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For me, vigorous reclaiming sex erases any doubts that I have and makes me ready to share more. I have become addicted to the jealousy and doubts that I get then having them erased. It is a thrill ride that scares me, but I immediately want to go again.

I often write about our first swap with a couple and my night alone with him. The next day I had a very uncomfortable bi experience, something I never wanted to do. I never had any sexual attraction to women and certainly had never planned to explore. As it was our first swing I just went along not wanting to ruin my experience from the night before. Over the years since that first time I have had contact with bi sex in very small doses. Normally it was done as part of another playtime thing. I became less afraid of being with a woman, still not giving totally to being bi. Our friend who we met on vacation years ago, our first and primary play partner was coming to NYC on business and said she was going to have free time and wanted to meet in the city for a Girl’s Day. She was on business and finished early and the weather was perfect. I agreed to meeting, we had become very good friends and I never spent time with her without our husbands. She booked a Mani/Pedi and massages for both of us. Her treat. Lunch outdoors in great restaurant, walking and talking. I always wondered if we were their first, I told her they were too relaxed that first time, she swore we were, they had agreed before the cruise that they would approach a couple. I told her how often I think about that night and how romantic her husband was. She told me they have played with others and she always thinks about her first also. A beautiful day, we had drinks at a rooftop bar and talked and talked. She mentioned that her hotel was great and invited me to stay the night. She read my body language as not being onboard, and said we would be alone, no putting on a show for the men. Give it a try, I could always leave. After big hesitant minutes, I gave into lust. My friend is a beautiful person, as romantic as her husband. With my inhibitions taken away, we made love for hours. Made love to a woman for our own benefit not for men watching us. I still don’t think I am bisexual, it was a magical day.

The problem with three couples (and we have experienced this) is usually one couple is the 'hinge' (they know both of the other couples but the two other couples may not know each other). We'll call them couple AA. Unless all three couples feel a connection (we are all about connections, not just sex) then one couple can easily feel left out. With three couples, the paring usually only goes one way: AB - BC - AC. Any other pairing will leave someone or some couple out. If couple BB or CC don't connect, then the only option is AB - BA - CC. Not saying that it can't work, just that it is a challenge from the start.

I went back and forth questioning if this was something we should keep doing early on, but as I continued to see that my wife was fully committed to me and the best wingman a guy could ever have I let those feelings and questions go. Just keep communicating with your significant other and I'm sure you'll end up where I am.

True, most swinger news is mocking or negative.

We've found that sixsomes (or more) tend to last longer than a foursome. A group of four people starts to wind down after an hour (more or less) then after a break a second round may start up. When there's more people involved the party just goes on and on. People can take a break as it suits them, refresh themselves. But it goes on as long as at least one woman is still interested.

Music is way too distracting for me as well. Used to be a musician and I just end up listening to the different parts of the songs.

Worrying is like paying a debt that may never come due. you had amazing sex. Stop punishing yourself ( let someone else do that?) Enjoy

Stop overthinking it (that's my job ). Just accept it and know as long as you keep the communication open, there shouldn't be anything to worry about. It's just good times and fun, accept it.

I don’t think it is a good idea to address the anxiety about a threesome with weed or alcohol. That’s ignoring the concerns and sets someone up to perhaps question their involvement. Once you are fully on board I have no problem with either in moderation to help relax in the moment.

My first FFM happened so fast that I didn’t have time to become anxious. I did have guilt after because my first was not with my then boyfriend who I have since married. My anxiety was whether he would accept the fact I cheated. I eventually had to convince him to be with me and a girlfriend and even though I pushed for the act to happen I was so anxious to make sure it went perfectly. For us it lead to so many great times.

We do the "sloppy seconds" thing & I absolutely LOVE it!! My man loves fuking me right after another has finished inside of me. He tells me to stay laying down on my back until he is ready to enjoy me (normally after our company leaves). We stick with a small circle of playmates & he always screens very well for us so we play as safe as possible. I can't get enough of the way he lingers with & admires my body after getting filled by another man. I can really tell how much he enjoys it by how he takes me afterwards! I hafta admit that one major reason I enjoy being with other men is because of how great & sexy he makes me feel after! I also like to clean off my hubby's dik after he soaks it in my filled V. If we play with a female I always hope she is also okay with getting filled up because then I eat my hubby's cum out of her & clean her up as much as possible. However, we do feel like pubic hair is pretty gross & we prefer you shaved. Its cleaner in general but you can also tell if there's any visible soars or what not.