that would change because he has sex with another woman. Now, about your supposed imperfections.... When I was in high school, I knew a young lady (I'll call her Jane here) who was just incredible. We were never friends, but we shared a music stand for a year and I got to know her pretty well. She was just amazing. Very intelligent, very talented, graceful, poised, articulate, and beautiful. I never once heard any guy in school say anything negative about her, and I heard many guys talk about how incredible she was to them. I think if I had asked every boy in school what they thought of her, 99% would have said she's the best. One day after school I had gotten out of a club meeting, and was headed down to my locker. I turned the corner onto the hallway leading to my locker and I could hear voices emanating from a classroom down the hall. One of them was very clearly Jane. Sitting next to her for a year, there was no way I would mistake her voice for someone else. She was talking with someone whom I couldn't identify. Jane was complaining about her the size of her breasts. I was shocked. Here was this epitome of perfection in the eyes of so many young men, this incredible young lady...finding fault with her breasts. The moral of the story; women are highly self critical of their own appearance. Our society places ENORMOUS pressure on women to look a certain way, dress a certain way, be a certain way. It's all bunk. Your boyfriend fell in love with you because of who you are, not what size label is on your bra. That isn't going to change because he has sex with a woman who has far larger breasts than your own. As to jealousy; it's a normal feeling, but one that you don't have to allow to drive you. One of the best ways to avoid jealousy is to be 100% openly communicative and intimate with your boyfriend (not talking physically here). Everyone here will tell you that great communication is pivotal for a relationship going into swinging. Even if you never swing, it's a great thing to have for relationships. So many relationships typically hold back, and don't communicate fully. I can tell my wife that something doesn't look good on her and I won't be in the dog house for it. I can tell my wife she's being crabby, or whatever typical thing guys get in the dog house for...so long as I am 100% honest with her and treat her with loving respect (which I always do). I can tell her I think a particular woman is very attractive. Likewise, she can tell me she would love to have sex with a certain guy she sees. All of this is because of absolute communication. With it, jealousy just isn't a factor.

Using other couples for your "therapy" rubs me the wrong way. Your "therapy" could very well end up being a ton of drama for some couple. Wouldn't it be better to sort that stuff out first and then try out the swinging lifestyle?

You're right about DJ's. The same applies to TJ's and TPA. When we lived in Pa, Mrs Doc always wore something reasonable sexy to each of those clubs. She'd also bring 1 or 2 much more revealing outfits depending on the theme of the night. She would often come out of the ladies room and tell me how much fun she and the other women had changing and adjusting clothing along with some touching and fondling. Once in a while when the ladies room was really crowded early, she'd use one of the private rooms. On rare occasions at TPA, she'd change in the glory hole room and come out in a new outfit and say, "honey, I've been VERY baaaaad"! The pic is from a white night at TPA about 12 years ago.