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The posts about jumping in the pool are entertaining because our first experience was poolside. Followed more or less this same arc: 1) her feeling his cock for the first time, and once she collected herself (after initially literally getting out of the pool and walking away for a few minutes), sitting on his lap and taking off her top, then going down on him on a lounge chair. I felt a strong "point of no return" sensation when her head started bobbing, but absolutely no urge to stop it. It was more like suspense, and incredibly arousing. We're all adults and know what happens when a woman takes a man into her mouth, but the first time watching, I was not convinced it was going to happen until I saw her speeding up and heard the gulp. When we went to shower off after the pool we checked in to make sure we were both good. She ended up sucking the other dick at the party that night, and we didn't move on to full swap until the following evening, once we were alone with the first couple again, at our hotel.

So I was taking some new pictures of Ms Enhancer the other day and when she was looking at them her first comment is how she hates her cellulite! I reassured her that it doesn’t seem to have any effect on lots of other people finding her attractive and that I still think she has an amazing body regardless of her dislike of it. Sometimes it is just part of having a thick ass and thick thighs. Two things I just happen to love in a woman. So ladies do not worry about your cellulite being a turn off to others. Some of us think you are smoking hot just the way you are and wouldn’t change a thing about you.

I don’t remember not being shaven but I felt I needed to be even more hairless before meeting our first couple. I had never had a professional waxing only heard about bikini and Brazilian and decided to go the full bare way. Being fully inspected, not internally, only by my doctor now I’m there for some strange woman. Those of you who go for waxing know it’s not painless. I just told her go for the full thing not just the bikini. My husband normally trims but I talked him to fully shave everything. He agreed to do it for me. We met our first couple and she was like me, hairless. I figure she gets waxed. He was trimmed on top, his balls smooth. I was happy I had gone for the full treatment. I even thought my husband looked great shaved. We are now playing with friends of ours and it’s our first time with them. She has what my husband called a cute bush. Not a big bushy bush, just a trimmed soft bush. I am still new to doing anything with a woman, I just figured she would have shaved or waxed. I didn’t know what to think as I am seeing my friend and expecting to have my mouth there. We have since gone to a nude beach and noticed plenty of untrimmed people, male and female. My husband says it could be sexy. Sexy and I just had all my hair yanked off of me. I told him all the bare men were sexy, maybe he should be waxed and I’ll let mine grow back in.

Let me first qualify my reply by saying this is not a moral judgement on you or anyone with whom you or your girlfriend are involved. It's still a (comparatively) free country, and adults are allowed to pursue their happiness anyway that suits them, regardless of where it eventually leads. However, here are a couple of different perspectives on this topic: On your last point, "... no one is being taken advantage of...", I have to say that is demonstrably untrue. The spouse of the cheater is certainly being taken advantage of, knowingly or unknowingly. And that fact carries with it the potential, if not probability, for eventual bad outcomes, not to mention bad karma, for everyone involved. Cheating is cheating. If it weren't, it would be called something else. As far as many of the men with whom your girlfriend cheats being in otherwise "... good relationships...", that doesn't pass the sniff test, either. It's hard to qualify a relationship as being "good" when one spouse has such little respect or loyalty for the other that he is willing to lie and cheat on her. That is, in fact, the opposite of a good relationship. It is one that is deeply flawed and headed for an eventual train wreck, likely to sweep up a some innocent people (the children, for instance) in the carnage. Moreover, there is the practical question of, Why would one willingly invite someone like that into his/her life when there are so many other good options? As a student of human behavior, I cannot imagine wanting to invite someone one *positively* knows is liar into one's intimate life. These people are, by definition, not to be trusted. If they are willing to lie to their spouses, they are only too happy to lie to your girlfriend. As for motivations... I suspect your girlfriend gets an extra thrill out of the taboo nature of having sex with a married, cheating man. The lying, sneaking around, and all the drama that goes with illicit affairs, adds to the excitement. And I imagine she gets an extra boost to her ego by being the woman who can sexually satisfy a man the duped married woman cannot.

Daniela demanded retaining control over her life, and this way she did. That was problem, not a feature, for my wife. That's why she usually had two, sometimes three, married men going at once. It's also why she appreciates swinging now. Yep, blowjobs and occasional anal. Daniela said that what she did kept marriages together, she never broke one up with what she was doing.

Agreed, but in many the excitement had evaporated or something was never there, particularly the intellectual aspect. One husband had told Daniela about an argument - she said, "You always treat me like a child." He said, "You're always acting like a child." For Daniela these were loving relationships, but they had there limits. She was "the other woman" who wanted and loved that role. Or old things that had disappeared, both sexually and otherwise. One of Daniela's best traits, and reasons I'm happy she's my wife, is that being together always seems fresh, exciting, new. Me neither. Our lifestyle adventure started with hotwifing, playing alone. But I also do enjoy us now swinging with other couples, watching and appreciating her in action. Although the sex is a big part of it, there is love between at least one man and one woman my wife is fucking. I actually prefer that they care for her.

