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Once a woman who I found to be very attractive was riding on top of me at a house party. She had the remnants of her bra, garter belts and other accoutrements dangling off of her. I sat up a bit, noticed her alluring outfit barely hanging on her. Wow. Behind her was a woman having a lusty spitroast. I couldn’t help it. I came like the A train.

We both love to see people wearing welcoming smiles! (and occasionally, little else).

LOL, mine seems downright tame compared... I'm always turned on by the sight of a woman blowing a guy in a very casual, leisurely way. Not the quick race to the end, but the relaxing sort of bj that's more of a promise than a finale. It's all that much hotter if I know that they don't previously know each other.

Fantasyfun1977; welcome to the Swingers Board! This is a great resource, and we'll happily answer any of your questions. Our bonafides; my wife and I have enjoyed many threesomes, and I'm not bi either (well, maybe 0.1%). Two of the men in those threesomes developed into long term (years) boyfriends, which were quite rewarding. GoldCoCouple is absolutely correct. You will be absolutely OVERWHELMED with the number of single men who will contact you. One of the ways we have filtered that is by including something in our profile that asks a respondent to say something in the beginning of their contact with us. This is not placed at the beginning nor the end of our profile. Bury it in a third paragraph, or something similar. Example; "If you contact us, please start your email with 'I read it'". Most of your respondents will not read that far into your profile, which means they aren't really interested in your particulars, just in hooking up. It's an easy way to down-filter the number of responses to something more manageable. Something else we have done is to look for obvious reasons why the man is single, and wants to be having sex with women who are in committed relationships and not cheating. Sometimes there isn't a clear reason, but we also look for signs they are cheating. We will never play with someone who is cheating. You shouldn't want to either; such people are dishonest and not to be trusted. Any single male whom you approach should be respectful of your limits and what you want. If they start to appear to be playing games, ditch them and move on. We had one rather nice man who started getting flaky about things, and we ditched him...despite his protestations. There's way too many fish in this particular sea to put up with that. Your wife shouldn't settle for someone she finds only mildly attractive, given how many men there are to choose from. That said, being overly picky can result in overlooking someone who is a delight in bed and whom your wife thoroughly enjoys. Someone quite different can be quite enticing. Your slow approach is fine, but certainly make the man in question understand where you are, where you think you might want to be, and how fast/slow you want to do that. He should respect that. Just remember he's a human being too, and deserves respect as well. It sounds like you and your wife have discussed this many times. That's a really good process, and is quite important. The two of you need to be 100% communicative with each other, about where you are with this, how you feel, what your hopes are, etc. Do that, and this will almost certainly have a very positive impact on your marriage. My wife and I talked about doing this for many months, both in and out of bed. Every topic within it that we could think of we'd gone over many times. We finally got to a point where we felt we couldn't do anything more before trying it. You won't absolutely know how either of you will react until you start dipping your toes in the pool. Ultimately, neither of you will know whether you enjoy it until she is having sex with another man. Also consider; the first man with whom you progress down this path might end up being just so-so. My wife and I talked about this before we dipped out toes in the pool. We agreed to try it at least a few times if the early experiences were so-so. This was a good thing; the first couple of men she tried were just that; so-so. Not bad, but not great. Then she had sex with this one guy who absolutely made her toes curl. She could not get enough sex from him, and absolutely loved him being inside of her as much as possible. After that night on the way home, she said "Ok, now I'm a swinger!" and the rest is history as they say :) So, don't count out the idea of MFMs if the first, second, or even third one isn't all that great. If you find the right guy, it really is worth it. For my part, I've always enjoyed watching my wife have sex. I used to try to explain it to myself, but couldn't. I gave up trying to rationalize and just enjoy it :) There's a fair chance the same will happen with you. Also, with your wife, if she knows she has your absolute support and that you are 100% open with her about your feelings (and those feelings are in support), she will relish having sex with another man more. It will make it more enjoyable for her. It really is a shared experience, one of deep joy and satisfaction. This is uncharted territory, as it were. Nothing in our upbringing gives us instruction on how to have a non-monogamous relationship. Standard upbringing teaches us this is wrong, you must feel jealous, and it means the end of a relationship. Swinging says very much the opposite. Developing yourself for such a relationship is a process. I'll emphasize yet again that 100% open communication between you and your wife is critical. Please feel free to ask us any questions! Welcome to a whole new world!

A spit roast. One man is behind a woman having sex doggy style. One man is in front of the same woman receiving oral sex. Never fails to excite.

Fixed it for you, I didn't even catch that. Website is what comes to mind here too. A little off topic, but I knew I was spending too much time thinking about this site and swinger stuff when someone posted a link that included "BBC". I was like what does that have to do with the thread? Finally dawned on me it was BBC, as in British Broadcasting Corporation ?

