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My wife loves to get strange cock in front of me. I love it! Seeing her have many orgasms is a real turn on. If the guy fucks her bareback that is even better since I love it when she is dripping wet with cum.

Now to actually answer your other questions: Where did you and your spouse have your first experience at? Locally with another couple we met online Who's idea was it. You or your spouse? I still don't believe it but it was Ms. Golds idea. She had tried it with her ex at his request in an attempt to save their failing marriage (it obviously didn't work), but it was still something that interested her. When we were talking about past sexual experiences and fantasies, she brought it up and said she wouldn't mind trying it again, only in a positive relationship instead of a dying one. What was it like? Ehh. It was just okay...j/k. It was unbelievable and it continues to be that every day. That we can share something like this, together, and be able to know that it is acceptable (as long as we do it together without secrets and with complete trust) is almost mind blowing. That we can share our fantasies and help make them come true for our partner... it's like being in heaven. How did your spouse feel when you brought it up or throughout the experience? While we both agree that we could have done without this, and if it were to end today it would be completely okay with both of us, it has added that little bit of seasoning that has taken our relationship over the top. Every day I thank whatever power that may be for giving me someone who I can tell anything and everything to and not worry about their reaction. It's something that you don't know you are missing until after you have found it. What are some new things you have tried that you might not have tried, before being in the lifestyle? Anything than involves more than two people.

So he's seen pictures of you and is still interested...just take it at face value. HE'S STILL INTERESTED. It's not always just about looks. Some of us strongly believe that the brain is the sexiest organ in the body...

Hi, long time lurker here. I’m J, the female and T (who isn’t with me as I post) is hubby. We used to do some sharing/swinging when we were about 18 years younger than our now 40’s. We both fully enjoyed it all. Won’t go into all the details but for the majority of the time (all but 3 other times with a different guy each time) we played with the same guy. Once we found him, and we played together and got very comfortable with each other, so the sex was ridiculously amazing. He learned all my spots, and kinks just like my hubby did. Was almost like being with 2 of T we were all so in sync. Played more times as a threesome more times than I can even count during the year and a half we played. Got comfortable enough that he’d let T give him oral after he’s been in me (which is a HUGE turn on for us both). Well it eventually went south, and after that we haven’t played with another guy in the 18 years since then. Now my dilemma. We have been talking about doing it again for a while, getting hot and heavy into talking about it when watching porn and having sex. The feelings I used to enjoy, but shut out of my thoughts for years are ready for this. My only problem is, I’m much heavier than I was (and older lol) back then. T still loves me and my naked body, but I’m very self conscious of my fat. We’ve been chatting with our potential new friend for a couple weeks, and I’m extremely ready for this. But I’m worried he’ll be turned off by my body when we get together. Obviously we’ve sent him lots of pics, etc. and he seems to be into me, so I’m hoping I’m just really overthinking it. We are scheduled to meet up next weekend and the butterflies, and wetness are all starting to kick in.

The only thing that is worse (IOHO) than not having a picture of the man (usually WITH the woman to prove that they are at least a couple) is the infamous 'dick pic' (where the only picture of the man is just a body part). Poor planning or just a mistake, but there should always be pictures of the woman and the woman and man together in a profile...nudity is optional, body parts can be completely skipped.

I come from a very open family. Nothing is off limits. My wife and I have taught our kids from a young age that nudity and sex is nothing to be ashamed of. However with that being said my wife and I do not allow the kids to join in any of our swinger activities. That may be common place in other countries but here in the US that will get you thrown in jail.

Men cannot be tested for HPV. Condoms are of dubious value against it. If any of the parties are under 45, they can be vaccinated. Unfortunately, we know several women who have had medical procedures due to HPV. Also, women in the lifestyle should have regular Pap smears. I am not a doctor, but talk to your doctor about it. They assume that married women are monogamous. Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but swingers don’t want to talk about it and it is very prevalent.

No male picture is a red flag. Same as when one’s weight is listed as zero. We have also met women who listed at 149lbs. who were closer to 249. 149 seems to be a magic number. Can’t talk myself, need to lose my covid 19.

Concur with hunterdon--the first meet, which used to be coffee or a drink or a snack, is so readily replaced by a video virtual meet and greet with all four.

We've noticed that too, and we think it's bc women in the Lifestyle tend to keep themselves in better shape than the men, but we agree that it's a no-go if hubby won't put himself out there. How can anybody think a woman will engage another couple sight unseen? In these days of online everything, we have replaced our first meet - which used to be at pubs or coffee shops - with Zoom meetings. You get to see and chat with ppl, and if the decision is 'No' it's easier on Zoom than face-to-face.

For me, vigorous reclaiming sex erases any doubts that I have and makes me ready to share more. I have become addicted to the jealousy and doubts that I get then having them erased. It is a thrill ride that scares me, but I immediately want to go again.

My wife is the same, not wanting anything more from her time with them. She has told me most of the men, the cheaters, have terrific marriages and families. Those men weren’t looking for relationships, just a place to experience new things. I have no need to watch my wife enjoying herself. My take is many men on here for whatever reason want to watch a wife taken. I prefer she be with a married man with no expectation of a long term relationship. No falling in love. I understand those men, I’m one of them. It’s just sex for sex. If the sex isn’t fun there is no reason to meet again. I have no problem with her meeting married men, or having a day with a younger single guy if he knows her rules.

Join a swingers club. Have your wife go on a night that allows single men. She should have no problem finding willing participants in an already discreet environment. If she is bi/bi-curious, the number of couples there willing to entertain her will up her chances exponentially.

Cheaters with knowledge of the other’s infidelities that transformed to swinging together. Some will say swinging is an experience couples do together, for us it is sex with others. If swinger couples swing in separate rooms, it is still swinging. We just choose to swing separately.

It depends on the club, and even more importantly, the night. In her thirties, at many clubs she'll be on the young side, probably.

It’s been our experience that finding a guy isn’t difficult at all. Finding one who will be honest about himself and his situation - his entire situation - is damn near impossible. We want to live out some fantasies and have fun, but not at the expense of our peace of mind, comfort, or someone else’s relationship or feelings.

I get your reaction because the poster just joined to post this. My wife has been a member of a very popular cheating site that has millions of members. I am very aware of her membership and she knows I have strayed over the years. For a long time we didn’t talk about our extramarital affairs and when about our lives and then we had a big talk and did some swinging. My wife continues to meet married men with my knowledge and at times will tell me some very detailed accounts.

Laura once told me, "Darling, if i spread my legs for a man, I've already decided to take his cum. If I didn't want him to come inside me, I wouldn't have his cock in my pussy and my tongue in his mouth." I think (if she'd had a different opinion)our reclamation afterward wouldn't have been as meaningful or as intense.

How many of you guys have actually experienced it? My wife plays with other men in fact she is at a fwb house getting fucked as I type this. One thing I can tell you is even though it's the hottest thing I've ever experienced the reality is hard to handle emotionally. Now I'm not at all jealous but I've had my moments getting here. It's a massive learning curve, but well worth it. Reclaiming your loved one is the most intense loving sex I've ever experienced. I've still yet to participate with her and her fwb but it's not far away. For her it's been a slow journey and she's not comfortable with involving me other than texting and photos. It'll bring you closer together, just like swinging does, as if you can talk about fucking someone else you can talk about anything!