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This is a pretty common "like" by women, in my experience. I'm not a choker or hitter by natural inclination. But I've learned to play along when requested. I think it's the kind of thing that really requires a comfort level and boundaries, though. As a personal guideline, I never, ever, choke unless it is specifically requested. A light smack on the ass is sufficient to test those waters. If she likes it, you'll get pretty direct positive feedback. If she doesn't respond, then it's probably not helping. As a guy, I kind of work off the assumption that the better I make it for her, the better it will be for me. Even in a very casual situation, this has been true for me.

Choking seems dangerous. I couldn’t do it even if it was requested. Slapping an ass seems somewhat popular. Again, not my thing. We have seen some shockingly hard ass slapping at house parties. A little scary.

Mrs ID and I were into BDSM way before we started swinging. Under no circumstance would we EVER do that without permission. It's not acceptable-period. A love pat on the butt once or twice is on thing. And choking is something I don't like to do because of the risks involved. Anything with rough play requires a negotiated scene before hand. As @christnthms said if I make it better for her I have an even better time. And as @Lionheart72 mentioned a little direction is a good thing.

One of the things I like about our Club is that alcohol and other intoxicants are not welcome on site and arrival intoxicated is discouraged. Thanks for sticking up for Social/Family Nudism!

I have an alternate fuck-licking fantasy. It's where my wife sits on me and rides me cowgirl style, and a cute guy or girl licks her butt from behind, maybe slipping my cock in their mouth from time to time...

My hall pass date, Melissa, has found a boyfriend. He's a kind and hansome black guy called Mack. Last weekend we met him and Melissa and my wife exoeriencedllll her first black cock. We went with condoms for safety but hopefully everything will check out fine and we can enjoy the real thing soon. We have been swinging for over 3 years and have now got 3 couples to swing with. Including hall passes, we reckon we have now had about 20 sessions. That's not so may about once every two months. Is that a low average? Any comments on how frequently the rest of LS folks swing? 9

With anal, longer is better compared to vaginal where too long can be a problem.

Yes yes YES - fingers anally while humpty de dumptying. And I agree DP is another level and must be done with people you have trained with, I have never just done it and it worked out. And though I can take larger anally than vaginally in normal anal, not in DP - no way hosay in the beginning. Always have the smaller do the anal initially and work your way up to the larger as in most all cases. The only reason larger makes sense eventually is that you need the length to make it work best. Although we have a few guys now with long thin ones that make for the best DP without a doubt.

I absolutely love DP with the right people, you know the ones who know what the heck they are doing and how to do it well! I by far have the most explosive orgasms when DP is done well. My husband likes doing it in most positions but of course says it's best when you are the one doing the pumping. Though we have discovered that when there are 3 guys with 2 doing DP on me the 3rd can keep us quite entertained and the combination of it all can be extremely pleasurable for us all. My husband wanted to add, that when just laying there focus on what is taking place, picture it, feel it, imagine it, and realize exactly what is taking place - that he does enjoy, knowing that I am getting pleasured beyond my wildest dreams. Oh and then there are my breast bouncing up and down or moving forward and back, the enjoyment on my face, in my eyes, and all the screaming, hollering, yelling, all the sex talk it produces from me.

In theory, there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice, there is.

We had done a number of pussy/ass DPs in our early hotwife/MFM and couples swap days, with me in either of Daniela's holes. The first time, however, I watched her doing DP with two other guys, it was a whole other level, both sexually hot and emotionally "WTF are we doing?" Of all the things we've done, it was the only time I felt that way.

I do as well. It's amazing how much can be felt through the combined walls of a woman's vagina and rectum.

We've done it once for my wife's birthday last year with the husband of a couple we're good friends with. We did both DP and DVP. I'd be up for doing it again.

So HOT!!! We totally get your perspective. My husband is completely turned off by guys kissing guys and has absolutely no interested in doing another guy anally in any form or fashion. I am the same with regards to guys kissing but the whole sucking and fucking anally - It totally gets me off!!! As for my husband doing another guy anally, I get it, he has me for all the anal he could ever want. He seldom even does the other ladies in our group anally. I am once again, TOTALLY into the whole handling and sucking the Big Cock as well as watching the guys do it, especially feeding it to them. AND stuffing or trying to cram the Big ones into their super tight little backsides. So to each, his or her own.

Yes, most definitely! This is how my husband eventually joined in with me.

When I hold a cock and look at my bf he knows that I am telling him "it's your turn" just started this and it hot

My wife and I talked about that. We have a fantasy where I would suck a guy hard before he entered her. We share this time to time during sex and right before she is about to orgasm and it really gets us both off. I’m not exactly bi but I would welcome an experience like that.

