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As the wife, you are in control. After ensuring your husband is feeling happy and included (which should. be easy if he's into this,) the only true responsibility is to ensure that you have fun. Discuss with your husband before the first meet that you intend to flirt with the man, and let him know that you intend to draw the man into a liaison. That he should not feel you are 'ignoring' him, simply that for both your pleasure you will be interacting with your potential lover more than you will him. Have a safe word that he can say to slow things down if he is uneasy. Make sure it is unique enough that you are certain to hear it. If he says it, start paying more attention to your husband, find out what the issue is before going back to full-on flirting. However, unless you hear that word, have the belief that what you are doing is fine with your husband - it's his responsibility to say it, not yours to anticipate it. Take the flirtation as far as you want to, as far as you are comfortable with. If you decide that you want to take it as far as going to a private place and getting naked, try to have a short conversation with your husband as to your intention, let him agree with it. As far as knowing if/when you are ready, it's really easy. If the juices are flowing and there are no doubts, you're ready! Best of luck.

For us, chemistry is the key to a house party so our group doesn’t leave it up to chance. We have a core group of couples who are invited to house parties. If any of those core folks want to invite a new couple or a single to the party - it is understood that they have already played with them and had a good experience(s). Also, they are essentially taking responsibility for introducing the new couple and ensuring they aren’t left out, etc. Only one or two new couples/singles are introduced at a time which keeps things low risk. If the new folks mesh well they’ll get another invite…and ultimately become part of the core group. We don’t host or attend parties that are a collection of strangers - too much potential for drama.

One way to avoid the staring contest is to have some couples whom you know well and have played with each other multiple times in the past. Let them know before the party that you are counting on them to get things started if there is hesitation among the other guests. It is hard for hosts to get things started, because they have hosting responsibilities. This scenario works well when there is only one play area (my personal preference). It's much harder to do when guests are permitted to go to separate rooms.

First realize that your main job is to make sure everyone else is having fun and nobody feels left out or ignored. Second, knowing that you probably not going to be playing (much) since the way to host a perfect house party is to make sure everyone else is having fun and nobody feels left out or ignored.

A few reflections. 1. For a first house party, best to include couples you know. If you choose to extend to couples you don't know, do so through the couples you do know. 2. Ask for a response (RSVP). If there is a change in plans, or the couple knows they will be delayed more than 15 min, ask that they contact you. 3. Food and drink are essential social lubricants. Offer plenty of light food, plenty of non-alcoholic beverages. 4. If the various guests do not know each other, catalyze some level of "meet and greet" during the initial hour. In modern times, "cocktail hour social skills" have become rare and introductions often need to be made. If all else fails, have some simple backup, for example, ask every guest to introduce themselves and mention something interesting about themselves. This helps anchor names and faces. 5. There has to be an icebreaker, something to mark the transition from an otherwise vanilla evening. This is perhaps the most important thing a host couple will do. There are basically three available signals. (A) Changing the environment (lighting, music, turn the thermostat up a fair bit, change the venue). (B) Changing the outfit ("slip into something more comfortable" or just disrobe completely). (C) Change the interaction among the guests (with a game that somehow brings different people into proximity, e.g. can men pick out their wives blindfolded simply by their scent, can the ladies pick out their men by feeling their butts, etc.) 6. Do what you can to make sure no couples feel left out. This happens with fair frequency. There are variations on the icebreaker , of course. Maybe not for a first party, but one fun party we attended specified that the cocktail hour would be nude. Another party had a adult variation on the "white elephant" Christmas party, except each couple was asked to bring adult "toy" with a maximum price of $20, and the host couple put in a "good prize" of a Hitachi Wand. There was also a strip poker add-on: with each gift drawn and each steal, the receiving couple had to remove one article of clothing each. Anything to get couples interacting will work. Have fun and good luck!

