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OK, well I'm not going to be any help at all. To summarize - your husband cheated on you and lied to his friends. Now he is asking you - the person he betrayed - to help him continue to lie to the people he betrayed you with because he also betrayed them. The foundation of swinging is open, honest communication. Your husband knows this and knows he is wrong, otherwise he would not be asking you to lie for him. Your husband should be outed to his group and should be blacklisted by them. How you handle his lying and cheating in your marriage is entirely up to you but my advice is very much to not continue to enable his lying and cheating.

I'm not sure I've see another post with so much deceit. Joined a group but didn't tell you - lie 1 told you about a meeting after the fact - lie 2 Told you he attended a meet but was celibate - lie 3 then starts having sex with you and being "honest" - manipulative and probably lying. (my guess no facts to prove that) 100% honest but wants you to lie about his permission and your participation I'm sorry, but his trying to 'sell' this behavior as wanting to swing when it's simply him having an affair and hoping you'll come along like a good girl is crazy. You deserve better.

Danger, danger, danger! This is not swinging. This is cheating, and you shouldn't enable this. Swinging isn't supposed to be a way to fix a broken marriage. It's supposed to be a decision that both parties willingly undertake together. He went back into swinging without you, and the journey is supposed to be taken together. If he hadn't slept with another woman, would you even be contemplating a dip into the lifestyle? This sounds like your trying to justify and enable his poor decision, and all kinds of red flags are popping up.

It is nice to cuddle naked and get acquainted after a nice high on sex, one of my favorite things about the lifestyle.

We have. What sadly seems like eons ago now, we had some super fun times just hanging out with folks from this site when Julie used to organize Swingers Board meet-ups a few times a year. Sometimes they would be held where there was a swingers club to attend one night, other times she just picked a destination that seemed like a good one for a weekend getaway and we met up for dinner and pub crawling or whatever sounded fun. Anyone member could organize one, so there were some scattered far and wide, but she did the majority of them, and since we lived in the same general region of the country as her, we were fortunate in that most of them were in a day's drive for us. We really really enjoyed those. It's something we've talked about trying to rekindle eventually. That was a long long time ago in internet years, so I don't know if the online forum meeting up in real life is still a thing people would be interested in nowadays, but back then, many forums did it. We've also gotten together with people we know from here in sort of unofficial mini-meet-ups. Just like any other group of friends getting together - "Hey, are y'all busy weekend after next? Want to get together on Saturday night in Wherever for dinner and drinks?" So to answer your question about pics, etc. For the official meet-ups, for those who had expressed interest there would usually be a PM chain or private forum or some way to set up the logistics and communicate with each other without the whole world seeing it. People would often share their SLS names there if they didn't already have it as part of their profile. Back then, if you wanted it to, your SLS name could appear below your avatar on all your posts.

That’s the beauty of the lifestyle. From our experiences, nothing is usually off the table for discussion. Some of our best conversations with others have been laying around naked after a nice session.

My opinion is your husband is a lying piece of shit and does not deserve you or the group of lifestyle people he has been lying too! You can do better then this. I have no advice on what you should do at this party other then not to let him drag you down this bad karma ride with him. This guy would be kicked out of any real lifestyle group immediately if people knew what he was really about. How you could ever trust him again is beyond me.

I don’t count because it doesn’t matter. I never asked my wife how many people she had sex with when we met 24 years ago, nor did she ask me because it didn’t matter. The only real answer I can give is more than before we got married.

Find out what the most popular swinger site is in your area. When you find that out, pay for a membership to that site. Create a profile that includes plenty of info about both of you, likes, dislikes, what you’re looking for in this venture. Include pics of both of you. It doesn’t have to be face pics, you can keep those private to send to people you plan to meet. Interact. Search profiles. Message couples that pique your interests. You’ll get an influx of messages when you’re new. Find a couple that you may be compatible with. Meet for drinks or dinner. Keep it casual until you’re ready to make the plunge. The rest you’ll figure out. Make sure to communicate with your partner thru the whole process. From my experience the number one mistake new couples make is lack of communication. Good luck on your journey.

