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We have. What sadly seems like eons ago now, we had some super fun times just hanging out with folks from this site when Julie used to organize Swingers Board meet-ups a few times a year. Sometimes they would be held where there was a swingers club to attend one night, other times she just picked a destination that seemed like a good one for a weekend getaway and we met up for dinner and pub crawling or whatever sounded fun. Anyone member could organize one, so there were some scattered far and wide, but she did the majority of them, and since we lived in the same general region of the country as her, we were fortunate in that most of them were in a day's drive for us. We really really enjoyed those. It's something we've talked about trying to rekindle eventually. That was a long long time ago in internet years, so I don't know if the online forum meeting up in real life is still a thing people would be interested in nowadays, but back then, many forums did it. We've also gotten together with people we know from here in sort of unofficial mini-meet-ups. Just like any other group of friends getting together - "Hey, are y'all busy weekend after next? Want to get together on Saturday night in Wherever for dinner and drinks?" So to answer your question about pics, etc. For the official meet-ups, for those who had expressed interest there would usually be a PM chain or private forum or some way to set up the logistics and communicate with each other without the whole world seeing it. People would often share their SLS names there if they didn't already have it as part of their profile. Back then, if you wanted it to, your SLS name could appear below your avatar on all your posts.

I’ve had social meet-ups with a couple of other members of the board. In each case it was someone I had interacted with substantively in posts or via the site’s PM function. It was lovely to get to know them a bit better in the way that’s only really possible with a face-to-face interaction. Like most of the regular people who post here, I don’t look at the Swingersboard as a dating site, but rather as a place to share experiences and address issues that one faces in the lifestyle. There are a lot of sincere and thoughtful contributors on the site and there are several I’d enjoy having a chat with over lunch or a coffee.

By now I'm sure most of us have seen the "Shit Swingers Say" video from the defunct CoupleDoingIt.com website. If not here it is on YouTube: Shit Swingers Say Anyway after a play session with a lovely playmate we got to talking about things you never expect to be saying or asking. I suggested the ubiquitous negotiating with another man's wife where she will let you cum. "You can cum on my tits or my face but not in my mouth or pussy." "Can I pull out during doggy and shoot on your ass?" Yes, this was an actual conversation we had found ourselves in before. My question is, what else have you found yourself discussing or asking in a Swinger situation that you never ever thought would come up in conversation?

That’s the beauty of the lifestyle. From our experiences, nothing is usually off the table for discussion. Some of our best conversations with others have been laying around naked after a nice session.

We met a couple on this board at a nudist resort/ swingers friendly place. We had a very nice encounter. A potential problem arose thereafter. Let’s just say we tested negative. The couple later divorced and I no longer see them post here. Of course, they will remain anonymous.

I think it’s expansive to accept there are many sexual preferences, many of which are not appealing to us, that are valid and should not be scorned or criticized. Down the road, some of them could become of interest. Or not. We had a nice discussion with a couple on a cruise who were into BDSM. We’re not really interested in it, but they told us what a night out is like for them, we told them what a night out is like for us and we all learned new things. Open mindedness to new ideas is a good thing. You don’t have to do it, like it or watch it, but it’s nice to be supportive of other people’s interests and not make them feel weird or aberrant. I don’t think you’re a hypocrite. You are entitled to your preferences. Not a problem at all.

Main stream swinging is an oxymoron. Swinging is not main stream. Within swinging there are diverse interests. Bisexuality by both genders, BDSM, hot wifing, vixen/stag, dom/sub. Many of these sub interests are currently of no interest to me, but if I am open minded enough to participate in the lifestyle, I owe it to participants in these subgroups to be tolerant and supportive of their interests and not denigrate them.