Gunnisons is a Federal Park beach with Federal Park rangers and they will prosecute it federal courts if caught. You can’t even drink a beer on this beach, a fine payable in Federal court. I haven’t done a poll of people on the beach, my guess Most are not swingers, most are not voyeurs, most are not exhibitionists. Some might be, not most. You say you have been nudists since 1969 but T has posted she has been since 1972 in another post. Memories “dose” vary.

My husband will say I’m Shrinnnnking after he cums and stays in me. Think he said it’s from a movie. If he’s in my mouth it’s fun when he shrinks and his balls tighten up and I get him bigger again.

In 1969, I was in Europe and lucky enough to be at the Isle of Wight Music Festival. It was England's answer to Woodstock. Many of the same artists were featured. Some friends, including myself, went to the beach where we found a waterfall coming off the rocky cliff. We all showered. Air-drying afterwards, we watched a fellow who would approach a nude lady walking along the beach and ask her if she'd care to have sex in the sand. Most didn't answer, but pushed beyond him and continued on their way. One, however, stopped, looked him in the eye for a moment. Then she stepped into his arms and delivered an enormous kiss. She stepped back from the encounter and said, "No, thank you," and went on her way, leaving his penis waving at the horizon. This has nothing to do with the question, but I thought I'd share the experience.

My wife and I have been nudists for 40 years. We have seen it all. There are some guys who just can't keep it down no matter what. But the majority of men soon learn how to keep their erections down even in most erotic occations that might spring up. But there is just one thing I have seen that is so common among men, leaking precum. That is so much impossible to stop. Even with the life long nudist men. But I have found women love to see it. We have nude dances and I try not to get it on the women but most love feeling it on them. In some places erections and precum are looked at as rude and nonexcusible. Other places it's seen normal natural function of the male, so no big deal.

I am getting ready to head out to the midwest for a week to see family. I'm taking our kids but my wife has used too much vacation already (prior family emergency) and is opting to stay home. As a consolation I have arranged to have our regular male 3rd stay at home to keep my wife company while I'm gone. We have only done something like this once before when he took her to Vegas and honestly we are all just fine with the arrangements. Completely turned on and excited actually. Does anybody else take vacation or weekends away with playmates - unaccompanied by spouse?

Both me and my GF have taken a few separate vacations. They are mostly just weekend trips. Actually right before the pandemic I was supposed to go on a weekend trip with 2 of my buddies to a casino which we do all the time. We split a suite 3 ways but right before the trip I had a bunch of work that came up that I needed to get done and I wouldn't be able to get it done on the car ride up and didn't feel like bringing my laptop and just doing all the work in the hotel so I backed out. Since it was all paid and I didn't want to ask for my money back my GF volunteered to go with them. She had fun and obviously they had a blast with her. They kept me in the loop during their sexual activities and I got a call from them in the car driving up while my GF was blowing my buddy and I could hear her gagging on his cock. 99.9% of the time I love hearing that stuff and being kept in the loop but I had so much work to do that weekend it was a distraction. I would have enjoyed it more if I just got to stay home and relax without worrying about a deadline and enjoy the sex calls, pics, vids, etc. It was still hot but I was up 2 straight nights working while they were gambling and fucking so not as enjoyable for me as them. But still hot.

I second Fundamental Law’s suggestion about paying attention to couples who are left out. Introduce people to other people. Make sure that some guests are not relegated to the coffee cake just because they are a little shy. House parties can be Darwinian and nice people can be overlooked and leave with bad feelings. Sometimes unavoidable, but you’ll feel great if you match up people on the sidelines.

I’m sure there are people taking 8x10 glossy pictures with circles and arrows and a paragraph on the back of each one describing what they saw. I have no problem with drinking on the beach, Springsteen was just fined in the parking lot drinking a shot of tequila. Sure there are voyeurs, exhibitionists and people with minds that are somewhere in space. I look!! Guess looking goes with newbies to the beach. There are prancers too, guys who like to show off their showers. Sex has no place on this beach, it’s a family beach. It’s not a swingers club, not Hedonism. If you have been here, there are children who are coming with their families. Anyone wanting sex in a group setting has other places they can go.