Have been thinking about this lately, me and my wife are thinking about giving the lifestyle a try and she wants to do a mfm which I'm cool with but we were talking one night about what really gets her hot and she said watching to guys get it on. So I asked her what she would think about watching a man suck my cock and she thought about it and was wetter than she has ever been and we fucked our brains out just from the thought of it. Don't know if I she find a single or couple. She has said she would like to try a woman as well.

Wow, that's enlightening. What I think you are saying is that gays aren't tolerant of one's bi-sexual preferences because they've spent so much time trying to persuade the rest of the world that they are born gay and it's not a choice. Accepting bisexuality is accepting that sexuality is a choice. Damn shame.

Bisexual stigma will continue because it isn't a 'lifestyle' like the rest of the lgbtq set. Bisexual people live at one end or the other. Imagine living as an out bisexual. You would spend your whole life explaining this, and no one would believe you weren't gay, oversexed, greedy, confused...... Bisexuality comes out in personal ads, relationship development and accidentally. Bout it.

I have been in more than a few MMF threesomes or sex parties where allegedly 'straight men' are in reality either bisexual or gay and don't want to admit it to themselves OR their partner. I think the B in the LGBT community is one of the most misunderstood because not enough bisexuals are out, particularly men. If the majority continue to deny their sexuality, then this stigma continues

Of course, it's not weird. We all have our preferences and boundaries. I'd say sucking a nice cock to completion is a 10 on my scale. Ass play a 6 and kissing a 3. I am definitely much more interested in the cock and balls!

That is so hot. Wife and I have a couple and the hubby is huge . I love to suck his massive cock with his or my wife. He's like twice my size and I will say I love his giant penis. But I'm not into kissing, ass play with guys. Is that strange that I'll suck his big dick and let him cum in my mouth but I won't kiss or do ass?

I have to disagree with Two4. Doug needs to be dealt with frankly. In a way, Two4 did, by quoting Mark Twain which amounted to calling Doug a fool on this forum. Doug is one of many that don't understand that disagreeing with him is quite different from not having morals. It's about morals that differ from his. That Doug thinks his morals are the only correct ones speaks of his ego. Actually it speaks of his ill ease with his ego, his self image. He seems to fear difference: different morals, different opinions, perhaps because it may mean his are not correct.

We are advised not to respond or to ignore his ignorance, which I've done and he is on my ignore list. However, how is it okay for him to continually criticize and talk bad about swingers on the swingers board? I'm not trying to start drama, I'm simply asking where the line is?

well said. I hope everyone coming by is having a great day. Ready to move off the defense of my post. Maybe some have a better view of the subject, would be interesting to know at this point... Or if there are any legitimate questions, would be happy to chat about it.

It pains me to say this, but here it goes. Almost everyone of you are great members of this board and do so well in contributing to the discussions, advice and opinions around here. But: Doug39 is laying the wood to you right now. How? All he wants out of you is outrage and responses. And you're giving it to him in spades. You've allowed a few pixels that represent the word "Doug39" and a red square dot to get under your skin and you feel the need to put those pixels in their place. So, you're being beaten, badly, by some code that represents "doug39". Use your internal ignore option and you'll look a lot better in the long run. If your internal ignore option doesn't work, then use the one on this board graciously provided by the web mistress, Julie. Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. -Attributed to Mark Twain

Amen This is certainly not something that I would ever be comfortable doing, but if the OP was comfortable then who am I to say what they can/can't do? If it's not hurting anyone, then why not?

I just want to see a post from you, Doug, that says, "I have no right to try to impose my moral standards on anybody else."

I really shouldn't stoop this low and continue this worthless argument but it has to be said that at no time or in no way did I state I or anyone else stood over top of anyone and watched. Certainly no one's business but my own and either way concerning no one. But doug39 statement is a fabricated to suit his own agenda and does not represent what i originally said. He really should enjoy his day and take up knitting. Maybe leave the sex talk to those who enjoy actually talking about sex and nudity. Good day to you.

Thank you for your support. Hope to see you around. Always open to chat. Feel free to drop me a message and I can give you our yahoo ID or something.

I replied to your comment with respect and you come back with "you people" What kind of "people" am I ? I was simply saying that there are all kinds of views in this grand world and not everyone has to agree with how I looked upon an event that happened. I still don't see and issues in knowing what went on with others that night. You seem to have some pretty negative views and opinions of people who enjoy life and share swinging fun with others. Have a great day and please hang out here with the rest of the "you peoples". Your views and thoughts are always welcome. take care