I agree. When my GF hooks up with married men or men who are in committed relationship it's purely about the sex. They also have their own separate lives so they are good at keeping distance and not being overbearing and constantly looking for more sex every second. And a lot of them are in good relationships but they are not getting fulfilled sexually. I have a friend who is happily married but he doesn't have as much sex as he wants and his wife will not even give him a blowjob - but my GF will. Is it wrong to have sex with married people? Maybe. But our feeling is that everyone involved is an adult and no one is being taken advantage of. So if everyone who is present is ok with it then we proceed forward.

Almost all of the women we have been playing with are fully shaved, not all. My wife is always shaving her legs and parts, and has been doing it forever, even before swinging. She also went for waxing before the summer, DIY treatments during the year. One thing she started playing with her good friend was anal bleaching. I say it’s not needed and dangerous, she went with her friend for treatments. I told her it’s normal to have a darker circle. We have met other couples that are not as fastidious with shaving. A little hair is not a thing we would think odd. We did play with a couple with Mediterranean background that were not groomed. For me it brought back a memory of my first, a girlfriend who finally agreed to go all the way. We dated a few months, during the time she surprised me with being fully shaved. In college I was lucky enough to see many different grooming styles. My observation, non-American born women had more hair, which made first dates interesting. I have trimmed more since we starting meeting others. My wife thinks I look better with a buzz cut and insists I need my nuts shaved.

Agree. Things do not have be rated. They can be enjoyed for what they are. I believe that The Doors sang “ Variety is the spice of life. That’s what the judge is going to tell my wife.”

We went back swinging with our favorite couple last night. Lesley said she wanted same room so Amy said she wanted Lesley to give me a BJ without using a condom. We arrived ready for lots of fun, and things started quickly. With a drink for starters the girls quickly had our clocks out of our pants, I removed Lesley's shirt to find her braless boobs waiting for attention. Ken soon had his hand inside Amy's panties. Let's go upstairs suggested Amy so off we went. We all got naked and started our foreplay. Great 69. Lesley spit out but Amy swallowed. Amy climbed onto Ken and I entered Lesley doggie fashion. Lots of errotic noises and little moans of pleasure. Lesley was first to orgasm, I followed shooting my sperm in her pussy. We went back downstairs and left Ken and Amy to finish. 30 minutes later they came back downstairs and Amy proclaimed she had just had the best sex of her life. ⁹

I played with a woman originally from Japan. Her husband forewarned me that she had a bush because that was culturally favored in Japan. I worked around it. Sort of nostalgic. A local shock jock said that when he went to college, no one shaved. He said that when he performed oral sex on a woman, it was like wrestling Chewbacca.

Eddiem, We are both on here, sometimes together and sometimes alone. Tonight togethere lol. What you said does excite both of us. We think we will be just fine. Thank you for your response. Its always good to hear from someone that has been there before.

No problem. Part of life. Enticing!

I don't think you are ever totally ready. At some point you just have to jump in and trust the water will be fine. If you find it's not, then get out. No blame, no harm, no foul. Stick together no matter what. One of our first meetings was with a single male. We had a drink then went for dinner. During drinks we both (the men) kissed my wife, not aggressively, lovingly. My wife broke the ice by kissing him gently upon meeting for the first time. It was a signal to him and my opportunity to kinda feel out me reaction. The night was more like getting in the pool using the stairs. First one step, water up to our ankles ( a few hugs and a few kisses), then the second step, water to our thighs (dinner with touching under the table and flirting). Her between us, us both touching her thigh, inner and outer. Third step more obvious and daring. Him kissing her at the table, then I, fingers inserted into her. Folks around us we're certainly interested in the beautiful woman and two men. More petting etc. The whole evening was a build up to the sex. It was so fun. At any point along that path we could have easily stopped and left. But in our case, we finally jumped in and loved the evening. Good luck.

I agree. My story is anecdotal, for whatever it is worth.

I admire that about you guys: a woman with a number higher than the her husband, and he likes her for that. Time to start your further adventures together. May I be the contrarian here? If you both believe that your co-worker is a good fit and has sufficient discretion (for instance, when he said that he has had MFMs in the past, did he name names, or keep confidences?) then make the logical decision. There is a reason people date and even marry people at work: you get to know them pretty well. I had an affair (hubby and boyfriend both knew) with a guy at work, not an employee but a guy from an outside consulting/accounting firm. It went on for a little over six months and didn't turn out to be anywhere as good as I thought it would be, so I broke it off. I don't know if anyone knew, we were very discreet, but nothing ever came of it.

...and cheating isn't swinging, no matter how much you may think it is. Cheating and swinging are at the complete opposite ends of the spectrum.