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We've always defined our swinging play as simply being extra curricular sexual activities. And that's where the boundary has stayed. Sure, emotions are intractably connected to sex. But, those emotions are fleeting. Genuine love is not to be confused with short-term sexual gratification. Opening up a relationship to a "poly" construct creates, by definition, an attachment with another person/other people that goes beyond the sex. It appears you were not only in favor of this, but you were an architect of it, going so far as to have "... found this lovely woman for him". Now, it sounds as though you are having a crisis of confidence; feeling that perhaps you really are not ready to share your husband, on all levels, with another woman. A very understandable reaction. Remember. You always have choices: You can chalk this up to simple jealousy and continue on with your poly lifestyle. If you decide this course, I strongly suggest befriending other people involved in poly relationships so you can get some first-hand advice on how to manage these kinds of emotional issues. This is not going to be the last time these feelings crop up. Or, you may use this opportunity to re-think your poly ambitions. You wouldn't be the first couple to come to the realization that adding a third person into your relationship can create a very complex and difficult to navigate emotional landscape. Best of luck,

Who needs wedding rings? We have children. What I have found interesting is that just as I love my biological children because they are the product of me and the men I love who had them with, I truly love the other children in our family because they are the result of the emotional and physical relationships between two other people, both of whom I love, the women as much as the men. Looking at the children from Clair, hubby, Lora, Red I see a combination of people I love.

Once again, what about the women/wives whose husbands play with other women with their knowledge and encouragement? I've seen the terms like cuckqueen and cuckcake (I like that one, sound delicious), but not what applies when. We're poly and have done some swinging. The term swinging has a mutuality to it that doesn't capture the situations that we've been through where things are asymmetrical, one spouse plays while the other is monogamous or even something temporary like alone play for a day, weekend, or vacation. It has nothing to do with humiliation, rather one spouse being generous without expectations of reciprocity, being loving while the other is given a rare freedom rarely experienced. Uh, what's my point? I forgot.

That's the way I was raised (sex with someone other than you spouse, not just partner, was BAD; Lesbian sex was BAD) and until my late teens I believed it. Having overcome all of that (thank you, hubby) makes looking back ever so more exciting. I'm a BAD girl.

It can be argued that all new memberships are 'life of the website' but we bought a lifetime membership and short of them trying to get us to agree to different terms, lifetime is what we expect...of course if the website goes away then there's nothing to really fight over but I hope that isn't the case (they are the best game in our area).

The same way for anything else you two would do, let her be in control and you don't do anything rash or impulsive, put her first. Slight adjustment: let her know that she can fuck whoever she wants (even a woman), whenever she wants, however she wants, with you watching or not, with you there or not. How it all begins is up to her. Treat her right and your reward will naturally flow. Let your wife do the planning, you help her execute the plans. Before I ever saw my wife fuck another man, we went to dinner with the fellow she chose for everyone to be comfortable and show that I was good with it. The next weekend they went to the hotel room she chose, I reserved and paid for. The only thing that I got to see was his cum inside her pussy when she got home, right before I dipped in for seconds. Although during her subsequent play I got to watch, do MFM, then started couples swaps, those first times when I wasn't there are special memories burned into my mind, and proved myself to Daniela.

I totally agree, but also understand the guys who like it because it's taboo and is tighter. Besides, someone has to put his dick in the woman's rectum during DP, and I confess that sometimes that dick is mine.

I have known/know women who can cum only by a tongue on her clit, never (or hardly ever) with a dick in her vagina.

Mrs. Alura once said to me, "Why would a man want to fuck my ass when there's a welcoming juicy pussy right next to it?"

Tread lightly. Jumping from bedroom fantasy to reality has its own many pitfalls; regrets, hurt, emotions……creating self doubt, a sense of insufficiency are just a few. The lifestyle is wide and varied but is always much more for the women than men. Men enjoy themselves based on the woman’s interest and level of exploration. Anything different tends to lead to disaster when forced in any way. Female physiology allows for multiple partners while males tend to be earnest and one and done til a refractory period. However it all depends on the woman’s mindset and comfort level, mentally, emotionally and physically. It might surprise you that men, husbands and boyfriends tend to have far more difficulty navigating this lifestyle. Watching porno (good, realistic amateur home made) together of shared threesome scenes commenting and discussing what you saw. roll play, using toys (Realistic, comfortable safe toys). To enhance your time together. Allows her to enjoy being penetrated while giving you oral. DP, DVP, size. Suction cup dildos are able to be mounted and ridden or strapped on to cylindrical pillows/cushions. Communicate….open and honestly…..not during the heat of the moment, sober and with time to discuss in depth. Explore your inhibitions casual outings, dancing with other partners, attend a clothing optional (non sexual, family) nudist park/resorts. These are non sexual. Most forbid open displays of affection and any sexual activity. and lastly swing clubs/house parties. avoid any that have rules of mandatory nudity or sexual participation. Attend locations that promote couples not heavily attended by single men. These parties are open to many levels of participation including just voyeurism. You both attend and any activity is just between the two of. Maybe graduate to same room sex, soft swing….and you both must be agreeable on next steps you are comfortable with. the key is open, honest and frank conversation. No coercion or giving in to please the other. Agree on parameters, rules for yourselves…..stick to them. Do not change in the heat of the moment. Discuss after with clear heads. Have a safe word either of you can use so the other knows you are uncomfortable. this should be a journey….not a race. Discover yourselves, each other…together.

