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My GF has an extreme submissive sexual fetish as well. It's interesting because I don't think it's that weird that she likes to be submissive to men during sex but I do think it's weird that she doesn't like to discuss it much. It took me awhile and several sessions watching her get dominated by other men to truly understand just how incredibly submissive she actually is. I think it's odd that she will open up to people about swinging, put herself on display publicly, fuck in front of people, etc but she doesn't like to tell people she is submissive in bed. It is one of those puzzling things I just don't understand. As far as your mindset is concerned that is really on you to figure out. I wouldn't put much thought into the terms cuckold or bull. They are just words. I also think you have to get over the idea of your masculinity being challenged by a "bull." Plenty of guys have dominated and fucked my GF a lot harder and rougher than I ever will but I don't see it as challenging my masculinity because I don't think being sexually dominant or rough makes someone more masculine. I notice that sometimes in the heat of the action some guys will try to fuck rougher and harder and be more dominant than the other guy fucking my GF like it's almost some kind of a pissing contest. But at the end of it all I don't think that makes one person more masculine than the other. It's all a mindset.

Ooops, I momentarily got her confused with Anne Boleyn. My deepest apologies, and thank you for pointing out my error.

That's one thing I learned from the guy who was my new boyfriend and became my husband, it's not the sex, it's the lack of honesty. And the honesty is not painful, it's a turn-on,

The first time we went to a nudist resort, we were told on the tour that we didn't have to take anything off during the visit, but most likely we would feel...uncomfortable (for lack of a better word) after awhile since we would be different from everyone else. While this wasn't going to be a problem for us, there was another couple in the tour that was obviously having problems with the concept of being nude. It took them less than an hour before they were topless, two hours and they were nude. Your friends may be nervous now, but it becomes easier to undress when you are the only one with clothes on.

There is something about being free on a beach right here in NJ. It’s a shame that they did away with drinking, I enjoyed having a beer or a bottle of wine while sunning, it was an easy way to meet new people. A few years ago I hit the jackpot because of a bottle of wine. I was alone on the beach reading my Kindle, sipping on a drink when two women asked me if drinking was legal on the beach. They had that distinct Philadelphia accent and said they didn’t know drinking was okay. Being a gentleman I offered to share what I brought. That led to some interesting conversation. Their first time on a clothing optional beach, both divorced, away for a girls day at the shore. I told them I was single, I lied, and I enjoy the sights on this beach. They became flirty and we spent the day together. When I started to leave they begged me to join them for more drinks if I had no plans. They invited me to shower at their hotel and we can do a happy hour. They said they already saw me naked so it’s no big deal for me to shower and get dressed. I knew they had planned this, I heard them talking. No sex on the beach, I think their night out was planned after that first drink. While I’ve had many one-nighters, being picked up by two women was novel for me. That happy hour lasted longer than an hour, then they insisted on buying dinner. A win win day at the beach.

We were very emphatic that it’s a nude beach not a sex beach. No smoking, no drinking, no hanky panky and No Clothes. We never saw any real sex on the beach. If it happens it’s discreet, and you will be arrested if caught. You can’t even drink there anymore. It was a fun day, I think the men were more self conscious getting undressed. Guys will be guys and when they saw pretty 20somethings they gawked. Funny thing happened, I was walking by the water with one of the women and we were approached by two women to join them. Being nude with our new friends is much different from being nude for sex. Being with people who never were at a nude beach or being nude in front of thousands was full of laughs. We are used to the imperfect bodies, hate to admit they were being childish, they behaved in spite of that. The best part, we have new friends who we enjoyed being with. It was great to be with people again socially.

When we lived in Monmouth County my wife and I semi-frequently went to Gunnison. We aren’t really beach folks, so we would often arrive after 3:00 on a Sunday afternoon, when the crowd had thinned out and just stay for an hour or two. The prohibitions on sex weren’t as rigorous 20 years ago as they apparently are now. Kathy sometimes liked to go to the southern end of the beach, where there were few people and those present tended to be widely spaced, and masturbate. There was in those days a small amount of semi-discrete sex that went on. Still, I was on one occasion quite surprised to find a nude couple — youngish woman and older man — both nude and fully engaged in mutual oral just a hundred feet or so from where the path from the parking lot diverges to the clothing-optional fork to the right and the textile northern path to the left. It seemed a bit too ‘out-there" to me.

Hubby always bring up wanting another girl involved, wanted me eat her while he fucks me, her eat me while he fucks her. I do admit I was not in it at first. I do have a kinky side of me fantasize things... I told him I may do so if I can have another guy to fuck. Oh gosh well here we are.

Have you ever considered the possibility that you really just want to suck a cock and have it cum in your mouth?

I had more partners when I was single as serial monogamist than when I started swinging as a couple or now in a V.

This is a perennial question. It seems more cultural than biological, in the sense that many cultures are used to casual nudity. It is a peculiarly American perspective that tightly links social nudity to sexual interest and activity. The usual dynamic seems to be something like the following... 1. There is a combination of angst and excitement about the first trip to a nude beach or resort. Indeed, the angst is so great that the American club or resort policy is usually stated as "clothing-optional" and allowances are made for first-time visitors. 2. On arrival, there are all these people doing what everyone does on their front lawn, or by the pool, or at any other place--except they are naked. They have scars, wrinkles, sags, bellies etc. They look like everyone else does stepping out of the shower. The conversations are about weather, cars, sports teams, youtube cat videos...indistinguishable from what one hears at any July 4 cookout. 3. It occurs to the new people (if they are still dressed) that they are suddenly the exception. Clothes come off quickly, the etiquette of carrying and sitting on towels is rapidly learned and the focus becomes getting enough sunscreen on to avoid resembling a boiled lobster. All of this is the antithesis of erotic. There is enough of the "will we fit in?" and "how do we introduce ourselves while naked?" angst and so on that sex is pretty far from anyone's brain. At most, people suddenly notice that it's a lot more comfortable being naked in the sun and in the pool or or on the beach.