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  1. 2 points
    I think you're in dangerous waters. If this is a path she wants to take, supporting her and recognizing that it will be difficult and probably painful for her is the best you can do. However, and please forgive me, it sounds like you are the one driving here. That this is something you want to do... you say you want to do it for her and that's admirable, but is it really something she wants to do, or is she doing it for you? Only she can answer that honestly. Assuming that she is doing it for herself, even with the best intentions, you are almost certainly risking reopening wounds... and while healing those wounds is good, it probably won't be a fun, pleasurable experience for anyone at the start. Honestly, I think you'd be much better served investing in a good therapist with experience dealing with traumatic events. After a good, professionally guided walk down this road, then she might be ready for the experience you are hoping for. My $.02, take it for what it's worth.
  2. 2 points
    First: thanks for the update! Keep going...this isn't a race so take your time. Probably the most important thing is that she KNOWS that IF anything happens it's okay with you. You won't judge her or think less of her whatever her decision is. Alot of women are afraid that their partner will say that something is okay but if it were to happen...they will think that they are a slut or a cheat or not 'good' enough for you. And once anything happens it allows the husband to do whatever he wants as well, or that the husband is just looking for a replacement for her. This is a big part of the 'trust' aspect. She needs to be able to trust you completely (and you her). Swinging is a team sport and can only be done successfully if approached as such. Everything you do should be done together and in total agreement. At the same time, some people (most people) just aren't 'wired' for it, and if she is one of those, then just enjoy the play you have. Let her know its her choice and whatever she chooses is okay with you. The seed is planted and it seems to have sprouted. Keep improving the communication and trust (there's never too much communication and trust) and see where things go from here...
  3. 2 points
    I read this Guest Essay, as The Times now calls them, earlier today snd found it quite interesting. I’m a subscriber but last time I checked you could register and read several articles per week. (That may have changed.) The moderators here quite correctly don’t permit the posting of copyrighted material, but I’m sure the brief passage below, which is critical to the thrust of the essay, falls under the fair usage exemption to the law: "…according to Gallup, the majority of adults in the L.G.B.T.Q. community identify as bisexual, at 54.6 percent." I never would have guessed the percentage was nearly that high. Which leads to the writer’s point, that if they are to be accepted in both the LGBTQ and wider communities bisexuals need to be better about coming out than they have been.
  4. 2 points
    It is a plea for bisexuals to come out. It theorizes that the main issue is lack of visibility, in that there are far more bi people than is recognized because they see no other bi folk in numbers so they remain closeted.
  5. 1 point
    https://www.nytimes.com/2021/06/17/opinion/bisexuals-coming-out-anna-paquin.html?action=click&module=Opinion&pgtype=Homepage
  6. 1 point
    Just don’t go there. Continue with voyeurism, girl on girl. A bad idea and entirely unnecessary. You can have adult fun without retraumatizing your wife. I am not a therapist, just a husband and swinger with experience.
  7. 1 point
    IOHO, this crosses the line. Swinging is where everyone is involved with complete knowledge about what is going on...done out in the open with trust and love. When one or more are doing things that are kept secret, that is cheating. Cheating is done in the dark and behind your partners back, and is totally void of love and betrays trust. It is the exact opposite of swinging. She may not realize this, she may have just been trying to be a good friend, a kind voice and ear to listen, but she needs to be made aware of it. Please let us know how your talk goes.
  8. 1 point
    Follow Zachary Zane on twitter, he's a hoot. Wife and I are out bisexuals. But it was relatively hidden until Bostock vs Clayton County. Since then you'll find us at Pride, at LGBT bars for burlesque/comedy/etc, and joined the LGBT org at work. In a swinging context I will say we've never encountered a straight woman. And not one man has turned down the offer for a dual blowjob...
  9. 1 point
    If others are like us there will be a big boom. Locked up and isolated gave us time to figure out life is fragile. Healthy today on a respirator tomorrow, know people who exercise and eat healthy trying to always doing the right thing having their life cut short. Being together 24/7 gave us time to talk and have sex. We watched online porn with people having fun and our conversation went to the question of could you do that. We got to the part about transmitting diseases, here we were isolating did we want to tempt fate. Vaccinations done the talk was do I want sex with someone new. Vaginal or oral? I said sex is sex. A woman? Maybe. YOLO. We found a couple, strangers to us and after we did the deed we had no regrets. I shared my thoughts and deed with a very good friend telling her why we did it. She explained to her husband my thoughts. Didn’t take her long to say her husband wanted me. We put off swinging with them and suggested it would be better if they were with someone else first. Make sure first, we can wait. Boom? Well here are 2 new couples who have joined the LS after vaccination.
