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Like so many STIs and respiratory illnesses before COVID, SARS-CoV-2 (including all variants) will find a place in the risk calculus of intimacy. It's not just the LS--it's ordinary vanilla dating as well. Leaving STIs aside for the moment, it's not just dating: it's any "close quarters" setting. What we think will happen. 1. Just as expectations and behaviors surfaced around use of condoms to reduce STI risk, we think expectations and behaviors will show up around SARS-CoV-2. 2. Vaccination will be an expectation. 3. Recent testing (perhaps in a 48-72 hour window) will also become a "usual behavior", at least so long as such testing is free on demand, as it is now. 4. No show based on "I don't feel quite well" will trigger appreciation versus the historical "just another flake" response. More clearly, "vaccinated and healthy" will become a minimum standard, and "getting tested" will become common behavior. Do you really care which variant your (potential) playmate might have? Would you feel better infected with beta than delta?

People roll differently. Some men we met wanted to be my wife’s boyfriend. That’s not what we want. The only two options are to tell that person what bothers you or dump them. We did explain it to one person and it worked. Generally, dumping is more effective.

We were hoping to be able to start exploring possibilities once things died down but with the delta variant, it's not happening. Like enhancer, we live in an area where the case count is climbing in the large unvaccinated population. Combine that with living in a largely rural area and I think I'm just doomed to not be able to watch my wife suck another man's dick anytime soon.

I think what's important here is what is right for you and your relationship. If you don't feel this person is a good fit, for whatever reason, there is nothing wrong with that. Just politely but clearly tell her that it's not going to work and move on. I've found one of the hardest things I've had to get used to in swinging is rejection, receiving it and giving it... but it's got to be done.

My feelings are the same as yours. We are not interested in an open marriage, and the over communication would bother me. We are looking to play together also.

Phew. The Sub's date didn't go anywhere. It is what it is, she was happy and flirted solo at the bar for a while. Mrs. E's was more interesting. She had a good chat, got felt up, liked what she felt in his pants and had an excellent vibe, so went with it. She wasn't quite ready for intercourse but they ended up exchanging oral in his car until he came in her mouth. She's pleased with the experience and driving home now after her morning sessions ended, taking her out for drinks myself at 5:00. Definitely going to be intercourse after.

In the business world, I dress conservatively, even wearing a bra although there's nothing there to support. At home around the kids, we are appropriately dressed. When in Europe (mostly for business), however, I enjoy going to the nude spas and resorts. Nothing sexual, although you never know what is going on in someone's mind, just the freedom of exposing all of my body to the sun, water, and wind. Being there with people of all ages gives a reassuring normalness and non-sexuality to it all.

Just to show you what a crazy bitch I am, if this happened to me I would order my husband to take me to a party with these people and tell him to fuck that woman in front of me. I would own what he had done, own him and reconcile myself with her. Then I would explore what was possible and follow my instincts. Probably I would want to eat her out (to show him that I can please her as much as he did) and fuck some guy (to show my husband what I can do). Is this what I would actually do? Yes, and probably something more unpredictable and contrary to what everyone would expect. That's me.

We always appreciate follow ups and love the ones that come with pictures. Almost 10 years later and you have gotten only gotten hotter in that time!

Question for you all. We are within our first 6 months to this lifestyle. We have met several people online and switch over to Snapchat or texting to communicate. I know there are several different personalities so answers will vary but how often do you guys chat with new friends? I only ask because we like to play together not separate, we are not in an open relationship and enjoy the find together. We recently started chatting with a new lady who is in an open relationship and she is constantly wanting to communicate with us via Snapchat. I’m starting to think it’s not a good fit cause she is too “clingy”. So I’m just curious has anyone else dealt with this and am I just over thinking things? I don’t want to be rude and be like back off but kinda getting over it with her cause we have a life and family and kids to give our attention to. Thanks for any help on this

https://www.wkyt.com/2021/08/26/watch-live-gov-beshear-holds-team-kentucky-update-covid-cases-continue-climb/ At least you’re vaccinated

No doubt there are women that like hard sex and way too many men who will oblige yet I have found most women are pushed into being submissive. Maybe it’s just me, I cringe when I read a post stating their wife wants to be humiliated and dominated or they want a gangbang. No doubt some women want these things to please their husbands wants. One question I always ask a woman, are you doing this for you or for him. My meetings are not as a dominate, I can never cause pain, I only help a woman explore another side. There are way too many women who get into new things because of fantasies their partners have. When I read my wife wants to be humiliated it makes me think who really wants to be humiliated.

We haven’t started swinging yet, and it’s a hard time to do so with the delta variant and covid issues going on. We are fully vaccinated, but aren’t even sure where to start to find playmates with the current state of our home state.

We are young, fully vaccinated, and healthy so we feel pretty good and have gone back to an almost normal life which includes swinging. I assume it will be different for everyone but right now we feel pretty good about it. It is possible that the winter might slow it down or change it so that we're staying in a smaller group of close friends.

I have known two people who have still gotten fairly sick (just "severe flu" levels, not "I need to go to the hospital" levels) despite being vaccinated. It's no joke. Ultimately, we're mostly returning to our normal lives - including this - but continuing to avoid crowded indoor situations. Best we can do. We anticipate the winter may bad bad again, but are hopeful for a plateau.

Our understanding is that you can still get and transmit the delta variant when you are fully vaccinated, but the chances of getting really sick from it are reduced by a lot when fully vaccinated. So although we are by no means running out to parties and events we have been talking to a couple people that are interested in meeting us about possibly getting together in the near future. Unfortunately the case numbers here are increasing big time daily, because of the ridiculous amount of anti vaccine folks that are still here. This means we will proceed with caution and will only consider meeting others who are on the let’s do our part to slow this thing down train. If they are not fully vaccinated we will not be meeting them. That is our right as people like to say. At this point anyone who wants the vaccine will have had easy access to it. We don’t feel bad for the people that won’t get it and get really sick. That is their problem. We have done our part this whole time.

Wow, was it really that long ago... talk about a blast from the past. Glad to hear you had some great times making those fantasies into reality. The good times are indeed what keeps us going. Also love the picture... ?

We still have 2 kids living at home, so clothing on here. When we are playing we like nudist homes and come in clothed, drop them when you go to the bedroom (or whhatever room) homes. Once the kids are out in 8 years or so we are going to travel in a camper around the country, clothing will be minimal, if nonexistent, whenever possible.