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That's the way I was raised (sex with someone other than you spouse, not just partner, was BAD; Lesbian sex was BAD) and until my late teens I believed it. Having overcome all of that (thank you, hubby) makes looking back ever so more exciting. I'm a BAD girl.

Okay I'll bite. What is a peg board competition?

Create long lasting, long term couple friendships, and stay in touch no matter where you all move. We have such a wonderful group of very trustworthy couples we can get naked with. Most recently we had a peg board competition, craziest thing to watch. Men went first getting we ladies so frothy, then it was our turn. My husband came in 2nd among the men, I came in 3rd among the women. Fun times with naked friends.

I will ask her. My husband and I get into 2 sets of 3sm positions with 3 couples and it works perfectly so I can only assume it is the same for them, taking turns focusing on one person at a time. The pleasures are immense. For us 3 couples work exceptionally well. When it is us and another couple only can leave one person slightly out on the fringe if we wind up in 3sm position. As for a straight up swap, it doesn’t do much for us as we can do everything we want to do with each other as a couple, so for us it makes no sense to straight up swap. It is the added person or people that create the dynamics we prefer. Personally I do not want another man's single penis, I want two, or more, or to share it with another.

I am going to have to respectfully disagree with you on this, Seanandem. And this has nothing to do with having any ax to grind with bi-sexuals, homosexuals, or any other sexual grouping of human beings. And we definitely agree with the last part of your post: Adults are free to pursue their happiness and sexual gratification however, and with whomever, they please (so long as they are other consenting adults, of course.) However, on the subject of bi-sexuality, it appears you are practicing what is known as confirmation bias and ignoring the mountains of empirical and anecdotal evidence that points in the other direction. Objectively and impartially viewing the world around us would indicate the overwhelming majority of people are heterosexual only. That's neither "good" nor "bad". It's just the way the world presents itself. Yes, it is possible that billions of heterosexuals around the globe, from all different cultures, are secretly harboring bi-sexual tendencies. But, that seems rather improbable. It is far more probable they are simply heterosexual.

Actually, you are on the right path. However, the scientific explanation is more complex: When it comes to sex, the brain produces three emotional states: Lust, Attraction, and Attachment. These are all related to specific chemicals (hormones) released before, during, and after sex. In the last state, Attachment, two specific chemicals, oxytocin and vasopressin, are released in copious quantities. These two chemicals are what researchers often call the "love drugs". These two drugs interact with the brain in such a was as to produce feelings of emotional intimacy, bonding, and other social constructs. These two chemicals are also released, for instance, during childbirth and breast feeding. So, yes, people equate "love" with sex because our brains are hardwired to do exactly that. However, in open relationships, we are able to recognize and compartmentalize those Attachment feelings such that they are either ignored or minimized. But, they are undoubtedly present.

Love trust and communication...there is no such thing as too much of any of the three. In addition to what Billygoat said (hey Billygoat, are you gruff? LOL) remember, you have all the time in the world so don't rush things. Start by talking outside of the bedroom about your sexual fantasies. You need to be open and truthful with her so that she feels she can be the same. Realize that some (ie: most) people have been programmed that swinging is BAD, having sex with someone other than your partner is BAD, and that only BAD people would even imagine doing this. If she is one of those people, then (at least for the time being), you're done at the starting gate. Don't press it, just let it go (for now). Just because she feels this way doesn't mean she always will (plant the seed). Every now and then, come back and give that seed some water (check back in) but doing it too often and too many times will be a bad thing. If she doesn't say no from the start, take baby steps. As mentioned try a nude beach or nude resort and see how that goes (some nudists are swingers, but don't assume all are because they aren't). Set your rules and boundaries...just in case anything happens, and don't ever violate them (they can always be changed at a later time). Maybe plan a vacation to Desires or Hedo (we recommend Desires). A vacation like this will almost always remove her fear of running into someone she knows (but if she runs into someone she knows at a swingers club or nudist resort, they are doing the same thing you are...). Just don't pressure her (never move faster than the slowest member is comfortable with) so she feels 'safe'. Small steps, one after another, can end up in making a long journey before you know it. Let us know how you progress.

I remember our lifestyle anniversary, the day Daniela first did the hotwife thing at my urging. I don't know if she does. After that, it was a progression to MFMs, couples swaps ("swinging"), and variations thereon, which I don't remember the dates of. No. The swinging or lifestyle line is kind of blurry, even for vanilla people these days. Before marrying me, and becoming swingers, Daniela would have more than one relationship going at a time. Does that count? And after my divorce from my first wife, I had a couple of relationships, but my ex and I still got together because the sex was always good. I suspect that many vanilla people who are generally serially monogamous have had overlapping relationships with multiple sexual partners at some point.

Before we met, Daniela had relationships with lots of married men because they were married and liked to have them talk about their wives. She's the kind of person who likes to sample off of other people's plates at a restaurant.

Daniela has gone on several vacations with her favorite couple. For the three of them it is romance and sex. I've gone on a couple out-of-towners with a woman (i.e., the wife of another man) with whom I share cultural interests that my wife and her husband despise. For us it is theater, museums, concerts and sex. As wonderful as it is, we all appreciate our spouses more in the end. These adventures really burns bright and hot, but it does flame out because it is not as deep as what we have with our mates. It does, however, build up for the next time.

Ooops, I momentarily got her confused with Anne Boleyn. My deepest apologies, and thank you for pointing out my error.

I knew it when he screamed, “Yes Fuck ME, Fuck me in my ASS, Give me more COCK, fill me full of cum in both holes.” as he sucked one of our friends so hard he was yelping as was the guy who was fucking him bareback. My husband went along for the ride with me and bi couples we befriended over the many years, eventually giving a little here and there, until the day he did this. It still takes him a while to get to this point but he definitely gets there more often and in less time. There have also been a few times recently where I have gotten him so aroused kissing him after sucking some off that he latched on to a few of the guys without me even feeding them to him. And even though he never asks upfront for cock I know he loves it, as well as cum, and most definitely getting his ass cummed in. His orgasms are way to explosive for anyone not to love that. We have been very fortunate to have many extremely trust worthy friends who all get along smashingly.

I never really thought about this being a thing, so it could be that its more of a guy thing. I like being with another person, man or woman. With the exception of one pair of close friends we swap with often I don't even think about the wife, and I only think about her because I have a sexual relationship with her also. I generally just think about how good it feels when he is inside of me. I just enjoy sex and enjoy men. I do get a significant amount of arousal from the fact that I have a husband, and that he's not the man I'm currently fucking. But thats my own affair fantasies at play. To be clear my husband knows I fuck around and I have a very open hall pass, I'm not actually cheating I just like to imagine it that way. I guess what I'm saying is I like fucking other people because they are not mine, not because they are someone else's.

Exactly. That's another type of turn on for some people - fucking a MILF. That's why I can see why fucking someone else's SO is a somewhat similar idea. I don't think it's really that strange.