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Thanks for the EXCELLENT feedback. This is also very useful, and helpful. Well my wife and I have been talking all week. We had somewhat a of a breakthrough actually. My wife had a good conversation with the other wife which gave my wife an idea of where the other wife is emotionally and practically with swinging. It opened my wife's eyes and really put her at ease about a few things. So much that she told me last night after having such a good conversation with the other wife she would actually be ok if I fucked her. However, I know that won't happen because like I said she's not attracted to the other husband enough to make it a full swap for everyone. So we are sticking to our rules. Best thing is. Our communication has reached a whole other level this week. It was always good, but this week even better. I also amended one of our rules, because I felt strongly about doing so. One of our rules. Is we only play together. Last night I amended it to. My wife can play alone with the other wife only. There have been a few trips, and girls nights where I know those two would have loved to play. So I opened that door. I realized, that really doesn't bother me and if it could increase her enjoyment, and show the trust I have why not? Very productive week. Thanks folks.

I'm both. I love to watch and look at others. At the same time, I'm big on wearing next to nothing and being naked, or very close to naked. It very freeing.

Are you more of a voyeur or exhibitionist? I would definitely say I am more of a voyeur myself. My favourite part of our lifestyle experiences is watching her with others. Such a huge turn on watching her please and be pleased and it always makes me want her even more afterwards. She probably leans more to being an exhibitionist, because she always seems to enjoy putting on a great performance for me.

Stag and Vixen... I stumbled across this phrase the other day while surfing the steamier parts of the 'net. The definitions I found suggest that, while similar to the cuckold/hotwife dynamic, the "stag" is different from the "cuckold" in that cuckold implies a submissive aspect while stag does not. The stag is a dominant or equal partner who enjoys sharing his wife/partner with other men without being diminished by the act. One posting referenced the ancient custom of cuckolded men being forced to wear antlers as a sign of their shame, and described the stag as "reclaiming the horns" which I though was interesting. As the term rather better describes my own personal kink (and also touches on an interesting pagan religious dimension), I was rather excited to find this. I wondered if anyone else had come across this terminology or knew anything more about it?

We have been using JO H2O for years and find it works great! Usually buy the flavoured ones. Can be bought on Amazon or most sex stores. We stay away from anything with silicone or the ones that heat things up ourselves. Although she produces a lot of natural wetness from being multi orgasmic and being a squirter we still find lube a good idea for long sessions to keep things from getting raw.

I would agree, I tend to like watching more than showing. Mrs cplnuswing leans the same way, would rather watch than show.

Hello, long time lurker here, married many decades, long interest in lifestyle. Wife has posed many questions to me about lifestyle that I have not been able to answer. Once you have begun to swing how has it affected your marriage? Do you find that over time that you lose intimacy? I have noticed people seem to start swinging and then they seem to disappear. I realize that this is something to be carefully navigated as a couple but is this a recipe for a divorce? There is so much misinformation on the net as many of the sources have agendas. I truly love my wife and am very sexually attracted to her and do not want to destroy something precious. I would love to hear about successful long married long swinging couples who remain highly in love and continue to enjoy sex with each other and carefully selected friends.