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Every newbie nudie has that moment when they look around and say to themselves I’m the only one with a bathing suit on. You wait for the others with you to strip and then hesitantly drop yours thinking please let it hang. Our first time at Gunnisons was with three other couples, I had fucked all four women, my wife, two of the women many times and the fourth woman just once. My wife likewise had been with the men. We had all been nude together before, nude and having sex, and I felt funny stripping on the beach. To me it was so different from what we had done before, I looked at the women in a way I never saw before. My wife’s closest friend who was my first swing partner and the woman I’ve had sex with so many times was just nude in front of me on a sand chair. Only second to my wife, I knew every part of her body intimately, I was catching myself staring at her think how beautiful she is. The same pussy that my mouth was on so many times, I was now just looking at. I saw these women as beautiful beings. Nudity is freeing in many ways.

A doggie-69. Conventional doggie style sex with a friend under the girl, either male or female, having mutual oral sex with the girl getting pounded from behind!

We both love to see people wearing welcoming smiles! (and occasionally, little else).

We are heading out to Gunnison with two couples who are new to nudism and nude beaches. One is all for it, the other very nervous. If you see us, we will have a multi-color umbrella, blue blanket close to the water, I’m the blonde with a Yankee hat, 5’3”, he’s 5’9”, will be 6 of us, say Hello. Most likely will be going for drinks after in either the Highlands or Sea Bright.

A spit roast. One man is behind a woman having sex doggy style. One man is in front of the same woman receiving oral sex. Never fails to excite.

Due to our jobs and an uptick in cases we decided to take a break for a little bit. I prefer older men and due to the countless exposures or possible exposures we have had we wanted to see the numbers die down so we didnt potentially put anyone at risk. Two days ago i went in for a normal shift and we had started to look at our apps again to just test the waters. I had found a guy that was older (my type) on tinder and we started to chat a little bit I've found that its difficult to explain the swinging situation to a new person especially those that i dont meet on a swinger site. It still seems so weird to the outside world even though its common and something we have been involved with for some times now. As worrisome or at least in my mind is telling someone i work in healthcare in the middle of a pandemic. If that isn't a scarlet letter idk what is. We decided to meet for breakfast after i got off yesterday morning. We met up and had a decent conversation over breakfast and decided to meet later that day. I spent the afternoon getting ready as per usual. Picking out clothes lingerie etc. We had decided to meet at his place which is uncommon for me. I typically dont like meeting at someones house for safety reasons but it was spur of the moment and i got decent vibes from him. I remembered the rush i missed from the short time we had taken a break from swinging. The butterflies almost like a first date but with known outcomes. We talked a while and shared some cocktails. Its amazing that most of the questions asked to me are about my job. Apparently its more interesting than i think. After a while we started to make out and exchange oral sex. After several hours we had finished our escapades. The breath of fresh air to me was not only the sexual activities but the human interaction that was missed. It was a brief reminder of life pre pandemic. We will continue to keep an eye on outbreaks and do our part to keep others safe but this was a nice break from what has been a long nightmare to most healthcare workers regardless of their situation.

My wife and I have discussed this and we will NOT being seeing anyone we know. This will cause too much conflict. The less the other person knows about our personal life the better.

Same here … except it was on Saturday.

Finding a man for a MFM threesome is like finding a cheeseburger in McD's. They're EVERYWHERE. What is harder is finding the RIGHT man for the job. Establish your limits and rules first (knowing that they can be changed after discussing them outside of a sexual scenario, never when things are happening). Then start looking on one of the swinger websites (see: please visit our sponsors at the top of the page...most will let you set up a free profile). Say exactly what you want in the profile...that you are looking for a connection and are taking your time. You'll still get literally HUNDREDS of responses. Week them down and then start meeting them (you will learn more about them in 5 minutes in person than 5 years of email/text/talking via phone). If one isn't right or steps over the line or moves too fast or whatever, move on to the next. I cannot overemphasize HOW MANY MEN you will be contacted by. Don't be afraid to toss one back if they aren't exactly what you are looking for.

