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My wife is the same, not wanting anything more from her time with them. She has told me most of the men, the cheaters, have terrific marriages and families. Those men weren’t looking for relationships, just a place to experience new things. I have no need to watch my wife enjoying herself. My take is many men on here for whatever reason want to watch a wife taken. I prefer she be with a married man with no expectation of a long term relationship. No falling in love. I understand those men, I’m one of them. It’s just sex for sex. If the sex isn’t fun there is no reason to meet again. I have no problem with her meeting married men, or having a day with a younger single guy if he knows her rules.

We prefer to play with committed swingers over cheating spouses. We hope to avoid the vengeful cheated on spouse discovering us and breaking up our fun. There are a lot of hot tempered people out there who are willing to do harsh things. We don’t want to do unethical things and contribute to the demise of marriages. There are plenty of consenting swingers.

I get your reaction because the poster just joined to post this. My wife has been a member of a very popular cheating site that has millions of members. I am very aware of her membership and she knows I have strayed over the years. For a long time we didn’t talk about our extramarital affairs and when about our lives and then we had a big talk and did some swinging. My wife continues to meet married men with my knowledge and at times will tell me some very detailed accounts.

You just found him

I agree. When my GF hooks up with married men or men who are in committed relationship it's purely about the sex. They also have their own separate lives so they are good at keeping distance and not being overbearing and constantly looking for more sex every second. And a lot of them are in good relationships but they are not getting fulfilled sexually. I have a friend who is happily married but he doesn't have as much sex as he wants and his wife will not even give him a blowjob - but my GF will. Is it wrong to have sex with married people? Maybe. But our feeling is that everyone involved is an adult and no one is being taken advantage of. So if everyone who is present is ok with it then we proceed forward.

Before we met, my wife had most of her relationships with married men, i.e. cheaters. She found the nature of those relationships, what they were and were not, suited her. (It wasn't sugar daddy stuff, she's a high earner.) They were relationships, some lasting years and many overlapping, but never any talk or worry of it going further. Daniela loved talking to these men about their wives, what they were like both sexually and in daily life. She encouraged the men to treat their wives, and especially their children, well. She tried to have it arranged to meet them. She loved to shop and pay for gifts for them to pass on to the wives. When she told me about this, as we got serious, I thought it was a bit psycho. When we did get totally serious and talked of marriage, Daniela said that she was ready to move to her monogamous stage since she would now have her own husband. It's what I expected and we went that route for a while. This is a long way around of saying that when we started couple swapping swinging, Daniela found it even more satisfying having relationships with married men whose wives know and participate. (Her Lesbian side is a whole other story too long to tell, except that it found satisfaction in swinging.) I never cheated on my first wife, so I'm left with the question what would have happened if I met Daniela before I was divorced? I imagine a world were I would have loved Daniela, remained faithful to my wife while Daniela was fucking other men.

We went back swinging with our favorite couple last night. Lesley said she wanted same room so Amy said she wanted Lesley to give me a BJ without using a condom. We arrived ready for lots of fun, and things started quickly. With a drink for starters the girls quickly had our clocks out of our pants, I removed Lesley's shirt to find her braless boobs waiting for attention. Ken soon had his hand inside Amy's panties. Let's go upstairs suggested Amy so off we went. We all got naked and started our foreplay. Great 69. Lesley spit out but Amy swallowed. Amy climbed onto Ken and I entered Lesley doggie fashion. Lots of errotic noises and little moans of pleasure. Lesley was first to orgasm, I followed shooting my sperm in her pussy. We went back downstairs and left Ken and Amy to finish. 30 minutes later they came back downstairs and Amy proclaimed she had just had the best sex of her life. ⁹

Before we met, Daniela had relationships with lots of married men because they were married and liked to have them talk about their wives. She's the kind of person who likes to sample off of other people's plates at a restaurant.

I don't think you are ever totally ready. At some point you just have to jump in and trust the water will be fine. If you find it's not, then get out. No blame, no harm, no foul. Stick together no matter what. One of our first meetings was with a single male. We had a drink then went for dinner. During drinks we both (the men) kissed my wife, not aggressively, lovingly. My wife broke the ice by kissing him gently upon meeting for the first time. It was a signal to him and my opportunity to kinda feel out me reaction. The night was more like getting in the pool using the stairs. First one step, water up to our ankles ( a few hugs and a few kisses), then the second step, water to our thighs (dinner with touching under the table and flirting). Her between us, us both touching her thigh, inner and outer. Third step more obvious and daring. Him kissing her at the table, then I, fingers inserted into her. Folks around us we're certainly interested in the beautiful woman and two men. More petting etc. The whole evening was a build up to the sex. It was so fun. At any point along that path we could have easily stopped and left. But in our case, we finally jumped in and loved the evening. Good luck.

It's only suspicious if you MAKE it look suspicious. Sneaking someone in and out will become a much bigger thing if someone else sees you sneaking them in or out...because you are being sneaky. The assumption is that you are trying to hide whatever you are doing from your partner, and not the neighbors which makes it much more...interesting and something to gossip about. Finding a single woman that is willing to play with you (in case you didn't already know) is called a unicorn...because finding a unicorn is usually easier than finding a single woman that is a swinger. They are to be CHERISHED and treated like the goddess they are, not hidden and treated like something you are ashamed of. Treat her bad and she will find another couple that will treat her right (feel free to give her our number and email ? ). If you treat having her spending the night like they are just a friend or relative spending the night, then there is nothing suspicious to see. Most people won't even ask as long as you don't make it look out of the ordinary. Short version: quit overthinking this and let us know how things went. Have fun!

My wife will sometimes plead to be submissive, but only to some women. With men she is dominant and in control, but neutral with me. When we've talked about it, she says it's all a game. One she clearly loves playing. Or even beyond the words, even the acts: As long as no one is getting hurt and it's all consensual, it is play. I've never heard that term before, but I know what you mean. Daniela can be naked, on her back, her legs spread, getting pounded, but with a guy she is definitely in control, getting what she wants. If it's not what she wants at the moment, she will change it. Many times I've seen a guy getting ready to pump his load in her, and she'll pop him out and have him go down on her to keep things going a bit longer.

There is something in there that makes me admire both of you.

It’s been our experience that finding a guy isn’t difficult at all. Finding one who will be honest about himself and his situation - his entire situation - is damn near impossible. We want to live out some fantasies and have fun, but not at the expense of our peace of mind, comfort, or someone else’s relationship or feelings.