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We were very emphatic that it’s a nude beach not a sex beach. No smoking, no drinking, no hanky panky and No Clothes. We never saw any real sex on the beach. If it happens it’s discreet, and you will be arrested if caught. You can’t even drink there anymore. It was a fun day, I think the men were more self conscious getting undressed. Guys will be guys and when they saw pretty 20somethings they gawked. Funny thing happened, I was walking by the water with one of the women and we were approached by two women to join them. Being nude with our new friends is much different from being nude for sex. Being with people who never were at a nude beach or being nude in front of thousands was full of laughs. We are used to the imperfect bodies, hate to admit they were being childish, they behaved in spite of that. The best part, we have new friends who we enjoyed being with. It was great to be with people again socially.

So what if your wife and the other guy have feelings for each other? If it makes her happy, it's good. She will appreciate your generosity. It amazes me how many guys are thrilled that their wife and other men are enjoying playing with every part of each others bodies, and the guys are pumping cum into every one of her orifices, but feelings? No way. My wife exchanges "I love you"s with one of the guys we play with. I am flattered and prefer it over some guy treating her as just a cum dump.

What moved it along for us is when I told Daniela that she could act on her desires/fantasies however she wanted, and that I would do nothing, other than what she asked of me. And she did: first called an ex-boyfriend, second met him for dinner, third the three of us had dinner (where I made it clear that I was ok with them getting together), finally they started fucking. Then she did the same with another ex. It was fantastic all around, including me - sex afterwards was unbelievable. Daniela then had me join for MFMs, a whole other level. I would have been fine staying with that, but we now play within a closed group of married couples, so it's all worked out fine with me letting my wife start by doing what she was comfortable with.

Strangers are fun. Tricia has a way to pick up strange men at hotels and bring them up to our room. We got the idea from another post on here and she learned how to approach men after football games and at business conventions. It had become a joke between us that there are times she doesn’t even know the name of a partner. I once asked her what was his name and she shrugged and said I Dunno. Another time Oops, forgot to ask.

When we lived in Monmouth County my wife and I semi-frequently went to Gunnison. We aren’t really beach folks, so we would often arrive after 3:00 on a Sunday afternoon, when the crowd had thinned out and just stay for an hour or two. The prohibitions on sex weren’t as rigorous 20 years ago as they apparently are now. Kathy sometimes liked to go to the southern end of the beach, where there were few people and those present tended to be widely spaced, and masturbate. There was in those days a small amount of semi-discrete sex that went on. Still, I was on one occasion quite surprised to find a nude couple — youngish woman and older man — both nude and fully engaged in mutual oral just a hundred feet or so from where the path from the parking lot diverges to the clothing-optional fork to the right and the textile northern path to the left. It seemed a bit too ‘out-there" to me.

All people we meet are strangers when we meet and almost all have never been naked in front of others and never had sex with anyone else. We are very cognizant of their nervousness which adds to our excitement. We don’t rush anyone, try to get to know them and understand them.

First: thanks for the update! Keep going...this isn't a race so take your time. Probably the most important thing is that she KNOWS that IF anything happens it's okay with you. You won't judge her or think less of her whatever her decision is. Alot of women are afraid that their partner will say that something is okay but if it were to happen...they will think that they are a slut or a cheat or not 'good' enough for you. And once anything happens it allows the husband to do whatever he wants as well, or that the husband is just looking for a replacement for her. This is a big part of the 'trust' aspect. She needs to be able to trust you completely (and you her). Swinging is a team sport and can only be done successfully if approached as such. Everything you do should be done together and in total agreement. At the same time, some people (most people) just aren't 'wired' for it, and if she is one of those, then just enjoy the play you have. Let her know its her choice and whatever she chooses is okay with you. The seed is planted and it seems to have sprouted. Keep improving the communication and trust (there's never too much communication and trust) and see where things go from here...

If others are like us there will be a big boom. Locked up and isolated gave us time to figure out life is fragile. Healthy today on a respirator tomorrow, know people who exercise and eat healthy trying to always doing the right thing having their life cut short. Being together 24/7 gave us time to talk and have sex. We watched online porn with people having fun and our conversation went to the question of could you do that. We got to the part about transmitting diseases, here we were isolating did we want to tempt fate. Vaccinations done the talk was do I want sex with someone new. Vaginal or oral? I said sex is sex. A woman? Maybe. YOLO. We found a couple, strangers to us and after we did the deed we had no regrets. I shared my thoughts and deed with a very good friend telling her why we did it. She explained to her husband my thoughts. Didn’t take her long to say her husband wanted me. We put off swinging with them and suggested it would be better if they were with someone else first. Make sure first, we can wait. Boom? Well here are 2 new couples who have joined the LS after vaccination.

Does appear to be higher rates(in our circles anyway). Just defined as polyamory and ethical non-monogamy rather than swinging. And more prevalent use of hookup apps to go about it rather than a swing club/house party(or an online forum for that matter).

Are you wrong, you ask. I don't think there's any right or wrong here, just what works for the two (or three) of you. I have to ask first, how committed to you is your wife? What would happen if you said no? If she would comply with you, you've got options. If she says she would leave you for him, the only choice you have is to either allow the polyamory or file for divorce. Here's some good news. If the guy is getting divorced, it's likely that your wife is the rebound woman. Those relationships tend to peter out after awhile (how long is very hard to say,) and he's likely to be in a bad spot. It's possible that your wife is going to get tired of him eventually. No matter what happens, it seems to me you're in for a bad time here . . .

I have lots of sex, but I've only had sex with five men in my life, three of them currently. Does that answer your question?