In our group, one of the wives cleans up after sloppy seconds.

Many thanks njbm!

If there are couples you haven’t met, make sure you have a vote of confidence from someone you know and trust. Meeting new couples is part of the fun, as long as they are not drunks that trash your house. You may want to telephone verify to feel better.

A beautiful image regardless of the size of the tits; full, nipples pointy.

My wife will sometimes plead to be submissive, but only to some women. With men she is dominant and in control, but neutral with me. When we've talked about it, she says it's all a game. One she clearly loves playing. Or even beyond the words, even the acts: As long as no one is getting hurt and it's all consensual, it is play. I've never heard that term before, but I know what you mean. Daniela can be naked, on her back, her legs spread, getting pounded, but with a guy she is definitely in control, getting what she wants. If it's not what she wants at the moment, she will change it. Many times I've seen a guy getting ready to pump his load in her, and she'll pop him out and have him go down on her to keep things going a bit longer.

Getting there early because parking is hard. The beach goers are very friendly and not what I thought. Very freeing and fun

It's like asking if a woman's mouth will be looser after sucking bigger dicks.

1199 SEIU United Health Care Workers East is the nation's largest health care union, representing more than 450,000 nurses, pharmacists, nurse practitioners, physician assistants, laboratory technicians, radiological technicians, dieticians, and other medical professionals, in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, and Florida. Anyone even remotely familiar with, for instance, the educational requirements of a nursing degree or pharmacology degree, and the state board examination requirements for licensure, would literally laugh-out-loud at the notion that these medical professionals are somehow under-educated.

It appears that 96% of physicians are vaccinated, whereas 150ish nurses were terminated at a Houston hospital for refusing to get vaccinated. I suggest that there is a correlation between high educational attainment and getting vaccinated.

Every newbie nudie has that moment when they look around and say to themselves I’m the only one with a bathing suit on. You wait for the others with you to strip and then hesitantly drop yours thinking please let it hang. Our first time at Gunnisons was with three other couples, I had fucked all four women, my wife, two of the women many times and the fourth woman just once. My wife likewise had been with the men. We had all been nude together before, nude and having sex, and I felt funny stripping on the beach. To me it was so different from what we had done before, I looked at the women in a way I never saw before. My wife’s closest friend who was my first swing partner and the woman I’ve had sex with so many times was just nude in front of me on a sand chair. Only second to my wife, I knew every part of her body intimately, I was catching myself staring at her think how beautiful she is. The same pussy that my mouth was on so many times, I was now just looking at. I saw these women as beautiful beings. Nudity is freeing in many ways.

When we lived in Monmouth County my wife and I semi-frequently went to Gunnison. We aren’t really beach folks, so we would often arrive after 3:00 on a Sunday afternoon, when the crowd had thinned out and just stay for an hour or two. The prohibitions on sex weren’t as rigorous 20 years ago as they apparently are now. Kathy sometimes liked to go to the southern end of the beach, where there were few people and those present tended to be widely spaced, and masturbate. There was in those days a small amount of semi-discrete sex that went on. Still, I was on one occasion quite surprised to find a nude couple — youngish woman and older man — both nude and fully engaged in mutual oral just a hundred feet or so from where the path from the parking lot diverges to the clothing-optional fork to the right and the textile northern path to the left. It seemed a bit too ‘out-there" to me.

I used to believe all that "patriotic duty" stuff too. Then, I started noticing the number of times our gov't has misled, and outright lied to us. So, some skepticism about whatever our collective leadership tells us in certainly in order. Particularly when they pull the "it's your patriotic duty" card... It's their body - it's their choice.

