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My experience has been women with some weight are often the most enthusiastic about sex. Sexy is between the ears.

Not lifestyle related, but I saw an ad for an RV yesterday that said "Owned by a malicious owner". I guess they couldn't figure out how to spell 'meticulous' and went with the autocorrect.

Mrs. Aiki is also worried about being a larger woman at the club. We plan on our first trip to our local club this weekend (Close Encounters, Gulfport, Ms)

We have had lifestyle couples open vanilla pictures with their parents, children, etc. Do you really want to post your family on a lifestyle site? I think that Facebook culture has broken down all sense of privacy and propriety.

omg - the filth you see in some ppls houses in the backgrounds of their profile photos (single guys are not the worst here), and guys who shoot dick pics standing over the toilet, and guys (and couples) who message you and only say "Hey" or "What's up?" as if you've been waiting your whole life for them to notice you.

Been in the lifestyle for going on 6 years. I'm a single swinger, After my divorce I found myself for an insatiable craving for sex. An internet FWB told me about the lifestyle, even though he didn't care for it. I was invited to my first party via a swinger site in the Tallahassee are and after getting railed by three men, I never looked back.

In general, we are one-and-done if we try to pick someone up for MFM. Once her new friend and I both shoot, it's time to say goodnight instead of waiting for it to get weird. If we'll go again, we'll do it alone in our own hotel room. If I know we're having a scheduled play session with regular partner(s), I will take 10mg of Cialis the night before. I may or may not come twice, but I'll definitely get hard again in about 15 minutes and put it to use. When we've done FMF I can just idle with that the second time around and let them do what they want with it for the evening, even if I'm worn out. Mrs. E, for her part, is generally good to keep going as long as anyone else in the room is hard and energetic. She tends to have many small orgasms easily when getting penetrated, so stays engaged. Her record is three men for five orgasms, probably ran about two hours in total. We stopped because we were done, not because she couldn't continue.

You are right on the curve, my friend. Many couples take time off to have babies and raise them, spend time on their professional advancement, 'become adults.' Then, when life starts to slow down just a bit and the kids get older, those old feelings return. Enjoy it, best of luck.

They may desecrate your spouse.

This is the right way to start a relationship and marriage, none of the "We've been married for many years and are thinking about maybe dipping our toe into the lifestyle and are setting up all the rules..." You knew what you two wanted and built a relationship and marriage upon it.

I admire a man who isn't intimidated by a woman's sexuality and her expression of it. But is this what she wants?

Go back 72 when I was 20 years old I moved into an adults-only Apartments women laying around a swimming pool naked they had a steam room hot tub and swimming pool. There was even a bar in the apartments complex. I lived there 7 years met my first wife there. And we had threesomes before we got married and after

Started so long ago. Except for my experience with Ms. Kaye. My first adult swinger experience happened when I was in the military I was having lunch at a bar when I was picked up by a couple for my first threesome. When I was in the military I got plenty of sex, sometimes just a BJ other times fucking. I can’t even guess how many. I got out of military met my first wife, she did a lot of first with me, her first anal, her first woman, her first swap & overnight, we were married about 5 years, very sexual. We divorced stayed friends & still fucked. Dianne my second wife, I met at a house party, we fit together perfect. We were wonderful sex partners, our marriage last about 3 1/2 years. After Dianne, I kept swinging alone or with a partner, lots & lots of one night stands. Then I met Debbie we have been together for 16 years or so, about 6 years ago I started having heart problems so my swinging slowed down, we still go to house parties butt I mainly watch.

No. For me, I am not an Adonis, so I don’t expect more from my partner.

Hubby and I have only been to a LS club once, for a Halloween Party a couple of weekends ago. There were there people of all shapes and sizes. I did not get a sense that anyone was ridiculed or uncomfortable. It was a great time.

I hope you'll tell us how it went!

In the past there have been people who wanted to try or actually tried to start swinging dating sites. The problem is the chicken and the egg...people won't sign up unless you have hundreds (thousands) of other people in their area and you can't get thousands of people if they won't sign up. Same is true with OF: People won't be happy unless you have hundreds of videos when they sign up and if you are just starting you will only have a limited number of videos so they won't be happy if they do sign up. Even if you have hundreds, there will still be too many people who either don't like what you have, or didn't want what you do have and will complain...don't forget the haters either (who hate EVERYTHING). Too much work for too much negative criticism IMHO.

Every pot has a cover. There are men who are fans of larger women. There are larger men. It works out.

