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We have long suspected this. My wife and I are of the opinion that there are no 100% straight or gay people. We believe everyone is on a spectrum of sexuality. I'm not sure why everyone feels the need to label. Who cares. Life is too short! Play with whomever turns you on and dont care what the world thinks!

All of the women are open to same sex, new for two of us, the men are straight. Our mentor couple made it easier for us, everyone agreed that my bestie and I would play and needing one of the men it was just a simpler choice to have our new friend join us. The men played with our new girlfriend. Our FMF was much easier to accomplish, none of us afraid to touch or be touched. The Big Act happened with my girlfriend first. The MFM was a little trickier as the men were still new to this act and having them together making sure neither was touching was a factor. One giving oral, one getting oral kept them far enough away. My husband went first leaving our friend as second in. I don’t know how things could have changed for a first time three couple party. Other than three mf play with straight swap, two threesomes is the way.

I'd like to swing with a Brazilian woman.

Almost all of the women we have been playing with are fully shaved, not all. My wife is always shaving her legs and parts, and has been doing it forever, even before swinging. She also went for waxing before the summer, DIY treatments during the year. One thing she started playing with her good friend was anal bleaching. I say it’s not needed and dangerous, she went with her friend for treatments. I told her it’s normal to have a darker circle. We have met other couples that are not as fastidious with shaving. A little hair is not a thing we would think odd. We did play with a couple with Mediterranean background that were not groomed. For me it brought back a memory of my first, a girlfriend who finally agreed to go all the way. We dated a few months, during the time she surprised me with being fully shaved. In college I was lucky enough to see many different grooming styles. My observation, non-American born women had more hair, which made first dates interesting. I have trimmed more since we starting meeting others. My wife thinks I look better with a buzz cut and insists I need my nuts shaved.

No problem. Part of life. Enticing!

We didn’t get the invite ? The more you play the more things come naturally. You won’t have to worry about who does what to who. Mike and I enjoy the smaller parties, 2 ,3 or 4 couples or even an extra man or two. I enjoy being with 2 men, Mike enjoys 2 women, so 3 couples are perfect for us. I forgot to welcome you Rockland, to the board and the fun.

You are new and still finding out what you enjoy, don’t rush, sex isn’t going away. Some couples enjoy big crowds, some like parties and some enjoy one on one with a special couple or in your case, friends. The third couple saw your relationship with your friends and allowed you to have fun with them instead of diverting your play to them. I’m sure they didn’t mind enjoying you having fun. The third couple knew when to get involved and when to let the play continue naturally. My guess is if they felt left out they would have told you. You now have that special connection with your good friends, make sure to protect your friendship and be mindful they are on the same new path as you. I normally approach the wife if things slow down and lead her to the third man, letting the husbands play with the other woman. Believe some men are happy to just watch.

We've found that sixsomes (or more) tend to last longer than a foursome. A group of four people starts to wind down after an hour (more or less) then after a break a second round may start up. When there's more people involved the party just goes on and on. People can take a break as it suits them, refresh themselves. But it goes on as long as at least one woman is still interested.

"Is it swinging?" The question comes up about swinging and a number of other sexual activities (the big ones being "Is it bi?" and "Is it gay?"). It is what it is; endless hours can be spent defining terms. The most important thing for me is that I have always found a group of intelligent, accepting people here to discuss it all and make me feel normal. Not with in the mainstream, but normal.

“Swinging” does not equal “lifestyle”… The terms “lifestyle” and “swinging” are often used interchangeably; but I think of them differently. To me, “lifestyle” is a broad term that includes many forms of erotic expression: voyeurism, exhibitionism, cross-dressing, kink, swinging, etc. In other words, swinging is a subset of the very broad, lifestyle. What is swinging then? Consensual, non-monogamy is at the heart of swinging. The consent is between the couple that have the societal expectation of being in a monogamous relationship. The couple could be m/m, f/f, m/f… So, by my definition (and this will rile some folks) – a single person cannot be a ‘swinger’. They can be in the lifestyle, they can play with swingers to be sure – but they are not swinging per se, because they are not consenting with another person in their committed relationship to play outside of their relationship. Society has no expectation that they be monogamous in the first place. So, is a hotwife a swinger? Absolutely! She is in a relationship that has the expectation of monogamy. She also has the consent of her husband to play outside of the relationship. His presence to the play is not key issue – his knowledge and consent is. Without his consent – she is simply cheating. If she is single, she is just a girl who knows how to have a good time.

We look at no oral the same way we look at no kissing! No thanks. I am sure there are others that might not care though. Better to let people know before play time is planned I would think.

I was raised Catholic also and know what u mean. for a week or so I was only giving blowjob's because I wasn't brave enough to let me other than hubby inside me. But this one guy I met had me do horny telling me he wanted his seeds to swim in me. Telling me I was beautiful that my husband was an idiot for cheating. So I told him to do it. The sensation was wonderful. The exact thought that another man put his DNA in me

In evaluating the profiles of prospective play partners, it’s important to understand – as Baconheads notes – that “soft swing” can mean very different things to different people. For sure, it means there won’t be vaginal penetrative sex between the non-partners. Beyond that, soft play can range from light petting with close on through oral sex between non-partners. When you see that in the profiles of a couple who look compatible, one of the first things to determine is what their definition of “soft swing” is.