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Welcome to the Swingers Board! Thank you for your thoughtful and thought-provoking post. There are a lot of very wise people here, so I'm sure you will get some good advice and feedback. I can't say I have any experience with the relationship specific type trauma and stigma, so I don't have any personal experience to draw on there for advice. So instead of trying to fake it, I will just leave that up to others who hopefully can give better answers. I will say after reading your post that I commend you both for doing the hard, and yes, sometimes painful, work that it takes to keep a relationship going and make it a lasting one. I would offer this advice though based on my sense of where you both are at. Take your time, and take baby steps. People often throw caution to the wind and dive right in. I think that's a mistake for most, and often doesn't turn out well in the long run. Don't let any feeling of pressure, either from outside or inside, dictate the speed at which you move. There are a lot of ways to dip your toe into swinging to see how it feels. And, since it's just a toe in the water, if it turns out you don't like the feel, then not going to be any harm done. For example, attending some off-premise meet and greets would be a good way to get a feel for what swingers are like. Events like that are usually held at a bar, etc., and since the events are out in public, then by necessity going to be relatively tame. Most couples are willing to help answer questions for newcomers. At an off-premise event, they aren't going there with their mind on playing as much, more just hanging out with friends. So, it's just a more laid-back casual atmosphere with more time for in-depth conversation than say a Saturday night at an on-premise swingers club. You might want to try a few different ones too. Just like any other club or group, the overall vibe depends on the members and sort of self selects over time to fit the majority. So a more laid back group focused more on the social aspects is probably going to be seen as kind of boring by someone more focused on the sex, and those folks will likely move on to another group quick. Same holds true going the other direction too. Usually you can pick up some hints on what the group is like just from how they do their event listings. If that goes well and this is still something you both want to pursue, then you can move on to attending a swingers club or house party. No always means no, and there should never be any pressure to play, but these type events are going to be a little more intense. Still worth doing though even if you just sit at a table in a dark corner and watch. You'll pick up a lot from just watching others. Again, each club has it's own vibe, and even different nights of the week at the same club can have a different vibe. I'd recommend sticking to couples-only nights at first. If you guys aren't the clubbing type, then that's fine too. Some people like clubs, some don't. Even if you decide to forego the clubbing in favor of looking online for couples to meet one on one to see if there is any chemistry there, I still believe the meet and greets are a good first step. I believe getting the chance to talk to swingers face to face in a non-threatening environment will be super helpful given some of the feelings you have expressed. Good luck! To me, the Cardinal Rules of Swinging are 1) Have fun!, and the most important one, 2) Have fun together! If each step along the way, both of you are having fun, then that's a pretty good sign you are in a safe and good place and might want to consider giving the next step a try too.

Always experiencing new things is one of the great things of freeing up your inhibitions. My first reaction to anyone sneaking up behind me was to pucker up, don’t want anything going in there. That first time was a shock and enjoyable at the same time. Different from other sensations.