Ordinarily I try to avoid necro'ed threads but this one calls my attention... When I was very young and stupid, my girlfriend and I had lost our virginity to each other and we didn't know anything. This was the days before the internet and even dirty magazines were difficult for us to get a hold of... so like any pair of horny 18 year idiots (yes, I lost my virginity at 18... I was, and am, a geek...it's a thing), we figured things out on our own. I didn't know what a clitoris was, much less where it was... and neither did she. We just knew she liked things inside her. So, we experimented with inserting... things. Eventually we found that she really liked when I touched her inside, (I think I discovered the G-spot before I discovered the clit) so we explored that further. It wasn't long before I was putting my whole hand inside her and opening my figures slightly, driving her absolutely, orgasmicly wild. Funny thing is, we didn't know that was anything strange or kinky. We just thought this was normal sex stuff. Now, somewhere out there in the world, there is this beautiful, passionate woman who probably has a fisting fetish because we didn't know any better. Ah, youth...

I don’t know what Honey does alone with women, only what she does when I’m there. We share pussy and we compare. Sweet pussy, stanky pussy, juicy pussy, clits, lips and screaming loud sex. If she is fucking and I watched I have no problem saying the guy has a fat cock or a small cock or man he went forever. Someone who shoots a big load on her I think I notice more. Always fun to talk and share what we were thinking. Got me thinking do you look at a pussy like I do.

Thank you for sharing an experience. If you read my posts you know that I have been with women who are exploring a new experience. Almost all the women are having sex being watched by both their and my husband, not under the best circumstances to enjoy their own sexuality. I always concentrate on giving pleasure wanting a first experience to be memorable and positive. I’m not a therapist, I do enjoy talking after to the woman knowing it might be a life changing moment. It troubles me when they ask if they did right, did I enjoy, or they look to the husband for his approval. Being alone, no husbands or as I call them Sightseers is a different experience. My advice has always been to enjoy, it’s about them, not me. Be able to verbalize your likes, nobody knows exactly what feels good to you. I also know receiving is much easier for them, giving pleasure to a woman is alien to what has been learned. I normally guide them to places I enjoy being touched, externally and internally. Oral sex is the primary pleasure act even when toys are involved, it’s also the hardest act to start. If you can, you said your head was between her legs was a foreign experience, what went through your thoughts, what did you focus on, did she respond the way you wanted? I understand your want for a man, I enjoy men more as well and enjoy my man, this new part just adds to enjoyment. As I say to other women, don’t do anything because someone wants you to do it, do it because you want to do it. If you enjoyed her and think you will enjoy being with women, I say Enjoy! If you don’t enjoy, stop, I am sure you have tried other things once and never tried again.

Depends on personality, sense of sexual adventure, state of mind, who or how many are involved, theme based or not, sexual game or not being played and are you a giver or taker to just mention a few influencers. Some will be active and participate continually or intermittently all afternoon, day evening. It is much more then insertion and pumping away.....certainly a time and place for that.....those with a more adventurous mind and a desire to experiment.......will from time to time experience unbelievable activities.....short and quick to spectacular weekends of bliss. Not just orgasm based.

Congrats, sounds lovely.

You can lead a typical single guy to water, you can even kick him in the ass, and he still won't drink . . . The thing I have to keep reminding myself is it's their loss, not mine, so why should I worry when they don't take the hint?

------------------------------------------------------------------------- You have no ide how true and how funny this is. You've given me just one more example of a point I've made to guys for years that's fallen on deaf ears. They may have difficulty believing how stupid guys on dating sites are, but they have not in the least misjudged them, nor is anything likely to result in guys wising up. When I was on a dating site years ago before meeting Harriet, I was extremely aware of the impression I would make by what I wrote, how well I expressed myself and how negatively affected I would be for a single misspelled word or grammatical error, so I was anal retentive about not only writing, rewriting and editing for flow, but writing something that was interesting enough to read, although it was more like a narrative than a list of "I am," I do," "I want," shit that most guys write (poorly). I got loads of replies when I made contact with women for that reason alone. The really puzzling part of all of this is that no matter how many guys who complained about a lack of interested women and replies they experienced, not one was ever the least bit convinced that what they wrote made any difference at all. I even bet I could get replies without a single photo and when I did, that still didn't convince them. Even with good photos, if the guy isn't stunningly hot, the photos only go so far and he ought to not be so clueless as to not make use of everything else he can to set himself apart from a zillion other generic profiles. I think guys believe that because they don't read profiles, that women don't either and my experience is that women do read profiles and that it matters. Apparently, most people on dating sites think spending a few minutes throwing ut a few disconnected statements about themselves is enough to rake in waves of interested women and that proof reading, editing and rewriting are just too much effort. If there is one thing that any guy on a dating site needs to know (unless he's so drop dead gorgeous that it doesn't matter), it's that women DO note things like poor vocabulary, bad spelling and an inability to write a complete sentence and string several together to say something interesting or at least different enough to pique their curiosity. If someone can't put some time into setting himself apart, then passing on him for writing shit and not bothering to even check what he wrote is his own fault. If someone pays no attention to detail when trying to get someone's attention, what's the likelyhood that person will be any less oblivious with his partners in the bedroom?

