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A few weeks ago we celebrated EMS appreciation day at a local ER with frequent at work. Chit chat, food nothing super exciting. During the free time we had a Doc that we both know was chatting a bit with the two of us and being a tad bit flirty but nothing to obvious. We talked a good bit about this and that and at the end of the day we decided to grab a few drinks at a bar near by. My husband and I and his Wife and him. We had a pretty good evening and as we were talking one of the apps we use for meeting popped up on my phone. I quickly grabbed my phone but to late as he said the name of the app and kinda half smiled at me. We chatted with our partners and decided to depart for the evening. My husband with his wife and I with him. We went to his place for cocktails and time in the pool and hot tub. It was a very eventful and unexpected time for sure but well worth it. We exchange quirky smiles from time to time in the ER now. Goes to show you how many people embrace the lifestyle that you would never expect. Even the people you least expect can be down to earth and fun loving and that is refreshing in today's times.

Start by making sure your relationship is rock solid (see my hundreds of other posts about love/trust/communication). Then set your rules and boundaries, keeping in mind that they can always be (and usually are) changed, but only with you both agreeing and only outside of a sexual situation. Are you both looking for a threesome with another man or woman, a foursome, same room sex, soft swap, full swap, with all of you in the same room or separate rooms? Decide if you are looking for a couple to be FWB or if you are just looking for a 'one and done'. FWB are usually easier to find on swinger sites, 1AD (one and done) are usually easier to find at swinger clubs. Depending on what you are looking for you have two choices from here: swinger clubs are pretty easy to find by searching the internet (but depending on where you live, they might not be real close to where you live). If they're aren't any close, plan a weekend and get a motel room for the night. Go to the club and let them know you are first time visitors and they will usually give you a tour of the place. Don't go with any expectations other than just having a great, sexy night out together...anything else that happens (or not) is a bonus. Trying to 'force' something when it just isn't there will quickly take the fun out of the evening. Look at it as a date night...only there will be naked people around and you can watch 'live porn'. If more happens...yahoo! If you are looking for FWB, then the next step is to set up a free profile on several of the swinger sites (see 'please visit our sponsors' at the top of the page). Once you find which one of the sites has the most local people for what you are looking for (and this is IMPORTANT), pay to JOIN that site (lots of couples don't pay any attention to non-paying members since a high number of them are just men looking for a thrill, fakes, flakes, or fantasies thinking that the wife will go along). It's only a few dollars and ups you credibility (you probably will pay more for a night out with your partner, don't be cheap). Finally, sit down together and start looking at other profiles. If you find one that you both like (do not settle here...you both need to be in agreement for all decisions when it comes to swinging) send them a brief 'hello' note. Be sure to include something that shows that you read their profile, this will make a difference to the other couple. If they are interested as well, then set up a meeting...usually drinks or dinner. You will find out more about them in 5 minutes than in 5 years of texts and/or emails. We recommend that the first meeting be just a meeting...no sex. This will remove any pressure and allow you both to decide if the other couple is a good match. If they are, set up the next meeting and hold on for a really fun time. If not, just keep looking. It will most likely take some time to find a match but just keep looking, your match is out there. Take your time and enjoy the trip as much as the destination...then report back as to how things are going. Most important is that this is something that the two of you are doing together and that you are both having a great time. Good luck and let us know if there is anything else we can help with.

Well he and I have been broken 6-7 years. He impotent. So yeah I’ve been celibate. I went to NOLA a few years back with a couple we were close with in the lifestyle. He didn’t seem to mind that. I guess I sound crazy but since I had the freedom to fly solo before, why the hell do I have to stop now.

Who is enforcing the celibate rule? I get it if you're just not turned on by or feel acrimonious towards him.

Do you mean you realize that he is blaming you now or that you are somehow the cause of his drinking? As pointed out, you two are only roommates now, and apparently not very good roommates. It's great that he has stopped drinking for the last four years, but if the relationship is dead and everyone knows it, why do you keep this going? Why are you denying yourself a chance at happiness?

We utilize a paid profile on SwingLifeStyle.com, it's worked well for us. Understand that you may have to filter through a bit of chaff, but there are matches out there if you look hard enough. If you'd like more information, feel free to DM me with pertinent questions.

My new friend told me they met with the friends who told her to talk to me. Two couples, friends for years, new to swinging, swinging together for the first time. She asked me to join them for a little party. We aren’t big on parties, we have better times with being with a single couple, and will see if we will join them. Both couples are fun, the new couple I enjoy talking to her at the gym, I don’t want something to go wrong. I stated before we don’t normally move to relationships with people we meet.

I knew it when he screamed, “Yes Fuck ME, Fuck me in my ASS, Give me more COCK, fill me full of cum in both holes.” as he sucked one of our friends so hard he was yelping as was the guy who was fucking him bareback. My husband went along for the ride with me and bi couples we befriended over the many years, eventually giving a little here and there, until the day he did this. It still takes him a while to get to this point but he definitely gets there more often and in less time. There have also been a few times recently where I have gotten him so aroused kissing him after sucking some off that he latched on to a few of the guys without me even feeding them to him. And even though he never asks upfront for cock I know he loves it, as well as cum, and most definitely getting his ass cummed in. His orgasms are way to explosive for anyone not to love that. We have been very fortunate to have many extremely trust worthy friends who all get along smashingly.