  10. 1 point
    My name is Susan, and my husband Joe and I are swingers. We've made many friends in the Lifestyle. Anytime we get the itch to play, there is always someone to get together with. Last weekend I went over to Liam and Katy's house without Joe since he had been called into work for the afternoon. When I arrived, they were having drinks on their back deck and invited me to join them. They asked about Joe, and I told them he was busy with a client but might come over later that evening. After a couple of drinks, the sex was positively hanging in the air. Katy asked if she should excuse herself to give Dave and me some privacy. "Of course not," I replied, "You are entitled to watch or join in if you like." Obviously, this was the answer she was looking for. The three of us retired to the master bedroom, where we all undressed as casually as if we were just going to bed for the night. Liam couldn't keep his eyes off of my breasts as I undressed. When I slipped out of my panties, he came over and kissed me on my vaginal lips while lifting me up and depositing me in the middle of their king-sized bed. Talk about good oral sex! Liam was licking and tasting and rubbing my clitoris with a professional touch until I told him it was my turn to do something for him. With that, he rolled over on his back, and that was a good thing because of his impressive size. At 6'3" and 240+ lbs, he could crush me by being on top. I began to lick his tool, and it started to rise up to the challenge immediately. When he was good and hard, I tried to deep throat him as he is only about 8" long but pretty thick. I could get him almost in my mouth up to his balls. But when I did, I was having trouble breathing due to his girth. Meanwhile, Katy was licking me from behind, and I was sure I felt one of her vibrators humming in preparation for the next thing she had planned. This caused me to lubricate so much that my juices ran down my leg, and Liam was getting ready to blow his load down my throat. "Hold on, big fella," I said, "I want to get that thick thing in my snatch and right now." Moving over him, I positioned my pussy above his rock-hard dick. I slowly descended down on it until I had an inch or two between my slick plump pussy lips, and he was thrusting up to meet me. I continued to lower my vagina until I had him wet all the way to his balls. Liam was in seventh heaven. I like to be on top of a big man as it gives me a lot more control. I rode him like a bronco for several minutes until he said he was ready to shoot. "I want to cum with you, Liam, so hold out for a minute if you can," I requested. The feeling of his dick buried deep inside me meant he couldn't even speak, so he just nodded. Then I began to rock back and forth to get the maximum stimulation to my clitoris while moving up and down and clenching my kegel muscles at the same time to bring him off. This worked so well that we came together in an explosive orgasm. I collapsed on Liam's massive chest while catching my breath. Meanwhile, Katy, not wanting to be left out, began to use the vibrator on my ass, which I am not into yet. Instead of telling her no and making her feel bad, I just rolled off Liam and pulled Katy over me. I sucked her tits, and then we rotated into a 69 for mutual pussy munching. It took me a few minutes to cum again, but Katy was all worked up, having watched her husband take me, and she came immediately. When I had my second orgasm, Liam was now ready for a repeat performance. He took me doggie style while I licked Katy between her legs. With every vigorous thrust Liam made, my tongue slid up Katy's clit with even more pressure. Soon both of them were cumming, and I was again on edge. We all rested together on the bed until Joe rang the bell. He had brought several bottles of champagne for us to celebrate with. It was almost dawn when Joe and I went back home with everyone but Joe having gotten their rocks off that night. However, Katy promised his turn will be next, and she will make the wait worth his while! Susan & Joe Tampa, Florida
  11. 0 points
    I appreciate your response very much. She Was the originator in our 1st experiences with a threesome with a woman, and even the one to express interest in going to events at the swingers clubs. She has always been bi Sexual. I have never before a couple of weeks ago ever thought that I would be OK with seeing my wife with another man because we had only ever talked about having a unicorn join us. As we met other couples and were on sites describing ourselves as soft swap started the conversation of what soft swap really meant. As we talked about different scenarios of whether we were OK with things happening and grading them on a yes, hard no, and maybe with discussion system. We found ourselves diving deeper into emotions. And I for the first time feeling so connected and In love with a woman That I was willing to put her pleasure and satisfaction on a level = my own. That being said my wife was willing to share an experiences with me with another woman, how could I ever deny her the experience or experiences if she desired to do that with another man. That's when the deeper details of her past came about and why my mind went to possibly having This different experience. She was the one that brought up Maybe finding someone she could trust to experience that with us, there was a Dungeon Master at 1 of the clubs we visited that we both liked and her experience with him made her feel very comfortable and safe. Someone like him she said that was used to respecting a womans limit, and at the moment a safe word was spoken, could back down immediately
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