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2 pointsKeep in mind that "playing separate" can range from a separate bed or room with people you both know and trust to a solo date with a brand new partner that in the extreme one of you has never met. So when a couple says they enjoy "separate play" it's best to ask what exactly that means to them...
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2 pointsI think these are all good points. If playing separately had been a criteria, we probably would have never started, but that is just us. As we acquired a little more emotional experience with this, we had some events in which we realized playing separately might come up, and had some long discussions about rules for that: what needed to be discussed first, what should not happen after, and what we needed to discuss after. Being in the dark with each other is a non-starter. If we weren't fully excited to talk about it, we shouldn't be doing it. Strong and open communication is vital no matter how you structure it, and understanding why she'd feel distracted with you present is perhaps a good starting point: not because it's a bad idea, but perhaps if there's some mistrust or doubt you need to talk through before you do whatever it is you're going to do. In practice, we've only applied our "solo hard play" rules once each, her for an FMF and me for an attached woman who wanted a bull. We followed our rules rigidly and, frankly, she went above and beyond to communicate before, during, and after. Jittery, yes, but it made for a lot of trust and good memories.
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2 pointsDo you mean drinking Clorox doesn’t work? How about sticking a UV light into you? I looked this up, in fact people didn’t originally rush to get vaccinated, less than 1% rushed, then Elvis Presley went on TV, got vaccinated on Ed Sullivan’s show, and vaccination rates went up to 80%. No TikToc, no Facebook, no Twitter, and no picture on Instagram. Elvis was an influencer.
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2 pointsNot to be a nag, but I am surprised that people in the medical field choose to be unvaccinated. They have seen fatal and near fatal covid cases. They are exposed to a lot of people who may be sick and/or unvaccinated. Protect yourself! When I was young, they offered a polio vaccine. Everyone ran to have their children get it. Polio, a dreaded illness in this country, has been largely defeated. I don’t remember anyone concerned about their rights, freedom, decision making process, etc. back then. We were thrilled to end a dreaded disease. If this country had to band together and fight World War II in today’s atmosphere, we would lose miserably. No community effort. Everyone’s freedom prevails over everything else.
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2 pointsHey sorry guys just now getting a chance to see all these replies and i am not always online to check. First things first i do beliveve in science and i am not taking away from what has been said or the progress that has been made. We are not anti vaccinations and we have no objections to taking vaccines when we feel comfortable to do so. People decide to make decisions based on their own understanding and knowledge of things. We have made a choice to not decide to get vaccines as of yet and thats ok. Just like people decide not to swing and thats ok. Does our decisions affect others? Of course it has that potential but we are also open about our decisions. What is concerning is that we haven't told couple in the past that we both decided to not get the flu vaccine and let that alter our life when the flu has killed several thousands each year. We have became so mentally focused on this pandemic that we judge others based on decisions they may or may not make. I guarentee that each of your passing judgement have either not gotten or have slept with someone that has not gotten common and proven safe vaccines in the past and not even thought twice about it. We dont force others to make decisions regarding vaccines because it isnt our right to do so and this is one of those rights. If someone makes a concious decision to meet us knowing what they know then thats a decision they chose to make.
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2 pointsMy wife has an exhibitionist streak, but we limit it to where we are, do not publish on the internet. We are senior swingers, but my wife is in the top 1% of people her age for body fitness. Once she strutted naked through a living room full of dressed people at a house party and another woman her age said to my wife “I want to kill you.”
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2 pointsI don't have to show off my GF because she shows herself off plenty. Amateur night at strip clubs, sex in public, and countless guys who have taken videos and pictures of her while fucking her. Most people would be horrified of videos like those being circulated around but it turns her on.
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2 pointsRecently in a party of 5 couples (including us) that night I played (oral/penetration) with 5 guys including my husband, and I also, played with the girls.
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2 pointswe are showoffs so like to be naked and also post naked pics but our one rule for posting pics is to either crop out or blur faces of explicit pics. you can't control ppl finding ways to steal and distribute your profile photos, but you do have some control over how incriminating your photos are.
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1 pointHey guys and gals, my wife and I been married 12 years and have a awesome marriage. We’ve showed her naked online and so forth. She likes it and all but it’s almost like she is nervous to let me see that side of her? Why~? We have done All kinds of stuff. She is 49 and I’m 35. She likes the attention. What does your wife think of showing them to strange men?