Depends. Sometimes it's a once and done(for the men, hopefully more for the women) in a club setting. Sometimes you're going at it all night over multiple rounds in a hotel with people you really jive with including breaks for drinks and snacks. Viagra(medically necessary or recreationally) is more common the older the people are of course. But with lots of fore/during/afterplay one session can still go hours even with the men only popping off once.

we are showoffs so like to be naked and also post naked pics but our one rule for posting pics is to either crop out or blur faces of explicit pics. you can't control ppl finding ways to steal and distribute your profile photos, but you do have some control over how incriminating your photos are.

Agreed. Certain things are a turn off; wedding pics on lifestyle site. Pets, family, kids toys, and above all filth in a house. Laundry strewn about, messy kitchen, etc. see lots of pics in the bathroom. One of the recent was a sexy booty but looked like the bathroom hadn’t been cleaned since they moved in. Not a square inch ig counter space and looked like 6 months of toothpaste spit splash back on the mirror, gross! Immediately make me wonder about personal hygiene if that’s the kind of house they keep. to go along with Facebook mentality and texting talk...hate, hate, hate when people write like the txt; U up? U look hot, Wanna fuck? Send me u pics.....

Just to be fair, couples make bad profiles and typos as well.

Pretty experienced. ?

Clarification is in order: We've been members of American Association for Nude Recreation (AANR) for decades. Its headquarters are in our backyard in Kissimmee, Florida. We are also members of South Florida Free Beaches/Florida Naturist Association and Treasure Coast Naturists, as well other international groups. The collective purpose of these organizations, big and small, is to promote wholesome, family-friendly venues for nude recreation. Nudism/naturism draws a very bright line between nudity and sex. Public nude beaches are the farthest thing from "... hot, sexually charged atmospheres" as one can imagine. At the public nude beach we frequent here in Florida, it is not unusual to see families with children. Attending a nude beach at a adult-oriented resort (i.e., Caliente, Hedonism, etc.) or private club is an entirely different atmosphere. Those venues are oriented towards creating a highly sexualized atmosphere. Being nude in that setting takes on a completely different meaning and caters to a different clientele. People who choose to attend one of these kinds of venues do so for the specific purpose of being in a "hot, sexually charged" atmosphere. And, yes, you will definitely find your fair share of "lifestylers" in attendance--especially during "takeovers" when the resorts are almost entirely filled with swingers. It is important not conflate one with the other.

We are experienced but within limits of the number of contacts. Amy and I have different experiences. We first swapped with friends about 13 years ago, before we were married. It was a unplanned but great experience. Nothing happened for ten years, then about 3 years ago Amy discovered the delight of two sessions of sex with her friend's husband. So delightful that I was enlisted to start foursome swinging with Lesley and Ken, my wife's lover and his wife. We now swing with them frequently, plus twice with our old friends from 13 years back and a couple of swing parties. We do hall passes with our individual lovers which is the most exciting part of swinging for both of us.

I’m waiting to read how your first fun went.

Prior to our first meeting we were both completely new. Our first real conversation came during the pandemic and was talk to make being home together 24/7 interesting. I don’t think either of us thought we would act out on fun talk.

Idk I love being a single swinger, less attachments. As long as I get invites I never feel the need to have romantic relationships. Who knows, I might have a change of heart years down the line.

Experience, I have been a hotwife for over 5 years, and my husband and I have been full swapping for 3 years.

Thanks a lot for the replies, I think we may have a great time then. As for making her feel comfy I always focus on her enjoyment and tune out most other distractions until she feels in place. Her happiness to me is paramount. Thanks again for the replies and maybe we will see you out on the town.

My first club (and swinging) experiences were when I was much larger. In a way, it was easier for me than now. I went into it knowing that not everyone likes larger people, so didn't have any expectations/hopes of anyone being interested. The swinging was mmf's and not in a club. Now that I have lost weight and have all the lovely things that accompany a large weight loss, I have more trouble with my confidence and feeling attractive. I must have bought into the "lose weight, you'll feel more attractive" BS. That said, every club we have been to has had people of various sizes, ages, etc. I think it is more important to manage your expectations. I like to have low expectations and be pleasantly surprised. Depending on her confidence level, and how much you look at the other women, I'd say she should just be prepared to not get all the attention/gazes. You can help a lot with that by focusing on her (while still enjoying the eye candy that is around) and putting as much energy into helping her feel attractive as you do looking at other more stereotypically attractive females. At least, that would help me. Also, in my experience, all clubs say that. Realistically, only one club can have the hottest people, best whatever. They all hype themselves up. Take it with a grain of salt.