Not to be a nag, but I am surprised that people in the medical field choose to be unvaccinated. They have seen fatal and near fatal covid cases. They are exposed to a lot of people who may be sick and/or unvaccinated. Protect yourself! When I was young, they offered a polio vaccine. Everyone ran to have their children get it. Polio, a dreaded illness in this country, has been largely defeated. I don’t remember anyone concerned about their rights, freedom, decision making process, etc. back then. We were thrilled to end a dreaded disease. If this country had to band together and fight World War II in today’s atmosphere, we would lose miserably. No community effort. Everyone’s freedom prevails over everything else.

I really believe it is one’s patriotic duty to get vaccinated to knock out the virus. So far, I have heard about more bad outcomes and long term problems from covid, not much from the vaccine. Would hate to have our country look like India or Brazil. In terms of mass casualties per capita. Probably will not due to fairly widespread vaccine acceptance in the US.

we feel as if there isnt enough research yet to prove the effectiveness of the vaccine. Its to much in the infancy stage to know if its safe or not

we actually (we- my husband and I) are not

When it is up, difficult to keep it down. When it is down, it refuses to go up. Idea is to ignore it, and let it take its own course.

When it happens, maybe someone will 'take a knee"!

I opened this thread to see if the problem was getting it up or keeping it down. Could be either way depending on the situation.

I've never gotten a full on, ready for sex boner while at a nude resort or beach, at least not when I wouldn't have wanted it. Varying degrees of erection? Yes and it wasn't anything to be embarrassed of or to show off. It just was.

Reminds me of a similar story - I believe if I remember correctly it was at the same music festival - may years ago. Lack of sufficient toilets resulted in a row of men peeing against a wall. One kept asking passing women if they would like to hold his penis for him while he urinated. Eventually one said yes. As he started she directed it on his shoes and pants and left it still peeing on his feet. Not a lot he could say but it certainly got some laughs from everyone else.

It happens but as long as it isn't being used who cares. I remember a Bare Necessities Cruise excursion in St Lucia where the guide stripped down to go in the waterfall pool with us. What a sword he had! Some giggles from the ladies but no "big" deal?

We have been to Sandy Hook too. For the most part it is as you said. On occasion I have seen full staffs. It is usually men who are alone or like you said gawkers. Last summer we saw a younger group, I guess in their twenties. From what we could tell first timers on the beach. You can tell how they undress. Some of the girls leaving their bottoms on, the guys jumping out of theirs. One of the guys got a little excited. One of the girls, I think his girlfriend was more embarrassed than him. There were towels thrown at him by his friends and towels pulled away in fun. I am pretty sure it subsided pretty fast.

I have give discrete handjobs at haulover and wreck beach. Deb.

We've seen a few "chubbies" at Haulover but the only real erections we've seen was the occasional couple who got a bit rambunctious while applying sunscreen to one another. Once in awhile that leads to a surriptitous hand job which we've found fun to watch. All in all, those things are the exception, not the rule.

Only happened to me once...because my cock was in my wife's mouth.

Actually I lied come to think of it. we had an experience that was not great at a local nude beach. Only us on the beach except for a few bi guys wandering through looking for hook ups. A guy came and sat near us and we chatted quite normally. Out in the water has asked me if we play and I said no thanks. But he sat there and stroked his dick, looking at my wife. I told him is was not cool but he didn't stop, so we left eventually. Just for the record, I would have been OK with it if she was - plenty of cover around there and he was hung like a horse. But she was not ready yet and not in those circumstances anyway.

We are long time Nudists, I can't speak for Wu but I tend to look people in the eyes, doesn't seem polite to stare at their other parts. I sometimes still get erections being close to Wu, like walking hand in hand, dancing. Some times it used to be mechanical when it was hot and we were playing tennis or volleyball and it would slap my thighs, once it started getting heavier it could be a progressive problem. But no one seemed to notice or at least care except Wu, although depending on the mood and situation she would think it was funny!