A doggie-69. Conventional doggie style sex with a friend under the girl, either male or female, having mutual oral sex with the girl getting pounded from behind!

DP

Same, but the woman being done doggy is performing oral on another woman. Especially when the woman in the middle is my wife (and I am otherwise engaged).

Finding a man for a MFM threesome is like finding a cheeseburger in McD's. They're EVERYWHERE. What is harder is finding the RIGHT man for the job. Establish your limits and rules first (knowing that they can be changed after discussing them outside of a sexual scenario, never when things are happening). Then start looking on one of the swinger websites (see: please visit our sponsors at the top of the page...most will let you set up a free profile). Say exactly what you want in the profile...that you are looking for a connection and are taking your time. You'll still get literally HUNDREDS of responses. Week them down and then start meeting them (you will learn more about them in 5 minutes in person than 5 years of email/text/talking via phone). If one isn't right or steps over the line or moves too fast or whatever, move on to the next. I cannot overemphasize HOW MANY MEN you will be contacted by. Don't be afraid to toss one back if they aren't exactly what you are looking for.

Due to our jobs and an uptick in cases we decided to take a break for a little bit. I prefer older men and due to the countless exposures or possible exposures we have had we wanted to see the numbers die down so we didnt potentially put anyone at risk. Two days ago i went in for a normal shift and we had started to look at our apps again to just test the waters. I had found a guy that was older (my type) on tinder and we started to chat a little bit I've found that its difficult to explain the swinging situation to a new person especially those that i dont meet on a swinger site. It still seems so weird to the outside world even though its common and something we have been involved with for some times now. As worrisome or at least in my mind is telling someone i work in healthcare in the middle of a pandemic. If that isn't a scarlet letter idk what is. We decided to meet for breakfast after i got off yesterday morning. We met up and had a decent conversation over breakfast and decided to meet later that day. I spent the afternoon getting ready as per usual. Picking out clothes lingerie etc. We had decided to meet at his place which is uncommon for me. I typically dont like meeting at someones house for safety reasons but it was spur of the moment and i got decent vibes from him. I remembered the rush i missed from the short time we had taken a break from swinging. The butterflies almost like a first date but with known outcomes. We talked a while and shared some cocktails. Its amazing that most of the questions asked to me are about my job. Apparently its more interesting than i think. After a while we started to make out and exchange oral sex. After several hours we had finished our escapades. The breath of fresh air to me was not only the sexual activities but the human interaction that was missed. It was a brief reminder of life pre pandemic. We will continue to keep an eye on outbreaks and do our part to keep others safe but this was a nice break from what has been a long nightmare to most healthcare workers regardless of their situation.

The first time we went to a nudist resort, we were told on the tour that we didn't have to take anything off during the visit, but most likely we would feel...uncomfortable (for lack of a better word) after awhile since we would be different from everyone else. While this wasn't going to be a problem for us, there was another couple in the tour that was obviously having problems with the concept of being nude. It took them less than an hour before they were topless, two hours and they were nude. Your friends may be nervous now, but it becomes easier to undress when you are the only one with clothes on.

Agree that anyone else's experience includes their particulars and "survivor bias." That's one of the reasons we wanted for him in each case to meet with Daniela and me at dinner and talk before they became sexual. The points we made were that we were happily married, that this was solely for her pleasure, not mine, and that she had fond memories of the sex they had. Most importantly they were exes for a reason, and they both agreed when they broke up that it wouldn't have worked long-term. I would say that old flames were rekindled, they burned bright and hot for a very short time, then quickly went out. The infatuation was there, but my wife said it made her want me more than ever.

When we formed our closed group of married couples, both my wife and I had to break it off with others. (The group has a strict no sex outside the group, even with condoms.) They all understood, and we still see some of them socially.

Very good incite.

The old skeleton in the closet trick, as Maxwell Smart would say.

There is something about being free on a beach right here in NJ. It’s a shame that they did away with drinking, I enjoyed having a beer or a bottle of wine while sunning, it was an easy way to meet new people. A few years ago I hit the jackpot because of a bottle of wine. I was alone on the beach reading my Kindle, sipping on a drink when two women asked me if drinking was legal on the beach. They had that distinct Philadelphia accent and said they didn’t know drinking was okay. Being a gentleman I offered to share what I brought. That led to some interesting conversation. Their first time on a clothing optional beach, both divorced, away for a girls day at the shore. I told them I was single, I lied, and I enjoy the sights on this beach. They became flirty and we spent the day together. When I started to leave they begged me to join them for more drinks if I had no plans. They invited me to shower at their hotel and we can do a happy hour. They said they already saw me naked so it’s no big deal for me to shower and get dressed. I knew they had planned this, I heard them talking. No sex on the beach, I think their night out was planned after that first drink. While I’ve had many one-nighters, being picked up by two women was novel for me. That happy hour lasted longer than an hour, then they insisted on buying dinner. A win win day at the beach.

