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My wife and I have a very firm rule -- "any mistake innocently made is immediately forgiven". You got caught in the moment. Thats 100% natural and understandable.

That's what we have found too. We don't have any opposition in general, and we have played on the first date, but we discovered there is a strong correlation between how comfortable we feel with each other vs. how good the experience is. That doesn't mean there has to be six dates before the naked fun starts, but the "I don't even know your name" experiences just haven't worked out as well. We want to have fun with them, and just as importantly, we them to have fun with us, and for us anyways, that's more likely when there has been a little syncing up time involved.

I voted "I don't know/Other" The idea does have some level of appeal as a fantasy, but I will suspect will always remain just that, a fantasy. I'm not worried about the possible same sex contact part of it. I fall short of "No Way!!" on wanting to know exactly who is touching me, but... I do want to know something about the other people in the room, although maybe short of "exactly who". So say at a small to medium size party, and you had at least a general good feel about everyone there and the overall vibe, then maybe. Any hesitations about anyone or anything though, then no.

We have a rule as well that says: Once is a mistake, twice is an 'on purpose'...because you didn't learn anything from the first mistake and made no changes to prevent it from happening again. We will add your rule to ours (it was implied, but now will become part of the rule), but we still believe that when you make a mistake, you need to try and prevent the same thing from happening again.

A vist to a swingers club will take care of her weight fears. It's not just the 'beautiful people' who are there...it looks pretty much just like the people you would see at the market. All shapes, sizes and colors and they all can find people interested in them. However, this has also motivated others to improve themselves as well (worked for both of us). Also, now that you have taken the first step, the next step is to set your limits and boundaries, whatever they may be. Keep in mind that these will be a fluid, ever changing thing, however, never exceed them once set and the only time they can be modified is outside of a sexual situation and only if both of you agrees on the new settings.

1. Amen to the "kitchen table" conversation. 2. Age, size, body parts, skin tone...what matter is how the other person makes you feel and vice versa. It turns out that the key organ is the one between the ears.

A question occurred to me after I posted the above. Is your previous third still an active FWB with your wife?

To each their own, but this is another reason gangbangs don't appeal to me. First, I don't fantasize about stranger sex; I want the guys to ejaculate inside me bareback; I want more than two or three minutes (exceptions for those morning quickies). So two guys who can go half to three-quarters hour each and leave their sperm in my vagina is great. In a theoretical sense, however, I can see the appeal of satisfying more guys and having what they leave behind.

I want to share my "why" first. At a younger age, I didn't know if I bisexual or gay? I met a sex therapist and he suggested to go meet men and let my passions decide. I enjoyed, sex with women but I didn't have a desire to give oral to a woman. From my first date, emotional, romantic and sexual attractions to males soared. Since then I have enjoyed many emotional gay relationships with males with the sex being the best, with a deeper committed feeling with males. How would I rate myself? I would say I'm a bit fluid, between 10-90: Mostly homosexual to meet a bisexual couple. With most of the time being: 0-100: Completely homosexual. My favorite scenes with a couple are the wife watching her husband and me in a sex show while she cheers us on and captures our hot action of him in me in 69 while she jacks our hard cock, flooding each other's mouth with our hot cum or she licks my shaved balls as I fuck her husband, cumming in his ass. And if she likes to join in with her strap-on!

We find a certain allure to it. It's very exciting but we've never done "just anybody". We do have to take time and talk with them first and see if there's a vibe and go from there. Plus its nice to at least have a first name.