For us, it's when I asked my wife what would you do for a million dollars. "Would you lick a dollar bill, eat rotten eggs type questions." All with "that's so gross, but I guess I would" type answers. Then I said, "Would you have sex with a stranger?" Without hesitation and with conviction she said "Yes, no question." She said it's because she has a finance degree, it would be purely for monitary gain. I jokingly said sure, "all except for another guy's cock being inside you."
In context, we each had only one sex partner before getting married. So for my Christian brain, the ease of her answering that question, rocked me like I never imagined. After much silence, I blirted out "I can't believe how much that turns me on!" She said, "excuse me, are you serious?" I explained that I didn't understand it, but other events/feelings I had over the years started to make sense.
When she answered in such a matter of fact way, I felt this rush of electric excitement and jealousy start in my face and wash over me. Then all these memories came to mind...
*We were 19 at a bar when we had gotten in an argument so she went to a few guys at the bar and started to talk and laugh to make me jealous. I felt the same wave of electricity. I was so confused, I wasn't even angry.
*At 21, just after getting engaged we said if we get married we have to tell all our secrets. Hers was, when we just started dating, she had sex with her ex the day before fucking me. Again, same feelings. Well actually stronger because she actually did something.
*This one really triggered me. In our late 20's, I bought a huge dildo. Like Shane Desil big. With toys, my wife says, "I don't want to see them, just get me really worked up and then use them on me," (Anyone want to unpack that psychology for me, please do.)
So she took all 9" with it's almost Coke can girth with ease. Her body moved in ways I'd never seen. After a violent orgasm, she said she wanted to feel me. Her pussy felt so different, amazing, and the rush, then the animalistic surge we had for each other... So intense, like never before.
*We were in a booth flirting with each other and I dared her to go flirt with a guy at the bar. She said, "Do you really want me to? I will." She got up to go talk to the guy. Again, that flood of electricity went through me. My wife got half way to the guy, but she saw our drinks were served so she came back to the table.
So yes, that "Million dollar question" seems to have put us on a path of better communication, better understanding. Needless to say, we may have some adventures ahead.
So how did you guys start? How did you take your next step. How did you reconcile your traditions, religion, feelings of jealousy, fear, melded with lust and excitement.
I'm sure I'm reinventing the wheel by asking these questions and some folks have already helpedin their responses to my other posts. Thank you for sharing your experiences and kindly reading mine. I've learned so much from you guys already.