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Step one - ignore the above advice. Step two - Communicate, communicate, communicate. A true story I have told many times here is that a wise man once told me that if he could watch his wife suck another man's dick, he could talk to her about anything. Since we were watching her do just that, I figured he knew what he was talking about. You and your wife need to be able to talk, openly and honestly about anything. Not just sex. Anything. You need to feel comfortable and that you trust her completely and she needs to feel the same. Now, on the sex side, you need to talk about it outside the bedroom, outside of the sexual fantasy. Talk about it in a context where you don't get turned on by it, but where you can talk about it together and together confront your concerns, your desires and your hopes in the cold, clear light of day. Because you're right... what sounds like a good idea when your horny can sounds breathtakingly stupid in the cold light of day... so it's in the cold light of day that you need to talk about it. Once you think you are ready, you need to find the guy... and that can be surprisingly difficult (see above re Step one) especially in these days of pandemic. There are a number of websites that specialize in helping swingers connect but a surprising amount of flakes, fakes and bad matches. Personally, I've never had any luck with websites so I'm of no help on this one. When you do find a guy, know and clearly state your boundaries. It doesn't matter what they are... no kissing, no oral, no anal, no small talk, whatever... know what your limits are and make sure the guy knows them too. Also, make sure everyone understands that if anyone... you, her or him... feel uncomfortable at any time, for any reason or no reason at all, they have the absolute to say Stop... and as soon as anyone says Stop, everyone Stops. Period, no questions, accusations, guilt trips, nothing. No means No. One last thing I really suggest is to set aside expectations. It's easy to build up a fantasy of what the encounter will be like. The reality will never match that fantasy. The best thing you can do is leave the fantasy at home and, if and when the time comes, go with it and enjoy the moment.

If she is no longer interested, then you need to find out why. If you can't have a talk about this without causing a problem, then that is a different (bigger) problem that needs to be worked on. For whatever reason it sounds like the communication has broken down and that needs to be repaired. At the same time, she is also entitled to not want to do it any more, in which case, you need to honor her choice. But first, fix the communication and then find out why she isn't interested.

Apple IS Big Brother...

The newly announced software that will scan nude pictures on an iPhone has been very badly represented in many media articles, making it sound like it's a huge invasion of privacy. Here's the facts about it. It will only be done on minors. It will only be done if the parents have set it up; it's opt-in, not universal. If a kid under 13 tries to open up an abusive photo, their parents will be notified. If a kid from 13-17 tries to open such a photo up, they will be told maybe they shouldn't do it. There is NO impact to anyone older than 18. The new ability is simply a tool for parents to monitor the on-line practices of their Read this balanced article: Apple's New Feature That Scans Messages for Nude Photos is Only for Children, Parental Notifications Limited to Kids Under 13 https://www.macrumors.com/2021/08/05/apple-communication-safety-children-only/

So, with some IT help maybe I could do the following: Trick my wife's phone into thinking she is 12 years old. Anytime she opens a porn clip she'll receives an automated message: "You do know Jesus sees everything, right?" or words to that effect... If it's the second time a clip is opened within 4 hours: "Didn't you already wank off earlier today?" So fun! Let's make this happen!

I still am, but love the feeling, am addicted to it. My husband says that's why he always goes second and never masturbates to orgasm while I am having sex with another guy - no post-orgasm let down or melancholy while still watching me with another guy. Since he's still excited after the other guy has finished with me, he wants me and goes for sloppy seconds. That makes everything alright and he's never had any regrets.

Search is your friend as this is a very common question. Short version: find out if it is something that she REALLY wants and not just a bedroom fantasy. Have an open talk about this outside of the bedroom. Make sure that your relationship is ROCK SOLID (an abundance of love/trust/communication). Establish limit and any rules (and knowing that they can be later changed, stick with them). If its still a green light at this point and you are both still wanting to go forward, join a swingers meet website (top of page: 'Please visit our sponsors'). All allow you to set up a free profile and look around. Find the one with the most people in your area and pay to JOIN IT (lots of members don't pay any attention to the free members thinking they are either not serious or real people). At this point you will be FLOODED with responses from guys (since women in the swinger lifestyle are called 'unicorns' due to their rarity, 'single' men are like cheeseburgers at McD's...they're everywhere). Pick one (you can afford to be VERY picky since it is an unending flood of men looking for women and/or couples like you) and set it up. If ANYTHING sets off a red (or yellow) flag with them, go to the next guy, since the last thing you probably want is drama. Pick a place (usually a hotel since you shouldn't be inviting a stranger to your house...can you say: stalker?) and have fun. Finally, report back here afterwards and feel free to continue to ask questions as you move thru this. Good luck!

So, I know a little bit about this subject. Respectfully, you are confusing a variety of lawful business activities with criminal activities. When a private or, public, company goes out of business, it is not a crime. When a private company shuts down because the owner(s) make the decision to do so, for whatever reason(s), it is not a crime. Reorganizing assets of a company that has gone out of business is not a crime. These kinds of business maneuvers happen thousands of times every year in all fifty states. The Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC) would have no jurisdiction or interest. The SEC regulates public securities markets and financial reporting of publicly traded companies. This isn't General Motors we're talking about. SLS is a tiny, "mom and pop" business, privately owned and operated. SLS is owned by Dashboard Hosting LLC with a PO Box in Cape Coral, Florida, listed as its business location. There are several other small, privately owned limited liability companies listed at the same location, all inter-related with Dashboard Hosting LLC. The only "person" listed in the documents is an attorney from a small, private practice owned by two attorneys in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Note "limited liability" means exactly that: Florida law provides "... the member or manager of an LLC is not personally liable, directly or indirectly, by way of contribution or otherwise, for a debt, obligation, or other liability solely by acting as a member of manager." This limited liability protection is a well established part of Florida's common law. Few exceptions do exist, mostly relating to demonstrable fraud. Translation? Should SLS go belly up, the "lifetime" membership goes belly up with it. Any attempted recourse would likely be futile, not to mention impractical. The legal costs alone would make it unfeasible.

Okay I'll bite. What is a peg board competition?

There is a fair Likelyhood that there is legal trouble brewing over hacks and security in general. Additionally, there have been several government regulations around privacy, protection of information gathered/sold in the US and Europe. One of the more strict ones is the state of California specified any cyber company doing business with clients in California (CCPA 2020) must disclose what information is being collected, for what reason, and forces websites to allow CA residents to see and/or opt out of certain data gathering and sale/trade. The guy running the site appears to be clueless about web design, web mastery, web security, and regulations that apply to his Florida based company in 2021. Sounds like a CYA for sale, reorganization, or dissolution of SLS in the near future.

"Diving in" is an awful idea. There is no way to navigate it safely. Your boss is married. Eventually, his/her spouse will find out. And it will end badly, for you and your boss.