This is a perennial question. It seems more cultural than biological, in the sense that many cultures are used to casual nudity. It is a peculiarly American perspective that tightly links social nudity to sexual interest and activity. The usual dynamic seems to be something like the following... 1. There is a combination of angst and excitement about the first trip to a nude beach or resort. Indeed, the angst is so great that the American club or resort policy is usually stated as "clothing-optional" and allowances are made for first-time visitors. 2. On arrival, there are all these people doing what everyone does on their front lawn, or by the pool, or at any other place--except they are naked. They have scars, wrinkles, sags, bellies etc. They look like everyone else does stepping out of the shower. The conversations are about weather, cars, sports teams, youtube cat videos...indistinguishable from what one hears at any July 4 cookout. 3. It occurs to the new people (if they are still dressed) that they are suddenly the exception. Clothes come off quickly, the etiquette of carrying and sitting on towels is rapidly learned and the focus becomes getting enough sunscreen on to avoid resembling a boiled lobster. All of this is the antithesis of erotic. There is enough of the "will we fit in?" and "how do we introduce ourselves while naked?" angst and so on that sex is pretty far from anyone's brain. At most, people suddenly notice that it's a lot more comfortable being naked in the sun and in the pool or or on the beach.

It's rare in my experience. The only time I remember offhand was in the hot tub when I playfully sat on this guy's lap. I felt his woody on my back. Most people go to nudist beaches and resorts to relax, and with all the naked bodies around, I really feel that we get used to the nudity very quickly. This is something Mr. A was worried about too but I've never seen him with an erection.

We are long term nudists and short term swingers (30 years vs. 2 years). We've seen very few woodies at nude beaches and resorts. There was one character at Sandy Hook who was nicknamed Woody, but other than him, it was rare to see. After being nude for a few minutes, most people swim, sunbathe, play volleyball, etc. and forget they are naked. In swinging, stimulative activities begin and things rise. One hopes.

Several years ago at a club on the Mississippi Gulf Coast we had our first attempt at swinging. A lonesome looking single guy was alone at the bar. Lady C2S went over and asked him to dance. That simple act of kindness, friendliness on her part got us started in the lifestyle. However it turned into a less than great experience. The rest of the "clique" in the club avoided us like the plague. Bottom line is take your time and make sure you know and understand the ramifications of becoming the too friendly newbies would be our #1 thing to avoid if you invade a new club. Make sure you are accepted by the group before you hit on one of the available boy toys.

I know the clubs of which you speak, and for the record they are listed in our club listings here. I've had a few question me for doing so, saying that I should remove the club OR remove the statement of racism from their listing. My policy on listing clubs here, is pretty hands off, if it's a club it can be listed. I can't pick and choose. A club that states that they only allow one race, to me is no different than a club that only allows "pretty people" or "people of size". That said, there are clubs that are racist from the other extent (black only). Private membership clubs ALL have the right to pick and choose who they allow in. That said, I personally am glad that they state it up front, and I wish more of them did (I know there are some that don't). Doing so, does allow people to make the choice for themselves ahead of time, rather than going to club only to discover that the club ideology completely conflicts with their own (perhaps not even realizing it does until after several visits and a good chunk of change). Would I visit one of these clubs, definately not. Another question for you, are you bothered by clubs that for other reasons discriminate? Does it piss you off to see a black only club and realize you can't go? Or some other club whose policies prohibit you from attending?

Hi Jenn, glad to see some more people from Mississippi joining this site. I too have had alot of thoughts concerning emotions when it comes right down to seeing the wife with another man. We have talked and talked and well,you get the picture. To fantasize about this is one thing,but to actually go through with it is another matter. I guess you never really know how you are going to handle it until it happens. But rest assured,you have come to the right place. These guys and gals are very friendly and informative and their advice and expertise are very helpful. Oh by the way,we're in south MS. So maybe we could hook-up some time. J.