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I often write about our first swap with a couple and my night alone with him. The next day I had a very uncomfortable bi experience, something I never wanted to do. I never had any sexual attraction to women and certainly had never planned to explore. As it was our first swing I just went along not wanting to ruin my experience from the night before. Over the years since that first time I have had contact with bi sex in very small doses. Normally it was done as part of another playtime thing. I became less afraid of being with a woman, still not giving totally to being bi. Our friend who we met on vacation years ago, our first and primary play partner was coming to NYC on business and said she was going to have free time and wanted to meet in the city for a Girl’s Day. She was on business and finished early and the weather was perfect. I agreed to meeting, we had become very good friends and I never spent time with her without our husbands. She booked a Mani/Pedi and massages for both of us. Her treat. Lunch outdoors in great restaurant, walking and talking. I always wondered if we were their first, I told her they were too relaxed that first time, she swore we were, they had agreed before the cruise that they would approach a couple. I told her how often I think about that night and how romantic her husband was. She told me they have played with others and she always thinks about her first also. A beautiful day, we had drinks at a rooftop bar and talked and talked. She mentioned that her hotel was great and invited me to stay the night. She read my body language as not being onboard, and said we would be alone, no putting on a show for the men. Give it a try, I could always leave. After big hesitant minutes, I gave into lust. My friend is a beautiful person, as romantic as her husband. With my inhibitions taken away, we made love for hours. Made love to a woman for our own benefit not for men watching us. I still don’t think I am bisexual, it was a magical day.

I believed Clorox works, it was on the right wing and left wing news stations, and that great scientist, the one who knows more than schooled scientists said it as working. He even had a scientist there who could have said it wouldn’t work if in truth it didn’t work. Additionally Tucker Carlson a Real journalist backed up the theory I think. Wait! Real journalist? You mean he’s only an entertainer, a comedian?

Together. If I want to have sex alone with someone, I'd just have sex with Harriet. The only thing about involving others is the ability to do things that can't be done with two people. I couldn't care less about having the opportunity to just fuck someone else. I care about the opportunity to do something different.

------------------------------------------------------------------------- You have no ide how true and how funny this is. You've given me just one more example of a point I've made to guys for years that's fallen on deaf ears. They may have difficulty believing how stupid guys on dating sites are, but they have not in the least misjudged them, nor is anything likely to result in guys wising up. When I was on a dating site years ago before meeting Harriet, I was extremely aware of the impression I would make by what I wrote, how well I expressed myself and how negatively affected I would be for a single misspelled word or grammatical error, so I was anal retentive about not only writing, rewriting and editing for flow, but writing something that was interesting enough to read, although it was more like a narrative than a list of "I am," I do," "I want," shit that most guys write (poorly). I got loads of replies when I made contact with women for that reason alone. The really puzzling part of all of this is that no matter how many guys who complained about a lack of interested women and replies they experienced, not one was ever the least bit convinced that what they wrote made any difference at all. I even bet I could get replies without a single photo and when I did, that still didn't convince them. Even with good photos, if the guy isn't stunningly hot, the photos only go so far and he ought to not be so clueless as to not make use of everything else he can to set himself apart from a zillion other generic profiles. I think guys believe that because they don't read profiles, that women don't either and my experience is that women do read profiles and that it matters. Apparently, most people on dating sites think spending a few minutes throwing ut a few disconnected statements about themselves is enough to rake in waves of interested women and that proof reading, editing and rewriting are just too much effort. If there is one thing that any guy on a dating site needs to know (unless he's so drop dead gorgeous that it doesn't matter), it's that women DO note things like poor vocabulary, bad spelling and an inability to write a complete sentence and string several together to say something interesting or at least different enough to pique their curiosity. If someone can't put some time into setting himself apart, then passing on him for writing shit and not bothering to even check what he wrote is his own fault. If someone pays no attention to detail when trying to get someone's attention, what's the likelyhood that person will be any less oblivious with his partners in the bedroom?

So, as a lifetime user on SLS I often review new profiles. I do it . . . just cause. Single guys tend to give me a good laugh every now and then. Like this: "Let's get together and no each other." True story . . .

Congrats, sounds lovely.

A picture of a penis and a message that says Sup isn’t enough to get the women excited about meeting you? I knew when we got into the lifestyle that there were a lot of clueless guys out there, but I could never have imagined that there were so many of them. It makes me feel embarrassed being a man some days.

We feel the same way as you!

I am not a psychologist, I don't play one on tv and a lot of people give me skeptical looks when I weigh in what might be going on in someone's head, but here goes. I think most guys feel the need to perform and leave their partner with the idea that "wow, that was just awesome." I think tht sort of pressure in the back of your head, even subconciously, could cause someone to be so concerned about not being the greatest, that he gets so worried about performing that ends up not being able to. Getting rid of any anxiety about the encounter might help, although I really don't know anything specific to do that. It's not just sex, either. It's hard to do anything if you are too worried about fucking up.

Tattoos and piercings on people are the norm these days for many! There is nothing unique about seeing people with them anymore. If people have a problem with others having them they had might as well just hide in a hole somewhere. Neither of us have tattoos and other then her ears no piercings. Just not a big interest of ours. Saying that it certainly doesn’t make any difference to us if others do. It doesn’t make us any more or less attracted to them. If they have a sexy body then they are going to have a sexy body with or without ink. Just like ink isn’t suddenly going to make their body sexier to us if it wasn’t in the first place. I am pretty sure we have played with more people in the lifestyle that do have tats then not, because they are just that common now.

If you want a tatt - get a tatt. But get what speaks to you. Don't get a tatt because a BF wants you to... BF's are temporary - the ink is permanent.

cuuuute!!!! I should get something like that for my wife!

As others have written on other posts like this, Did you join this forum just to make this your first post? You had to search for a post from 2006. The OP has been waiting 15 years for your invitation

Last Tropics Party, ladies night. Corset n Lace night. Most our party pics show others.....etc....not for public view

wore this on the other night for easy access. Can we post pics showing genitalia in the chats?

here's a couple.

Last weekend…

This is my favorite outfit I wear every once in awhile to the clubs. If it's a bar meet n greet I just wear the corset with black slacks or jeans. We mostly play at clubs or parties so I don't wear lingerie, what you see is what you get. I don't dress down later, I just get naked Most of my sls pics are from clubs so if anyone wanted to see a full range of different types of clubwear you can look on there.

Here's one of my favorite outfits my wife wears. Very popular. Me, I'm a jeans and t-shirt guy.

Here's what I wore to the club most recently. It was "see thru night" and this is the most risque thing I've ever worn there. The results were fantastic BTW.