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1 pointI have always been curious about sex with people of different ethnicities, it has just never happened. People are people and sex is sex but backgrounds of personalities involved has been a huge factor in who we pair with. We have to click with them even though the fantasy is always there of the unknown. I still cannot imagine either one of us having sex outside the same room from one another (not even across the room) much less separate anywhere. I want to be there to share in all my husband's experiences and the same goes for him. Videos are nice, audio okay, verbal stories as well, but nothing takes the place of begin there right next to him while it is all happening. We have some of our best kissing together while one of us (or both) are getting the dickens fucked out of us. Back to fantasy - I do have crazy unrealistic super wild and unsafe fantasies that will never happen despite my desires for them but even in those I am there with my husband somehow. Ex - a gang of men come in tying us up and gang fuck us over filling us in every hole with so much cum while the other has to watch, all shapes, sizes, color of men and so forth only to dump us off naked in the middle of town leaking all over. Yes - told you it was crazy. I get crazy stories you want to hear from your spouse but I still feel the real deal being present is WAY better!!!
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1 pointI love to swallow cum, it is so naughty and I love for my husband to as well. I love to feel his throat as he does. We both also love kissing afterwards and with mouthfuls. I love the smell and taste of cock and cum on my man as he does on me. We both now also love getting filled with cum (anywhere). This is one of the reasons years ago I wanted to go bisexual with other bi couples, one needs more penises to do it all. Darn guys they have such cool creamy real filled tools.
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1 pointSo HOT!!! We totally get your perspective. My husband is completely turned off by guys kissing guys and has absolutely no interested in doing another guy anally in any form or fashion. I am the same with regards to guys kissing but the whole sucking and fucking anally - It totally gets me off!!! As for my husband doing another guy anally, I get it, he has me for all the anal he could ever want. He seldom even does the other ladies in our group anally. I am once again, TOTALLY into the whole handling and sucking the Big Cock as well as watching the guys do it, especially feeding it to them. AND stuffing or trying to cram the Big ones into their super tight little backsides. So to each, his or her own.
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1 pointI agree 100%
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1 pointDon't kill the messenger: Please watch "The Social Dilemma" on Netflix. It explains that the information you are getting is only information that backs up the viewpoint that you already have...not necessarily the truth. This is what has caused (IMHO) the HUGE rift between people the last year or so (not just about Covid, but everything in general). If you only get data that supports your belief, then you end up thinking anyone who opposes your thinking is a nut job. Not picking sides here, just trying to enlighten other people as to why you end up thinking that anyone who doesn't agree with you is totally crazy when the 'facts' point out only one result (and the facts you are being given only reinforce your already given point of view). Half the world isn't crazy, but very few are being given ALL of the facts needed to make an informed decision. On the internet: If they aren't trying to sell you something, it's because YOU are the product they are selling (aka: your data). We now return your thread to your normal topic
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1 pointI hate that when it happens. Trying to do your job and all it takes is one person who is unprofessional...let me know if next time you need an assistant. I'll sacrifice myself to keep the women away from you so you can do your job.
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1 pointI used to believe all that "patriotic duty" stuff too. Then, I started noticing the number of times our gov't has misled, and outright lied to us. So, some skepticism about whatever our collective leadership tells us in certainly in order. Particularly when they pull the "it's your patriotic duty" card... It's their body - it's their choice.
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1 pointShortly before the pandemic I photographed Ian orgy for ASN. It was a fun assignment, but the event was pretty much completely orchestrated. The the most difficult aspect was that at one point one of the women started sucking my cock, which was enjoyable but distracting.
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1 pointCouldn’t tell you when the last time was for us! Don’t mark it on the calendar, but I would guess it was probably be around 6 months before the shit hit the fan with Corona. We were never hardcore swingers in the first place. Just something we do when the right situation pops up and we don’t settle for just anything. We would both be just fine only fucking each other for the rest of our lives if we never got the chance to swing again, because we still enjoy each other more then anything. As for when we will again if that right situation does come along that is looking like it will be a while yet. We have both only had our first vaccine so far and will not be playing with others until we are both fully vaccinated. We will also only ever play again with others who have been fully vaccinated in the future. This will narrow down our options even more, because there are many people here that are in the conspiracy it’s not real camp, but that is their choice just like it is our choice not to want to be around them.
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1 pointI have always felt that swinging together makes it a shared experience that is good for the marriage while swinging alone can easily lead to romantic relationships that can destroy the marriage. When you and your wife have an MFM the guest guy knows (or should know) that he is there for the entertainment of your wife and you, and that is all. When he is with your wife alone that is like a date and his natural role is to romance her in addition to pleasing her sexually.
