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As others have written on other posts like this, Did you join this forum just to make this your first post? You had to search for a post from 2006. The OP has been waiting 15 years for your invitation

You'd be crazy if you didn't at least feel a little guarded at this point. We're going to ease back into this with extreme caution. You know the old saying: only fools rush in.

I feel a little PTSD about getting back on the horse. After 14 months of wear a mask, don’t go indoors with people who are not in your bubble, stay six feet away, intimacy with others seems difficult. Our husband is vaccinated, wife has second shot next week. We still feel hesitant about hanging out with others, even without swinging. After all our precautions, we don’t want to “blow” it. Are we the only ones who are hesitant? A close swinging partner was hospitalized for covid for three weeks. His wife thought he was going to die. He lived, but went through a lot. Sixtyish and in great physical condition before covid. We are a little stunned.

After our vaccinations cleared, we were contacted by one of my wife's previous lovers; he was also vaccinated. We both wanted to get back to it, decided that, all right, lets do it. There was a five day lag between when we told the man to stop over and the date, it was spent in a bit of debate. Both of us had second thoughts, we put them back into our pockets. When he entered the house, you could just feel the reluctance to even shake hands, it was a good half hour before everyone was mentally prepared for the escapade. But after the first kiss between them, all hesitation melted away. We still wear our masks when we go to the grocery store and such, and we're not actively looking for more partners; at this point we won't go to our swing club although it's open. But with other vaccinated people we would certainly be in small groups, threesomes, foursomes even sixsomes probably.

The couple has to know how fortunate they are to have you as their first experience. Before our first successful meeting we were being fooled by internet vultures and scammers. During the pandemic people are preying on others just looking to get out and try new things. The big testament to you being thoughtful was her friends suggested her approaching you instead of pushing to play with them first. I wonder if one of our friends approached us how I might jump right into it. I laugh because I know which of our friends I would love to think would do this. Making a sexual experience more than a sex event is magical. I only prayed that our first time wouldn’t be with a hardcore sex driven orgy type people. Being undressed in front of anyone can be painful especially in front of a beautiful couple, making it fun by someone skilled in reading peoples feeling is such a talent. As mentioned before, you and Alan are indeed wonderful mentors and guides. Even your dialogue of your experience makes me look forward to your next post.

Thank you. It is strange feeling when we meet a new couple, my first question is are they who they say they are, we have met with too eager couples. We both enjoy the swinging experiences unless the people are totally obnoxious but that can be a defense mechanism. You understand that our objective is sex, sex with a newbie. Our initial contacts in the LS was Alan wanting to watch two women and progressed to much more. That first experience had us shaking our head when the guy treated his partner and me very poorly. Instead of souring us we turned our thoughts to trying to make others have positive takeaways. I think we agree if this couple wasn’t sincere on top of being extremely nice, fun, and personable we would have quit by now. I am sure all couples have discussions afterwards, we do. Sitting in a room completely nude you get to see exactly who you are with, emotionally and physically. We find them very attractive, Alan said he was looking forward to completing the acts, he is a guy. Our time was not totally without sex, both husbands were pleased and we suggested that if she didn’t want to continue we can resume at another time if they wanted. She suggested that her husband could go further, it didn’t happen. I believe it will soon.

You are wonderful mentors and guides. The LS would be a happier place if every mentor-newby relationship looked like this. Blessings to all of you.

What I call an interview was fun for me, looking back possibly uncomfortable for her. She came across as educated, health conscious and I would consider attractive making our chat enjoyable. We talked about women talk, and how she is handling changes. Her reason for wanting to enjoy others was much different than ours. We were looking for a woman, I wasn’t interested in adding a man to the equation, it just happened to find that unicorn we ended with a couple. I told her my fear was my husband watching me with a man. She said her husband is fine with that and she is looking forward to the complete experience.

Back up for me as well. But it seems slow and glitchy. And the profile pic won't load.

