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Agree. Things do not have be rated. They can be enjoyed for what they are. I believe that The Doors sang “ Variety is the spice of life. That’s what the judge is going to tell my wife.”

We went back swinging with our favorite couple last night. Lesley said she wanted same room so Amy said she wanted Lesley to give me a BJ without using a condom. We arrived ready for lots of fun, and things started quickly. With a drink for starters the girls quickly had our clocks out of our pants, I removed Lesley's shirt to find her braless boobs waiting for attention. Ken soon had his hand inside Amy's panties. Let's go upstairs suggested Amy so off we went. We all got naked and started our foreplay. Great 69. Lesley spit out but Amy swallowed. Amy climbed onto Ken and I entered Lesley doggie fashion. Lots of errotic noises and little moans of pleasure. Lesley was first to orgasm, I followed shooting my sperm in her pussy. We went back downstairs and left Ken and Amy to finish. 30 minutes later they came back downstairs and Amy proclaimed she had just had the best sex of her life. ⁹

My wife and I agree that the preferred sex and favorite sex is with each other, but there is no "best" sex. It depends on what you're up for at the moment. You wouldn't want to have pizza for every meal. The whole reason for swinging is the variety. (And for my wife, the quantity.)

I played with a woman originally from Japan. Her husband forewarned me that she had a bush because that was culturally favored in Japan. I worked around it. Sort of nostalgic. A local shock jock said that when he went to college, no one shaved. He said that when he performed oral sex on a woman, it was like wrestling Chewbacca.

I believe a person’s age has a lot to do with what their attitudes regarding general hair will be. For my part, I started seeing porn in the early 1970s. Any of you here on the board who remember “Deep Throat", "The Devil in Miss Jones" or other classics of that era, will call that few if any of the actors were shaved — they all had full bushes. And if I recall correctly, none of the women I had sex with in my real life were shaved until well into the 1980s or maybe early ‘90s. In my own infrequent lifestyle activities in the 70s & 80s all my partners had bushes. But beginning about 15 years ago, when I got more deeply involved in the lifestyle, it was rare to find women (or men) who had anything more hirsute than a neatly trimmed landing zone. Shaved, full bush or somewhere in between, body hair is pretty far down on the list of reasons I want to play with people. But, I admit that for me looking at a woman’s shaved pussy leaves me with a just slightly queasy sense of pre-adolescence. And on those rare occasions when I do play with folks with full bushes, it adds to my enjoyment.

Firstly, we have to define the nature of the relationships to which we are referring: Are we referring to inter-office swingers? Married people having an affair? Or two single co-workers falling in love? Those are three very different kinds of relationships that usually lead to very different outcomes. The first two, upon discovery by management, will almost always end in termination for the parties involved--as they should. Nothing will screw up a work environment faster than illicit sexual relationships between co-workers. It is inherently destructive to team cohesion and workplace morale.

As the wife, you are in control. After ensuring your husband is feeling happy and included (which should. be easy if he's into this,) the only true responsibility is to ensure that you have fun. Discuss with your husband before the first meet that you intend to flirt with the man, and let him know that you intend to draw the man into a liaison. That he should not feel you are 'ignoring' him, simply that for both your pleasure you will be interacting with your potential lover more than you will him. Have a safe word that he can say to slow things down if he is uneasy. Make sure it is unique enough that you are certain to hear it. If he says it, start paying more attention to your husband, find out what the issue is before going back to full-on flirting. However, unless you hear that word, have the belief that what you are doing is fine with your husband - it's his responsibility to say it, not yours to anticipate it. Take the flirtation as far as you want to, as far as you are comfortable with. If you decide that you want to take it as far as going to a private place and getting naked, try to have a short conversation with your husband as to your intention, let him agree with it. As far as knowing if/when you are ready, it's really easy. If the juices are flowing and there are no doubts, you're ready! Best of luck.

While I respect your opinion, your example is not quite the same thing as what this couple is proposing. Having a relationship with someone who works for an outside company is not the same as having an ongoing relationship with someone you work with at the same firm. There is a reason why most Fortune 500 companies have higher level executives sign employment agreements that contain explicit prohibitions against such behavior. And there are many instances of high level executives having been terminated for violating the policy: Top executives at Boeing, McDonalds, Eli Lilly, BlackRock, Warner Bros, NBC Universal, and many others, all lost their jobs due to having affairs with co-workers. There is a simple rule in business: "Don't stick your d__k in the payroll."

We agree with GoldCoCouple. Pursuing lifestyle activities with someone at work is courting disaster. Look, in our opinion, people can pursue the lifestyle in one of two ways: Publicly or privately. But, it can't be both. If you choose to pursue the lifestyle with someone at work, the "secret" will get out. You will be exposed not only to the potential embarrassment, but it creates the conditions for myriad other professional and social complications, too. These should be fairly obvious.

We strongly don't believe that you should mix what happens in the bedroom with what happens at work or in public. You knew that he has had MFM's in the past so you also know that he tells others about his sex life. How would you feel if the entire office knew about your sex life? Finding a single guy for a MFM is just WAY TOO EASY (I can only assume you have been looking in the wrong places)...there are THOUSANDS looking for what you want. You just need to sort thru them to find what you both are looking for. The risk/reward of having this with someone you know is just too high in our opinion...

I get your reaction because the poster just joined to post this. My wife has been a member of a very popular cheating site that has millions of members. I am very aware of her membership and she knows I have strayed over the years. For a long time we didn’t talk about our extramarital affairs and when about our lives and then we had a big talk and did some swinging. My wife continues to meet married men with my knowledge and at times will tell me some very detailed accounts.

You just found him

Hello, I'm a disabled person,left foot amputee, which is recent, and also a single guy, and have found that this to be a deadly combination in this lifestyle. Although I've sent several e-mails to the people in my area I have found that many remain yet unread or are read and never replied to. It was and remains my hope to be able to first of all meet a single lady who is interested in the lifestyle and possibly find a soulmate, as well as to possibly meet some couples to have fun with, as well as make some new friends. I've written letters and posted on the Fla/Ga. forums asking couples and singles alike for help in meeting single ladies and/couples in my area, with absolutely no response, the only response I did get ended by my being told that their home wasn't big enough for a wheelchair, funny since I live in a 14 wide mobile that wasn't made for one either, but am doing perfectly well in it. The only other response was from a guy that wanted only m on m, which I'm not looking for. Since I've been involved in the lifestyle for sometime now as a married couple and as a single, I can see both sides of the situation concerning single males, but will never understand the "double standard" when it comes to it is ok for the hubby to have a single lady but not for the wife to have a single guy. It is my greatest hope that there is someone here in the north east Fla./southeast Ga. area who would like to make a new friend and be willing to introduce me to others. I'm not a leper, I'm not contagious. I will be walking again soon on a prosthesis, and hope that I'm not going to be scorned and ignored forever. The only thing missing or wrong with me is my left foot below the knee. Otherwise, I'm as able and capable as any other person out there! PLEASE everyone out there, take a minute to reply to others mail even if just to say your not interested. At LEAST at this site it doesn't cost you a dime! I think this site is great and am hoping to meet and make some new friends in the future! Thanks for the chance to express my "frustrations".