There is a fair Likelyhood that there is legal trouble brewing over hacks and security in general. Additionally, there have been several government regulations around privacy, protection of information gathered/sold in the US and Europe. One of the more strict ones is the state of California specified any cyber company doing business with clients in California (CCPA 2020) must disclose what information is being collected, for what reason, and forces websites to allow CA residents to see and/or opt out of certain data gathering and sale/trade. The guy running the site appears to be clueless about web design, web mastery, web security, and regulations that apply to his Florida based company in 2021. Sounds like a CYA for sale, reorganization, or dissolution of SLS in the near future.

I absolutely love DP with the right people, you know the ones who know what the heck they are doing and how to do it well! I by far have the most explosive orgasms when DP is done well. My husband likes doing it in most positions but of course says it's best when you are the one doing the pumping. Though we have discovered that when there are 3 guys with 2 doing DP on me the 3rd can keep us quite entertained and the combination of it all can be extremely pleasurable for us all. My husband wanted to add, that when just laying there focus on what is taking place, picture it, feel it, imagine it, and realize exactly what is taking place - that he does enjoy, knowing that I am getting pleasured beyond my wildest dreams. Oh and then there are my breast bouncing up and down or moving forward and back, the enjoyment on my face, in my eyes, and all the screaming, hollering, yelling, all the sex talk it produces from me.

In theory, there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice, there is.

It’s your fantasy, if she doesn’t want it it’s not going to happen. Why is it the men who have a fantasy of Big Men? Do you want her hurt? Sorry. That doesn’t sound like fun for her. Possibly that’s the reason things have dried up in your sex life putting your fantasy above her pleasure.

I never thought I would see this, my wife with a woman. I’ve posted that my wife and I have an open marriage. For years it was unspoken, more recently we talk about our experiences. She meets married men for short relationships, I meet women on business trips. Business trips have been put on hold this year, her meetings have been curtailed. Her meetings have resumed with a new frequency since being vaccinated, something that doesn’t bother me. She recently told me she met a man and another woman, not his wife, and went into details of the meeting. I never heard her say anything about enjoying other women and it excited me to listen. She told me the woman was my type and I would like her. Watching her with men is new for me, watching her with a woman is much more exciting. She said they asked her how much I know about her cheating and asked her to invite me when she said I knew. The woman was my type, she loved sex. The sight I enjoyed most was after having sex with this woman and my wife having sex with her partner, the women cleaned up. Watching my wife licking up my deposit was not only exciting it was surprising. I never knew she would enjoy other women.

You aren’t dense, you know what the difference is between sex with a man and sex with a woman. You enjoy sex with multi people, I enjoy being alone with one person. Sex with a man is very natural to me, something I have done my entire adult life. I know how to touch a man, I know what the men I have been with enjoy. I am still very new to pleasing another woman. It should come natural, I know what pleases me and try to replicate the things I respond to. I missed a man, a penis specifically. I know how to please a penis, how to touch a penis, how to orally caress a penis. I enjoy having a penis in me. Swapping has allowed me to enjoy the differences I had not enjoyed since marriage. I think most on here enjoy the newness of being with a different partner. The different touching, different scent, different taste and the different motions. My head between the legs of a woman is a foreign experience. I was looking at a body part differently than I ever did before. Differently than I ever saw my own. I saw this one before from this angle, just not the same way as this time, alone with her and not being watched. You would think you would know what to do distinctively.

I get your reaction because the poster just joined to post this. My wife has been a member of a very popular cheating site that has millions of members. I am very aware of her membership and she knows I have strayed over the years. For a long time we didn’t talk about our extramarital affairs and when about our lives and then we had a big talk and did some swinging. My wife continues to meet married men with my knowledge and at times will tell me some very detailed accounts.

I was raised Catholic also and know what u mean. for a week or so I was only giving blowjob's because I wasn't brave enough to let me other than hubby inside me. But this one guy I met had me do horny telling me he wanted his seeds to swim in me. Telling me I was beautiful that my husband was an idiot for cheating. So I told him to do it. The sensation was wonderful. The exact thought that another man put his DNA in me