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1 pointI can't speak to whether playing alone first is common or not. Though, I doubt it is. For my wife and I, we played together for some time before solo dates began happening. I think that what underpins this is the strength of your relationship. If you're 100% open with each other, have a deeply close love for each other and are very much interested in the happiness of each other, this could work well. That said, even though I have that in spades with my wife, the first time she went on a solo date I was a jittery mess. I was absolutely nervous as hell the entire evening. Most people note that swinging is a shared experience. Some couples refuse to do solo dates for this very reason. But, solo dates can work. For us, the "reclaiming sex" when she comes home is rather intense, as we make love while she tells me what she did with the other man. I would suggest that if your wife isn't willing to be completely open with her experiences having sex with another man (and you can discuss this beforehand), then the two of you might not be ready for it yet. I know some people would find it very hard to accept their spouse having sex with someone else, have their spouse come home, and then be left in the dark about what happened. I wouldn't accept it. Swinging IS a shared experience, and if I can't relish in the telling the events of her evening I would feel distinctly left out. That way leads to damage to the relationship. Either you're open, or you're not. If you're not, swinging is a recipe for disaster. Nowadays, my wife going on a solo date is not unusual. She has had a couple of regular boyfriends over the years, and going out with them was hardly unusual. She'd always share with me where she was going to be, and share the details when she got home. It works well for us. Part of it is that through these years we've had a couple of kids at home (they're almost at the point of leaving now), and the reality is that getting time for both of us to get away has often been difficult to do. My wife also enjoys playing solo for the same reason your wife seems to have; it is a different experience to be able to focus solely on the guy than to have some of her focus diverted to me.
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1 pointNoAngels, That is a dynamic I had not considered. It's seems the evolution of a couples journey and how people feel as they progress varies widely. For me it seems like seeing the Grand Canynon for the first time. People have all these amazing descriptions of its beauty, but until you see it for yourself in person, you can't understand what that beauty will mean for you or how you will respond.
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1 pointThis is the wife of a bi man who told me early on in our relationship that he wanted another man's dick orally but, was will to go all the way. He didn't know what my reaction would be. Consequencely my reply after some thought was, the subconscious mind and one's fantasiese are cosely related and meant to be explored. This was an open door invitation to our first experience. We immediately signed up for SLS and planned to meet a single bi-courious man at his apartment for some afternoon delight. He was a nice looking man, very gracious and made us feel right at home. We started by take off our clothes and laid naked on the bed with all six hand's exploring each other. I saw my husband going down on his hard dick and I got on the other side. We sucked him to completion. It was a rememberable first time and now we've graduated to an ongoing relationship with another couple. They're both bi. I think bi guys are hot.
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1 pointAmen to THAT! and more... The and more... has become quite the addiction for me - who knew - WOW!!!!!
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1 pointOkay, I'm taking this one off topic . . . My wife has never had a gangbang, if you mean that we set it up for a bunch of guys to concentrate solely on her. She's never been interested. But . . . One night we were at a fairly large house party. After the two of us had played with another couple, a single guy (a rookie) and she decided to play and since the newbie was also interested in exhibition, Mary let him lead her to the common room. He was joyfully having his way with her when she was joined by a guy that we knew well, that takes it to three for the night. I was then surprised when she crooked her finger at yet another, and another . . . After a couple of hours, at least ten guys had been with my wife, I wouldn't be surprised if it was more than a dozen. Now, does this count as an 'official gangbang'? We go back and forth on it.
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1 pointPatrick, I think you're saying that at different times we find we like different things. I totally agree with you.
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1 pointYes I enjoy swallowing when we know out extra guy well and BF loves me to also. It does make for a nice fun experience that we both love. Also we enjoy talking after about whit it did, and look forward to doing it again :)
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1 pointThe approach of letting your wife decide on how to start would certainly send the right message to your wife that she is in control and you will make it fulfilling for her. It's all about her comfort, so ask her (without trying to tip the scales) what experience she finds most comfortable. It may be a same room or separate room couples swap, an MFM with you participating or maybe just being there, or maybe even an FFM if she has some Lesbian desires. You need to not only let her decide which arrangement she prefers, but also choose the person/people involved. Hubby let me be non-monogamous on my terms with no expectation of reciprocity. I appreciated it tremendously, but it took me two years before I wanted him to play. He was/is a very wise man - it work out well, including for him. ?