Swingers club sounds like the best option here...go to one to first check it out and see if the 'vibe' fits yours, then ask the owners if you could set something like this up. More than likely they will say it's fine and give you some help. Then comes the hard part...finding out what your wife's next fantasy is.

It really depends on the club, I think the thing to do is try to meet some people and then see what you can set up.

We were very emphatic that it’s a nude beach not a sex beach. No smoking, no drinking, no hanky panky and No Clothes. We never saw any real sex on the beach. If it happens it’s discreet, and you will be arrested if caught. You can’t even drink there anymore. It was a fun day, I think the men were more self conscious getting undressed. Guys will be guys and when they saw pretty 20somethings they gawked. Funny thing happened, I was walking by the water with one of the women and we were approached by two women to join them. Being nude with our new friends is much different from being nude for sex. Being with people who never were at a nude beach or being nude in front of thousands was full of laughs. We are used to the imperfect bodies, hate to admit they were being childish, they behaved in spite of that. The best part, we have new friends who we enjoyed being with. It was great to be with people again socially.

When we lived in Monmouth County my wife and I semi-frequently went to Gunnison. We aren’t really beach folks, so we would often arrive after 3:00 on a Sunday afternoon, when the crowd had thinned out and just stay for an hour or two. The prohibitions on sex weren’t as rigorous 20 years ago as they apparently are now. Kathy sometimes liked to go to the southern end of the beach, where there were few people and those present tended to be widely spaced, and masturbate. There was in those days a small amount of semi-discrete sex that went on. Still, I was on one occasion quite surprised to find a nude couple — youngish woman and older man — both nude and fully engaged in mutual oral just a hundred feet or so from where the path from the parking lot diverges to the clothing-optional fork to the right and the textile northern path to the left. It seemed a bit too ‘out-there" to me.

My husband would never accept to do something like this, I did try a lot of times to convince him, but he is categorical in his decision. Well, I can understand him, he loves me too much to share with another guy, but at least he is not jealous about the girls, so when I am going to https://www.ladybirdsweb.co.uk/ for erotic message, I always take him with me. He enjoys it a lot, and I very glad about this. If we can't have more boys, at least we can have more girls, and I like this option as much as the other one.

It finally happened! My wife and I have been to a few swinger clubs, but she only allowed people to watch never touch, this went on for a few years. We were talking and I was explaining the way we should look at is that adding another guy is like me using her toys on her, use it, have fun then put it away. I asked her how about an erotic massage in a nice hotel by me and another guy? To my surprise and excitement, she said she thinks she could do that! My wife is a 42 yr old Colombian with large man-made C cups, thin waist and a med/lg ass. She only had 4 lovers in her past and all of them just did vanilla sex. Boy did I expand her world when we got married LOL! She is absolutely beautiful with a heart of gold, so I wanted to make sure this was amazing but most of all safe. I came up with limits so she would feel comfortable and safe. First, she would be on the massage table, when he came in and she would be blindfolded as she gets embarrassed easily. Second, the guy would not talk unless asked something by me or her. Third, no rough stuff, just gentle massage. I would allow oral and fingering on her by him but oral on him only if she initiated it. Fourth, I told her at the end after we make her cum, I would ask her Green light, Yellow light or Red light? Green would be to continue with sex from both of us, yellow is sex with me only but he can watch and touch, and Red was thank you but he leaves as I want only my husband now. Lastly, I would meet with the guy before the massage and if I felt the slightest hesitation, I would call it off. She liked the rules. I then started looking when “S” PM’d me. He said he was flying into San Antonio on business and was willing to help. We PM’d back and forth while giving me advice as he said he had helped others get introduced into the LS. He answered every question I had so we made plans to meet when he landed and give the massage to my wife later that evening (only time we both had before he returned home). When I met him a few hours prior to the massage he was so polite that my anxiety level went to zero. We again went over the wife’s limits I came up with and he had no problem with any of them. My wife was blindfolded and on the massage table with a towel over her ass when he arrived. He immediately went to the restroom and undressed and washed his hands. When he came out, massage music was playing, and I had those battery powered candles lighting the room. To make her comfortable with another man’s hands on her we started with her neck and back. After about 10 minutes we moved the towel covering her ass and we began to massage her lower half. We moved slow going from her ass back up to her back then down her legs. I bent her knee moving her lower leg inward at an angle and her pussy became exposed to him for the first time. The light from the candles made her already wet pussy glisten. As we rubbed her inner thighs we would graze her pussy lips…..she was SOOO wet. When we flipped her we began working on her breasts. I was getting so turned on watching another man touch my woman. “S” moved nice and slow over her nipples then down her arm as I did the same. Her nipples were becoming hard as we lightly massaged each breast. We went lower toward her landing strip pubic hair but being careful not to go too far in order to drive her wild. When we moved to her legs, we started with her feet then moved up. We bent both of her legs inward at an angle so the bottom of her feet were touching each other…..this opened her pussy wide. We again worked her inner thighs but this time moving our hands right over her pussy lips……this drove me wild seeing him touch her. I then went down on her and she was drenched in her juices, NOT just wet….drenched, and it tasted so good. At that point I looked up at “s” and offered my wife’s pussy to him. He began to eat her out and I saw her mouth open and could tell she was in pure ecstasy. He wrapped his lips around her clit and sunk his fingers deep inside her…..she let out an amazing moan. I got out the clit vibrator and started to tease her clit while “S” bent two of his fingers to massage her g-spot. I handed the vibrator to “S” while I started to massage her breasts and nipples. “S” kept up the fingering mixed with licking until she had the most intense orgasm, I have ever seen her have! She about rolled off the table it was so intense! She motioned for him to stop but continued to twitch for over a minute. After we let her calm down, I moved her to the edge of the table spreading her legs apart and started to fuck her. She was so soaking wet I slid right in. I looked over and she had “S” cock in her hand slowly playing with it…..I had to think of baseball in order not to cum right there LOL!! “S” then moved to the head of the table to hold her head as it was falling off the table…..what a gentleman! She grabbed his arms and had another orgasm while I came deep in her soaking pussy. “S” smiled at me and quietly left as my wife and I held each other. It was perfect. She told me she LOVED the experience and wants to do it again ?. We went home and fucked two more times. The next day “S” texted me to check on my wife to make sure she was doing good. I can’t tell you enough how much I appreciate “S” in helping us take the next step……thanks man!!……D&J

