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For us, especially the first year or two and diffinately when we had our own gatherings/parties online was only a listing that a large percentage were false, most often single/solo guys. Many were outdated (those that were but had since moved on further in the lifestyle or a banded it entirely but deleting the profile couldn’t or wouldn’t happen. We treated them all as the window dressing they are meant to be. Chatting on line was only a little bit better. a phone conversation was always an eye opener. If only the male would talk even stating the wife/girlfriend was shy or only wanted to talk sex…..especially hardcore sex without any social discussion were always red flags for us. After a phone conversation or two we would set a social meet, usually for lunch or dinner. And never for a non public meet or the possibility of any play being available. Hard rule was we would part company after a social get together, each of us discussing about the other couple. Later another phone call and another meet if all are interested that could lead to…… so with that we avoided any great disappointments, mismatches…..unsafe situations. No awkward need to give excuses on why….or hurt feelings. we had another hard rule….no profile listing, no profile detail and some kind of photo……no initial contact from us. We would respond to those who reached out to us. And because of where we live we would not drive more than an hour to meet. this worked for us for many years. Now we attend one semi private house/club party only and meet anyone new there.

Agreed. So consider matching one to one; leave the foursomes for later. The only couple that we became involved with was Lora and Walter. They were just dating, Lora started fucking hubby, Walter was good with it, we started socializing and having sex with them both as they got serious, engaged, married. It's a different approach. Excellent advice.

If she is giving you consent to do it then you can give it a try on your own! Most people will want her to verify it though. Regardless you will be fighting an up hill battle on your own, because there are probably 100 guys to ever one couple looking for guys by themselves out there. Many people like us do not play with attached guys on their own as well so there is that to to contend with. Also if you are doing this without her consent you can expect even less people to be interested, because cheating is not in anyway swinging.

Men cannot be tested for HPV. Condoms are of dubious value against it. If any of the parties are under 45, they can be vaccinated. Unfortunately, we know several women who have had medical procedures due to HPV. Also, women in the lifestyle should have regular Pap smears. I am not a doctor, but talk to your doctor about it. They assume that married women are monogamous. Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but swingers don’t want to talk about it and it is very prevalent.

It seems like a good bi couple is what you need.

So HOT!!! We totally get your perspective. My husband is completely turned off by guys kissing guys and has absolutely no interested in doing another guy anally in any form or fashion. I am the same with regards to guys kissing but the whole sucking and fucking anally - It totally gets me off!!! As for my husband doing another guy anally, I get it, he has me for all the anal he could ever want. He seldom even does the other ladies in our group anally. I am once again, TOTALLY into the whole handling and sucking the Big Cock as well as watching the guys do it, especially feeding it to them. AND stuffing or trying to cram the Big ones into their super tight little backsides. So to each, his or her own.

When I hold a cock and look at my bf he knows that I am telling him "it's your turn" just started this and it hot