Back up for me now

AGAIN I SEE "SLS was taken offline for security measures in order to protect our clients.We apologize for the outage, your privacy is very important to us.Sections of the website are still being restored please bear with us."

As of 11:08 it's back up with a notice that it was taken off line for security measures.

An inauspicious beginning.

We're moving slow, too. With all the differing opinions regarding vaccines, and personal decisions, we're opting to the side of caution. We are scheduled for the Nov Bliss cruise, and we'll see how that goes, if it goes.

Same ...

Much like fish oil, people make a bunch of claims about lecithin, some of which are supported by research and some aren't. The active nutritional component is choline, and there's at least one documented case of a patient with Alzheimer's who was getting a megadose of choline for an unrelated condition and had to be taken off it because he began "displaying inappropriate behavior" toward nurses, including "improved erectile function". IMO, it contributes to a thicker consistency, which some people probably interpret as "more". You can get a pound of sunflower lecithin powder from the NOW Foods brand for ten bucks, or just eat more eggs. I like eggs but get sick of them easily.

Ewww. I thought the post was about swinging with my doctor.

Before my wife and I had our first experience, we talked about the possibility of having neutral or even bad experiences in swinging. We both agreed that we shouldn't judge it based on one experience, or even a few that were neutral or bad before we found good. We decided to play it by ear and see where we were after two or three experiences. Good thing too. It wasn't until the third experience (a MFM); that one blew my wife's socks off, and she was hooked.

cplnluv1, I agree with Fundamental Law. It sounds like you are really going about this in the right way. I wish I could be a fly on the wall in that couple's discussion afterwards :) Some very few couples can just jump in to the deep end of the swinging pool right off. Some take many years. Most are in between. This couple sounds like they are going about it the right way, taking their time, going slowly, not pushing too far past their comfort zones. I'm sure their discussions are going well (regardless of outcome).

They are sincere and very nervous, he is more willing but is respectful of her wants. They invited us to their house which is fine for us and I sensed the nervousness immediately. We let her bring up the first mention of sex, she asked general questions about other couples we met. We stayed away from talking about her friend who we were with. She asked how to start, do we just get naked and I suggested she undress Alan then me and we can take it from there. She said to let her husband undress me. We tried to make it fun, again she was very nervous. She undressed Alan leaving his underwear on, her husband undressed me completely and hesitantly touched me. I said it was our turn and she agreed but asked to leave her panties on. She questioned what next, I jokingly answered watch TV. We continued to some soft play, not total play. It was me who suggested we stop, it was already to much for her to absorb. I know she was relieved that we didn’t push going all the way.

Tossing a few cents into the bucket... It seems like you are going down this road with this couple now, so this is perhaps post-facto. I don't think there's any risk in proceeding with this couple in the sense of more people knowing about your swinging life. They already know. Playing with them isn't going to change that of course. I wouldn't suspect some sort of stalking going on in regards to her being at the gym at the same time. It's just coincidence, and more likely to happen than people suspect. Your lives in terms of general schedules are probably vaguely similar, with free time slots being vaguely similar. Thus, showing up at the gym is more likely than we might otherwise suspect. Based on what you've told us, she seems sincere. Nervous, but sincere.

Men are visual and women are visual. My husband loves me and still will make remarks about big breasts, Wow!, Holy Shit!, I can get lost in those. Then he says how he loves my size Let me give you a comparable from my side, my husband is of average size, do I make a remark about men who are bigger? Wow! Holy Shit! And yes I have been with larger men, not something I want on a regular basis, I’m more than happy to be with what my husband has.

You are a great couple and will make them feel welcome and safe. Linda you are a terrific person.

We were all new once. Introspection is hard. Acknowledging fantasies, professing intentions, setting boundaries, those are hard as well. Monogamy insulates and contains, what is inside becomes familiar and safe. Once that insulation becomes porous, weakens, and cracks, those inside are no longer contained...but neither do they enjoy the comforting protection. Your conversation required courage...for both of you.

We sure hope so ?