My wife doesn't play without condoms unless the gentleman in question has become a regular and only plays with her. She doesn't want to restrict them in any sense, but just asks that if they are going to play with someone else that she is informed about it, and can thus be STI safer with condoms. Otherwise, she'll play with him bareback. With bareback, she always wants her men to cum inside of her, likes to have me cum in side of her too, so she feels sloppy with cum. A favorite fantasy of hers is to have many men cum inside of her without condoms, but sadly that will very likely never happen. My wife dislikes condoms more than any other woman I've ever been with. She very much enjoys feelings a man cum inside of her. For my part, I thoroughly enjoy watching my wife have sex with another man, and however she and he want him to cum is fine with me. That said, I enjoy having sex with her right after another man has cum inside of her. Side note; interesting this thread has been running for 17 years!

Somehow this has turned into a vaccination thread. Going back to the original post, there is a sense of relief, of hope, of excitement now that the CDC has provided reassuring information about the safety of congregating provided those congregating have been vaccinated. Many, including ourselves, are coming out from the bunker--or at least the "bunker mentality"--and it feels great. Some of us have lost friends --some deaths from COVID, others from more prosaic causes--and perhaps this adds a sense of urgency towards living life while we have life to live.

we feel as if there isnt enough research yet to prove the effectiveness of the vaccine. Its to much in the infancy stage to know if its safe or not

we actually (we- my husband and I) are not

Well... i met a guy last night after work and i got to say it was my first time squirting. My hubby is the best but i met this other medic/cop on a helicopter and he was...well he was gorgeous. Dark hair buff...mmm.... well we decided to go out on a date and well ya know how that goes. I wore a summer dress and he was in slacks and a polo... muscles were pounding through his shirt and well we went to his house and omg.... He was well...above average and i will say that in my life ive never squirted but i did with him. i just couldnt help myself. i felt so bad though because his side of the bed was soaking. I literally dont know what happened but i squirted hard on him and well he had to lay in it. Idk why but its embarassing to me but i guess it shouldnt be ???

Just another way of your body letting you know that it’s enjoying itself. Sheets can be washed, experiences like that should not be looked down on because your body had a release. If he’s like me, he took it as a compliment, then did a load of laundry. Kudos to you for having a great experience.

We've had several MFMs, always enjoyed the fun, never felt uncomfortable. The attention has always been on my wife, never any M2M action, but that may happen sometime soon.

I don't think going to another party would help things. Rather the opposite. The two of you really need to talk, without any expectations that there will be more play. It's important for the relationship. There's a lot of processing going on, for her and for you. Both of you would benefit from talking through your emotions, and discussing your relationship. I wouldn't advise doing anything swinging related for the time being. I doubt she's ready for that again, and she may never be. That's ok. As luv2was mentioned, you're fortunate that she was willing to go to a club with you. Relax, take your time, relish the memories of that night, and talk with her. Be completely open with her.

We have. It really depends on the mental maturity of all four people.

not yet :(.......but watched 3 guys so far eat and finger her pussy.....those were awesome