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Well... i met a guy last night after work and i got to say it was my first time squirting. My hubby is the best but i met this other medic/cop on a helicopter and he was...well he was gorgeous. Dark hair buff...mmm.... well we decided to go out on a date and well ya know how that goes. I wore a summer dress and he was in slacks and a polo... muscles were pounding through his shirt and well we went to his house and omg.... He was well...above average and i will say that in my life ive never squirted but i did with him. i just couldnt help myself. i felt so bad though because his side of the bed was soaking. I literally dont know what happened but i squirted hard on him and well he had to lay in it. Idk why but its embarassing to me but i guess it shouldnt be ???

I have always felt that swinging together makes it a shared experience that is good for the marriage while swinging alone can easily lead to romantic relationships that can destroy the marriage. When you and your wife have an MFM the guest guy knows (or should know) that he is there for the entertainment of your wife and you, and that is all. When he is with your wife alone that is like a date and his natural role is to romance her in addition to pleasing her sexually.

I can't speak to whether playing alone first is common or not. Though, I doubt it is. For my wife and I, we played together for some time before solo dates began happening. I think that what underpins this is the strength of your relationship. If you're 100% open with each other, have a deeply close love for each other and are very much interested in the happiness of each other, this could work well. That said, even though I have that in spades with my wife, the first time she went on a solo date I was a jittery mess. I was absolutely nervous as hell the entire evening. Most people note that swinging is a shared experience. Some couples refuse to do solo dates for this very reason. But, solo dates can work. For us, the "reclaiming sex" when she comes home is rather intense, as we make love while she tells me what she did with the other man. I would suggest that if your wife isn't willing to be completely open with her experiences having sex with another man (and you can discuss this beforehand), then the two of you might not be ready for it yet. I know some people would find it very hard to accept their spouse having sex with someone else, have their spouse come home, and then be left in the dark about what happened. I wouldn't accept it. Swinging IS a shared experience, and if I can't relish in the telling the events of her evening I would feel distinctly left out. That way leads to damage to the relationship. Either you're open, or you're not. If you're not, swinging is a recipe for disaster. Nowadays, my wife going on a solo date is not unusual. She has had a couple of regular boyfriends over the years, and going out with them was hardly unusual. She'd always share with me where she was going to be, and share the details when she got home. It works well for us. Part of it is that through these years we've had a couple of kids at home (they're almost at the point of leaving now), and the reality is that getting time for both of us to get away has often been difficult to do. My wife also enjoys playing solo for the same reason your wife seems to have; it is a different experience to be able to focus solely on the guy than to have some of her focus diverted to me.

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Just another way of your body letting you know that it’s enjoying itself. Sheets can be washed, experiences like that should not be looked down on because your body had a release. If he’s like me, he took it as a compliment, then did a load of laundry. Kudos to you for having a great experience.

Let me chime in. Sex with someone else was brought up by my wife, sex with our friends. We never discussed her going alone, I still think she may have before I agreed to do it. She says she never did. Watching my wife sucking our friend was both horrifying and exciting. For me, it was a very difficult act to watch and when my wife’s girlfriend, someone we have been close with for years did to me the same as my wife was doing to her husband, I didn’t know how to react. I wanted to enjoy a bj, yet I kept looking over to my wife. When the sex got hotter I kept wondering if she was noisier with him, I don’t think she noticed her friend was on top of me. I don’t want to use the word letting or allowing her to enjoy alone with them, I have become comfortable with the knowledge that she can have sex without me present. I don’t know if her experiences are much different with me there or not. When I am alone now with our friend my anxiety level is much lower and the enjoyment is changed. Over the years my whole outlook to sex with others has loosened up and I can say I am no longer horrified to watch and to the contrary it’s quite normal to watch her enjoy. If you can come to grips that your wife wants to enjoy another man first, she should me able to let you enjoy another woman alone. As time goes on if your relationship is solid you will experience the lifestyle together. Good Luck

Sorry about this but a VERY old joke from when I was just a kid. What's worse than a woman with tissue paper titties? A girl with a cardboard box

We've both been vaccinated. I'm not absolutely sure that if we met someone who really turned us on that we'd require that they be vaccinated - after all, it's their health that would be compromised, not ours. But we'd appreciate them a bit better if they were; it would show they're taking their health and ours a little more seriously.