It finally happened! My wife and I have been to a few swinger clubs, but she only allowed people to watch never touch, this went on for a few years. We were talking and I was explaining the way we should look at is that adding another guy is like me using her toys on her, use it, have fun then put it away. I asked her how about an erotic massage in a nice hotel by me and another guy? To my surprise and excitement, she said she thinks she could do that! My wife is a 42 yr old Colombian with large man-made C cups, thin waist and a med/lg ass. She only had 4 lovers in her past and all of them just did vanilla sex. Boy did I expand her world when we got married LOL! She is absolutely beautiful with a heart of gold, so I wanted to make sure this was amazing but most of all safe. I came up with limits so she would feel comfortable and safe. First, she would be on the massage table, when he came in and she would be blindfolded as she gets embarrassed easily. Second, the guy would not talk unless asked something by me or her. Third, no rough stuff, just gentle massage. I would allow oral and fingering on her by him but oral on him only if she initiated it. Fourth, I told her at the end after we make her cum, I would ask her Green light, Yellow light or Red light? Green would be to continue with sex from both of us, yellow is sex with me only but he can watch and touch, and Red was thank you but he leaves as I want only my husband now. Lastly, I would meet with the guy before the massage and if I felt the slightest hesitation, I would call it off. She liked the rules. I then started looking when “S” PM’d me. He said he was flying into San Antonio on business and was willing to help. We PM’d back and forth while giving me advice as he said he had helped others get introduced into the LS. He answered every question I had so we made plans to meet when he landed and give the massage to my wife later that evening (only time we both had before he returned home). When I met him a few hours prior to the massage he was so polite that my anxiety level went to zero. We again went over the wife’s limits I came up with and he had no problem with any of them. My wife was blindfolded and on the massage table with a towel over her ass when he arrived. He immediately went to the restroom and undressed and washed his hands. When he came out, massage music was playing, and I had those battery powered candles lighting the room. To make her comfortable with another man’s hands on her we started with her neck and back. After about 10 minutes we moved the towel covering her ass and we began to massage her lower half. We moved slow going from her ass back up to her back then down her legs. I bent her knee moving her lower leg inward at an angle and her pussy became exposed to him for the first time. The light from the candles made her already wet pussy glisten. As we rubbed her inner thighs we would graze her pussy lips…..she was SOOO wet. When we flipped her we began working on her breasts. I was getting so turned on watching another man touch my woman. “S” moved nice and slow over her nipples then down her arm as I did the same. Her nipples were becoming hard as we lightly massaged each breast. We went lower toward her landing strip pubic hair but being careful not to go too far in order to drive her wild. When we moved to her legs, we started with her feet then moved up. We bent both of her legs inward at an angle so the bottom of her feet were touching each other…..this opened her pussy wide. We again worked her inner thighs but this time moving our hands right over her pussy lips……this drove me wild seeing him touch her. I then went down on her and she was drenched in her juices, NOT just wet….drenched, and it tasted so good. At that point I looked up at “s” and offered my wife’s pussy to him. He began to eat her out and I saw her mouth open and could tell she was in pure ecstasy. He wrapped his lips around her clit and sunk his fingers deep inside her…..she let out an amazing moan. I got out the clit vibrator and started to tease her clit while “S” bent two of his fingers to massage her g-spot. I handed the vibrator to “S” while I started to massage her breasts and nipples. “S” kept up the fingering mixed with licking until she had the most intense orgasm, I have ever seen her have! She about rolled off the table it was so intense! She motioned for him to stop but continued to twitch for over a minute. After we let her calm down, I moved her to the edge of the table spreading her legs apart and started to fuck her. She was so soaking wet I slid right in. I looked over and she had “S” cock in her hand slowly playing with it…..I had to think of baseball in order not to cum right there LOL!! “S” then moved to the head of the table to hold her head as it was falling off the table…..what a gentleman! She grabbed his arms and had another orgasm while I came deep in her soaking pussy. “S” smiled at me and quietly left as my wife and I held each other. It was perfect. She told me she LOVED the experience and wants to do it again ?. We went home and fucked two more times. The next day “S” texted me to check on my wife to make sure she was doing good. I can’t tell you enough how much I appreciate “S” in helping us take the next step……thanks man!!……D&J

We canceled out on Mexico now for the third time in the past year. Last week at the Casino, during the week, we went to the 360 View Chophouse for a snack and drink at 11 PM. From there, down to blackjack and craps... Julie can feel more comfortable with masks on and late during the week. It tended to be cool so Julie's nipples really popped. There were maybe an 1/2 dozen couples of various ages around the casino and a few dozen men. There really was very little reaction about Julie's dress...... Robb