I think you're in dangerous waters. If this is a path she wants to take, supporting her and recognizing that it will be difficult and probably painful for her is the best you can do. However, and please forgive me, it sounds like you are the one driving here. That this is something you want to do... you say you want to do it for her and that's admirable, but is it really something she wants to do, or is she doing it for you? Only she can answer that honestly. Assuming that she is doing it for herself, even with the best intentions, you are almost certainly risking reopening wounds... and while healing those wounds is good, it probably won't be a fun, pleasurable experience for anyone at the start. Honestly, I think you'd be much better served investing in a good therapist with experience dealing with traumatic events. After a good, professionally guided walk down this road, then she might be ready for the experience you are hoping for. My $.02, take it for what it's worth.

We think it is breaks time. IF this is really meant to be, everyone can wait. There is a fourth person at the table who does not even know what is going on. Poly is about trust and honesty. I don't think that is where your marriage is.

The transformational image of "nudist turned into a swinger" might be slightly off the mark. Both social nudism and consensual non-monogamy (swinging) are alternative lifestyles that remove a restriction on ordinary vanilla life. Vanilla people shower nude, take a bath nude, and not infrequently sleep nude. They are seen by their spouses nude, they change in locker rooms with members of the same sex and so on. That's the usual limit constrained by social norms, although there are those who participate in world naked gardening day, or some other one-off event who do not consider themselves nudist. Nudists remove the constraint. Nudists socialize nude and do not see anything unusual about doing ordinary things nude in the presence of the opposite sex. They are simply more comfortable in their own skin than they are camouflaged. Vanilla people masturbate, watch porn, have sex, engage in fantasy, do some role play, but claim to do so in a monogamous way. Non-monogamy for them is non-consensual and is called cheating. Cheating is so common that it might be considered a social norm: the tabloids are full of breathless revelations and consequences. Swingers remove the constraint. They have sex with others and do not see anything unusual in taking their interest and fantasies outside the boundary created by monogamy. They are simply more comfortable accepting the drive for sexual variety than trying to suppress it. There is a common thread: vanilla life is defined by social norms--behaviors that widely practiced bounded from behaviors that are not widely practiced. The opposite of "vanilla" is "not vanilla" and encompasses a wide range of alternative choices. What binds nudists and swingers is their initial decision to engage in any alternative choice. The first step from vanilla to non-vanilla is the longest. After that, it becomes a question of what alternatives fit an individual and a couple. This may explain why traditional G-rated social nudism promulgated by the AANR has declined in favor of broader removal of restrictions at gatherings and resorts and greater tolerance of choice. These places have become "nudist resorts" and more non-vanilla destinations that are nude-friendly, swinger-friendly, non-binary etc.

Got to agree with mediccouple...doesn't mean we haven't got it or that we haven't already had Covid (we both have), but we look forward to things hopefully FINALLY returning to somewhat normal.

we actually (we- my husband and I) are not

The lifestyle is a closed community, so the stigma of STDs holds far more weight than in the vanilla world. I believe most couples hide their status and schedule dates around flare ups. Add in the open secret that plenty in the lifestyle go bareback on occasion, and it becomes obvious HPV and HSV are prevalent in the lifestyle. There is no contact tracing in the lifestyle. Couples just silently drop out or give other reasons that provide the possibility to return.

Thanks for the insight. I guess that strip clubs are all small operations, so a big consulting firm has never done an analysis of the business. You now have me thinking about competitive advantages, threats from other forms of sexual entertainment, scalability, labor issues, regulatory demands... What percentage of performers do you think are independent contractors who pay for time on stage and earn their money by lap dances, and how many are employees who just perform on stage?

I participated in a DVP with a wonderful married couple multiple times. We would only get together once a month as the wife considered it her husband and hers "special date night" and wanted it to always be special. We started doing DVP after a couple of times being together and I'll admit at first it sort of weirded me out being so close to another man but soon realized this was all about the woman being pleasured. The husband was straight like me but he loved bringing his wife to sexual ecstasy. It was a HUGE turn on to see how the wife would just get lost in fucking and cumming. I've never experienced DVP again and I do so miss it. Slow and slippery was our motto.