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1 pointI'm not actually sure I "want" to see men give my wife a facial - she's hot a fuck and talented as hell, she decides how the episode is going to end. I trust her judgment implicitly and she trusts mine. And we're always together, no separate room stuff for us, this is a experience we take as a couple It's never set-out as a goal but sure, in the heat of passion, she has definitely done facials. I sometimes have mixed feelings but maybe that adds to it because in the end, the show is super HOT. She has even taken multiples on a few occasions - mine and another at the same time -- and at least once, she did a double facial cumshot and neither cock was mine. But of course, as that was happening, I was simultaneously cumming on 2 pretty faces. God, group sex is so awesome.
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What Is a Gangbang? A gangbang is a sexual scenario where one person has sex with many (four or more) people of the opposite sex at the same time. Women are most often the center of a gangbang while enjoying the attention of multiple men. A gangbang can have as many participants as you desire. A gangbang can also occur where one man has sex with many women at the same time. This referred to as a reverse gangbang. How Do Gangbangs Work? Since there are only so many ways that a single woman can please other people, the number of participants at one time may be limited. If there are more men than available than the woman can accommodate at one time, she may want to invite a 'fluffer.' A fluffer's job is to keep any men who are not actively participating in the gangbang at that moment hard or to get them hard. For extremely large gangbangs, you may need multiple fluffers. How Do You Find Participants? Unless you already know a large number of people who are interested in joining your gangbang, you may find it challenging to arrange enough men. If you've had several MFM encounters, you may have built up a pool of men to draw from for this activity. Ask those guys first and see how many positively respond before you branch out into unknown territory. Keep in mind that even men who are comfortable with threesomes may find they aren't comfortable in a gangbang scenario. When drawing from a pool of unknown men, you will find that half (or less) of the men you invite actually show up. Unfortunately, many men who not experienced in gangbangs (or swinging of any kind) find the idea appealing, but when faced with reality, not so much. The best way to find participants is to search for a local gangbang group. You can often find these on internet groups or by talking to other swinger friends in your area who might know a group. If seeking men on your own, stick to single men on swinger lifestyle websites that have certifications showing that they are experienced swingers. While they may not have experience in gangbangs, at least they've had sex with other people in the room. What Should I Expect? In my opinion, there are two types of gangbangs. The first is a gangbang where the girl is the center of attention and getting attention from more than one guy at a time (and giving attention to more than one guy at a time). If you are the guy in this type of gangbang, understand up front that you will not be getting the undivided attention of a woman. Your job is to give her your full attention! While you won't get her full attention, you hopefully will get enough of her attention to ensure that you have a great evening. The second type of gangbang is a "train." This is what most people envision when they think of a gangbang. A train is basically a line of guys waiting, cock in hand, to have sex with a girl as she lies back and takes them on. In this situation the guy is more likely to get the female's full attention when it is his turn. When planning a gangbang, consider which type you'd prefer and be sure to make your participants aware of what you expect. Where Should We Have It? The best place to have a gangbang is anywhere that you are comfortable. However, I would not advise inviting a bunch of guys you don't know over to your house. A hotel is probably the best choice. Make sure you get a room that is big enough to accommodate the number of people you hope to have show up. You may want to get a suite with an adjoining sitting area, to have room to spread out. Don't forget the necessary supplies like lube and condoms. Make sure to have plenty of your preferred condom on hand, as well as your favorite lube. You're likely to get a little dry after a couple of hours. When planning your first gangbang, go into it with an open attitude and the understanding that it may not turn out as you hope or plan. Invite at least twice as many men as you'd like to have show up, and know that you'll have a good time with whoever shows up, even if it's just one guy. -
1 pointNappy, please learn to read the thread topic before posting. The question asks about first bi experiences. You are straight, you have nothing to add. Your reputation is in the red by your own doing.
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1 pointI'm a bi guy, play with other couples with straight men all the time. Not a big deal. I have had my ass grabbed expectantly by a man I thought was straight. However, I have never grabbed or touched another guy when he told me he was straight. Hope that helps!! Good Luck and have fun!
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1 pointI don't have a partner right now, but I think bi men ARE hot. I've never seen two men together except in movies and photos but that's been enough to get me wet. I'd love to see it in person, maybe participate. Because I'm the "elusive bi fem" (unpartnered), I think it would be a while before that happened. I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable with two guys I didn't know or didn't know very well.