We moved into our 12th floor room, and by 3:30 PM were back to the casino, shorts and tees, sandals and masks. At least every other machine was out of service, gone or covered. Black jack tables were allowing only 3 players. Craps tables were closed. We walked around, waited and waited and finally gave up getting a seat to a black jack table. We headed back to our room... In the room, we got comfortably naked, fooled around in the Jacuzzi tube, took turns shaving each other everywhere!!!!! Worked up we had a great lovemaking session and promptly went to sleep. About 7ish we, were up, showered up again and got dressed for our 8:30 PM dinner reservations at the 20th floor Market Chophouse. Julie had brought a couple of dresses. I recommended the very short dress/top she wears with tights and layers, etc. only without tights, panties, etc. She tried it on and was extremely worried it was too short. We had seen no families or kids in the lobby, casino and public areas and were "just" going to the Chophouse. I convinced Julie the short dress and heels were fine. As we walked out our room door, Julie said she felt more undressed in the dress than she did nude at clothes optional resorts. You can check the dress photos in the gallery. We walked to the elevator and rode it up to 20 to the Chophouse.... Julie's dress basically was not covering her butt or anything else.

I met a much older woman when I was 21. She was a widow in her early 50's and was still very attractive and a native of Brazil. Our first date we borrowed a friends houseboat. After we had sex on the floor of the boat, she told me she had to pee really bad and asked if I would like to watch? I told her yes and she got up off of me and sat on the john which just happen to be next where I was lying. As she started to pee, and really gushing, she turned so that I could watch her. I sat up and became interested watching her. After just I few seconds, she stopped in mid-stream so to speak and moved directly over me and squatted over my face and told me to lick her. I had become aroused and so I licked the droplets left on her pussy lips. It tasted a little salty but nothing too bad so I probed my tongue in deeper and began to taste her more. It was really turning me on as I licked her deeper and suddenly she gushed into my mouth. I was totally surprised and let it run out of my mouth. However it was very exciting and I continued licking her and as I do she lets go of another spurt of pee into my mouth. This time I try swallowing it as she continues giving me squirts as I probe her peehole with my tongue. As she is peeing she is rubbing her clit watching me try and swallow her offering. It tuned me on so much that as soon as I could reach my cock, I started to cum. She later turned me on to other aspects of watersports and I feel lucky to have meet and enjoyed learning from a sexual older woman.

I not advocating the practice by making this post...however....urine is considered one of the most sterile body fluids...no bacteria or other pathogens. I have scrubbed in on several surgeries and the surgeon uses the persons own urine as a sterile wash. On a non-medical perspective, many culture view urine as scared. Just my two cents..... No....I don't play in watersports...just knowledgeable on the subject. And another thought.....we all are in swinging because embrace alternative lifestyles....one persons "EWWWWW" is another's fantasy.

I introduced a former lover to watersports when, during a love making session, I told her to sit in the tub and spread her legs wide. I had intentionally had lots of liquids to drink earlier. I directed a stream of pee at her erect clit, and continued that until I was "drained." She almost came from the sensation of the stream of warm pee focused on her clit, and then she masturbated to an orgasm while she sat there and thought of what we had just done. We didn't do that often, but she would ask me to do that to her at other times. I found it very exciting to watch her get so aroused and then to almost cum from the sensation.

I suppose the mere fact that some people get sexual pleasure from this activity makes it a sexual act. I myself would not like having anal sex performed on me but regardless that's a sexual act...some people enjoy s/m, I don't but its a sexual act...everyone is unique and that's the great thing about this forum. After reading these stories and comments I either want to try something or don't have to try these things that I was once curios about. quick note: after reading some of the comments on this subject the comment of drinking urine was brought up does this always go hand and hand with this activity or is this a more extreme fetish. The movies on the net always show the drinking of the urine. Is there such a thing as a "soft pee fetish"? Well, just asking...........

Ah, the great thing about the internet, so many opinions, this is great a true forum. To discuss things like this would be taboo in earlier times, I'm glad we all have such great convictions. p.s. roxie Many cultures including Korea enjoy the many medicinal benefits of urine they take urine orally in such a manner to heal them