We still have 2 kids living at home, so clothing on here. When we are playing we like nudist homes and come in clothed, drop them when you go to the bedroom (or whhatever room) homes. Once the kids are out in 8 years or so we are going to travel in a camper around the country, clothing will be minimal, if nonexistent, whenever possible.

By now I'm sure most of us have seen the "Shit Swingers Say" video from the defunct CoupleDoingIt.com website. If not here it is on YouTube: Shit Swingers Say Anyway after a play session with a lovely playmate we got to talking about things you never expect to be saying or asking. I suggested the ubiquitous negotiating with another man's wife where she will let you cum. "You can cum on my tits or my face but not in my mouth or pussy." "Can I pull out during doggy and shoot on your ass?" Yes, this was an actual conversation we had found ourselves in before. My question is, what else have you found yourself discussing or asking in a Swinger situation that you never ever thought would come up in conversation?

If nothing else, COVID has made more people more pragmatic about clothing. Those lucky enough to have been able to work from home have "business wear" hanging in the closet unworn. The "ZOOM shirt"--what people see on camera --not just a meme; many people have mastered the "shirt and tie over gym shorts" (or less). Leaving home means not only having additional pocket space for mask, hand sanitizer, etc but for many people (esp medical professionals) disrobing and tossing the street wear into the wash as soon as practicable. The resurgence of COVID (thanks, delta) is again influencing how people approach leisure and socializing--with whom and doing what and where. And with that, what they wear.

We don't follow any porn sites, if a visual thrill is needed we just watch others in our family doing it. It is an advantage of being in a poly family - I can see things that I otherwise wouldn't be able to see if it were just from the vantage of me and another person. I do, however, have maybe two dozen kinky pictures and videos on my phone (NOT of anyone in the family) for when I am alone traveling for business and I want to masturbate.

The responses increasingly suggest that, for swingers, choosing to be nude is "situational" and dependent both on circumstance and on company.

I’ve had social meet-ups with a couple of other members of the board. In each case it was someone I had interacted with substantively in posts or via the site’s PM function. It was lovely to get to know them a bit better in the way that’s only really possible with a face-to-face interaction. Like most of the regular people who post here, I don’t look at the Swingersboard as a dating site, but rather as a place to share experiences and address issues that one faces in the lifestyle. There are a lot of sincere and thoughtful contributors on the site and there are several I’d enjoy having a chat with over lunch or a coffee.

That's usually our go to site, and xvideos.com. You can search for anything you like and it's free. I used to be a big Voyeurweb/Redclouds guy, but that changed a lot a few years ago. NewbieNudes is a great amateur site. I like amateur porn the best.

Since this post has been bumped, there is a need for me to update my number in the last 14 years: it has gone from three to FIVE! The three men that I have going now plus my Lesbian relationships with Clair and Lora are enough.

Wife and I really enjoy this site: xnxx.com

This means that you find your wife the best porn star

I agree, but you could play with yourself and not cum until you can put your sperm where it belongs.

The husband masturbating while the wife plays is expected behavior. It is, however, rude to let it fly on the players unless they approve.

Perhaps if it just a 3some or 4some. Mr Shy doesn't and neither have our playmates. We did go to a party where they allowed single guys and there was one guy that no matter where we went or what we were doing, there he was. It was creepy but also comical. We nicknamed him "Wanky McWanker"

I think it depends on the situation. Are you talking about a MFM where you are stepping back to just watch for a little bit? Or sit back to watch your wife making out and playing with another woman? I would think it perfectly acceptable. Are you talking a full swap scenario where you are so distracted by what your wife is doing that you stop playing with your partner to masturbate? well....maybe not so much so in thise case. I like to know my SO is turned on, but wouldn't want it to be to the detriment of someone else's fun too.