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I think when we talk about spouses as favorite porn stars, or being "obsessed" with seeing something, we're really getting at the very delicate interplay between exhibition and voyeurism. There might be something that's hard for him to explain there about you being on display for him and also losing track of the moment. Once can also be enjoying a partner's voyeurism indirectly by performing for them, even if you aren't very visual yourself, etc.

You'll come across people like that. Sometimes you just have to be honest with them.

My feelings are the same as yours. We are not interested in an open marriage, and the over communication would bother me. We are looking to play together also.

I read this post a number of years ago and questioned Michael if he is Obsessed watching me and he laughed at me asking if I was obsessed having sex in front of him. He claimed his obsession was watching me enjoying fulfilling my obsession. I got mad and said mine was an obsession it was our entertainment. Michael said it is hard to explain what he sees when we meet a new sex partner that I become a different person fully involved with enjoying the moments. He Claims his enjoyment is more of me enjoying the time not the acts themselves. He said I lose all the reality of the situation forgetting he is in the room watching.

My experience has been that if the women set things up, it goes more smoothly. It doesn't take long for women to talk about sex. I have found that when talking to a female acquaintance, when the right moment arrives I can subtly and gently float the idea that I am not the jealous type, neither is my husband. It helps that hubby is attractive, so if she makes a comment about him I say that he finds her attractive too and that things can be arranged. It works well with single women (single women like to have sex with married men, and without caution or guilt if the wife approves). With couples it's more complicated, but if the wife is hot to swap she and I can usually convince him that I'm worth the trade.

One of the hotter orgasms I've had involved Mrs. E making out with me and giving me a handjob while a playmate had her bent over the bed. All three of us came at about the same time - her and I as we realized he was about to cum. Good stuff and one of those scenes I think about a lot.

One of our biggest pet peeves of online searching is this! Lots of pics of the wife and none or just useless cock pics of the husband. We have put on all of our profiles that if there are not good pics that clearly show the body types of everyone who wants to be involved then we are not interested in even talking and cock pics do not count, because they are useless in determining attraction. We stick by this regardless of what message they send. You can see plenty of both of us, we expect the same in return. Common sense really. Your husband should respect the fact that you are not interested in fucking men that are not attractive to you regardless of what the other wife looks like and should not even start conversations until that is resolved. This isn’t all about him.

There is something in there that makes me admire both of you.

Thinking about it, I achieved having sex with more women after marrying Daniela than before, 12. But she is unlikely to exceed her number, around 60, because we now play within a closed group. As my wife has pointed out, however, I had a lot more sex than she did, albeit with with only one woman, my ex-wife. We had sex just about every day, and sometimes even during and after our divorce. Although Daniela's number was five times mine, she didn't live with anyone so she had sex only two or three times a week. Since we got married and especially since we started in the lifestyle, she's been making up for lost time. Ten times a week maybe, five with me (I'm older now) and five with one of her play partners. And to think that when we got married Daniela said that she was ready for monogamy after living a life of overlapping lovers. She didn't need much convincing to go back. I'll need to do some calculations to determine when her total number of intercourse exceeds mine.

Confession from *last* weekend: We have been playing around with apps more and decided to have a meetup. It was supposed to be a drink only but worked out. We didn't realize it at the time, but the bumped "how many" thread got me thinking. Mrs. E managed to get over the hump to having intercourse with more men since she met me than when we started. (Her first husband was #3, I was #7. This made #15.)

Nothing unusual for us, but it could be classified as cuckold: our daughter and I ran a few errands and did chores at home while mom was at another couple's house engaged in a threesome.

This means that you find your wife the best porn star

He probably had one fantastic orgasm in his wife afterwards. Talk about sloppy.

Early on when my wife and I got into swinging, she would want me to be directly involved in an MFM. As time went on, she became comfortable with me just watching her play with another man. I'll be stroking myself when this happens. I very much enjoy watching my wife have sex with another man. It's nice to just sit back and watch some times. Kinda like the best porn movie ever

Loved watching him the other night. I had two guys taking care of me and he watched us for an hour. Hebedged the entire time and finally exploded. Watching him took my experience to an entirely new level.

Define "kinky."

In nearly all the MFM threesomes we have had, usually my wife will settle in with one of us and the other guy will watch. The guy watching is always stroking himself but not to climax - basically waiting for his turn.

Same here. During an MFM with my wife (or one of the other guys' wives actually), the woman usually takes care of both of us for a while, then likes to concentrate on one guy. I always prefer going second because watching the show is much better before I cum. So I'll masturbate without cumming while they fuck then go into the same hole and finish where he blew his load.

When my wife and I have an MFM, I usually let them play for quite awhile before I join in. As they're getting naked, I do too, and I handle my penis while she and he are having fun. I don't normally come, but just enjoy myself. When they come to a resting point, often after he's come inside her, I'll take over and add my semen to his. I don't know if you'd call this 'masturbating' though . . .

I definitely understand why it's weird for an uninvolved guy in a club to whip it out and watch, but it's never even occurred to me that it might be a problem in a group where everyone knows each other and is playing together. "Orgasm denial" is a kink that often goes along with cuckolding. If that's a couple's thing, that's cool, but not my thing, for sure. If I'm not masturbating while Mrs. E is performing, I either just came or I'm dead.

I got into my first soft play with another woman recently while my husband watched. He got an immediate erection, and masturbated while watching us. It was extremely erotic and arousing to see him doing that. It definitely added to the experience.

I have had to resist the urge to touch myself watching my wife enjoying having sex with another man. There were times I was so hard I could feel my pulse in my cock. I thought I was going to cum without touching myself.

In am MFM situation, I simply cannot help masturbating while I watch Angel with another male. It's so hot, so erotic that I could not possibly refrain. She loves that I do it, and she'll ask me to if I'm not. I don't cum, but keep it hard and stroking until I'm with her again. When the other guy is watching, we're both turned on by him masturbating while watching us. And like Trophy, she and I love it when we finish with one guy kneeling on either side of Angel's chest and stroking until we cover her breasts with our cum.

Masturbate. Why not? It is a very big turn-on for me to watch my wife with another guy, especially in the MFM experience, and she knows it. That's the main reason why the MFM has been the main activity in swinging for us for the past several months. Mrs really loves the fact that she can ask me to masturbate for her and for her to watch while she is being fucked by the other guy. She really enjoys having both of us finishing off by jerking ourselves and covering her in our cum. If it works and no one is offended, by all means.

Yes, I think it's acceptable for one spouse to masturbate themselves when they are watching their partner with another person. That's part of the fun!

The husband masturbating while the wife plays is expected behavior. It is, however, rude to let it fly on the players unless they approve.

What is the reward in voyeurism if you can't get off while watching your sexy woman in pleasure? If the man doing her didn't expect you to whip it out, why did he think you would let him screw your wife?

Perhaps if it just a 3some or 4some. Mr Shy doesn't and neither have our playmates. We did go to a party where they allowed single guys and there was one guy that no matter where we went or what we were doing, there he was. It was creepy but also comical. We nicknamed him "Wanky McWanker"

My friend always masturbates while he watches me and his wife performing.

I agree with Daisy Girl. It's a big turn-on for me to see my husband masturbating while he is watching me and another man. Very Hot! He will often share with me later on that night or the next day his thoughts/feelings/fantasies he was experiencing while jacking off looking at me.

I know I would love to see men masturbate to my wife and watch me masterbate. I'm bi curious and have never been with a man since adulthood but I would hope it would turn into more than just watching.