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Back in the day (and this was long pre-pandemic), we would go to our local swingers club and usually had a pretty easy time finding single guys. They were allowed at the club and once they knew we were open to be approached by them, they approached... single guys at swingers clubs are basically there looking for free sex with easy women. Let them know the lady is available and that's usually all the invitation they need. Given that basically all we wanted was a reasonably attractive, polite guy with a hard dick, it was fairly simple to make a connection. We would sometimes meet guys at the club pool table. Neither my wife nor I are good at pool, but we played anyway. It was a good place to chat with people, make an initial connection and see if they met the "polite" requirement. Then it was just a matter or asking if they were interested. We have had no luck with finding people online, for some reason. Though we have been approached online in the past by a number of single guys. Again, let them know you are interested in them and post a sexy picture of your wife and you have to beat them off with a stick. Finding someone who is actually a good match (even when your criteria are as simple as "reasonably attractive and polite") has proven to more difficult, for us at least.

I suspect that what you like about sucking a dick is similar to what I like. Plus I get the thrill of the taboo factor.

My ex girlfriend and I had talked about having a threesome with another guy for some time but nothing had happened until one night we decided to take our fantasy further. I had been out on the town with a few of my mates when my girl rang to see when I was coming home. She asked who I was with and when I told her that I was with a guy that she had fantasized about playing with she cheekily asked that I bring him back. I just took it as a joke and left it at that. When I got home a few hours later my girl asked where my friend was; it was only then I knew that she was serious. I asked her if she really wanted to do it and to my surprise she said she was disappointed that he wasn't with me then. I called him up to see if he wanted to come around for a drink, not letting him know what we really wanted. He arrived about half an hour later and came inside. We sat down for the next hour drinking and just talking; when my girlfriend said she was going to have a shower but I knew what she was preparing to do. She came back about 10 minutes later just wearing undies and a t-shirt and I could immediately see him starting to perve on her. She came and sat between us and started kissing me. He just sat there not knowing what was going on as I started to rub her tits. She played with my dick till it was hard and started to suck and lick it. I looked over at him and he said if you two don't stop I will have to play with myself! My gf looked up at him and said that's fine. He took his cock out of his pants and just watched my girl suck my dick as he stroked his. After a few minutes she stopped sucking me and to his surprise leaned over to him and started sucking on his. For a second I was jealous but that quickly changed to turned on as she sucked his cock. She looked so sexy. I got off the couch and laid on my back on the floor. She stopped working him and kneeled over my face doggy and went back to work sucking his dick. She was just oozing with juice, I'd never seen her this wet before. He took his cock out of her mouth and said "I want to eat her", so being the good host I am I took his spot and he took mine licking her lovely tight pussy. She was pretty much begging for dick a few minutes later as he stopped tonguing her. He got back on the couch and just watched as I took it out of her mouth and took her from behind. She told him to get back in front of her so she could suck him while I fucked her. We fucked like this for some time before she turned to me and said "I want his dick in me!" He jumped up and took my spot, sliding his cock into her. I still get hard to this day thinking of her facial expression as he slid it into her. She was bucking back and forth on his cock so hard that he couldn't handle it anymore and took his dick out of her pussy and came hard all over her back. This made her suck my cock like she had never done before, just as I was about to unload she took me out of her mouth and pulled me hard until I came on her face and then took the last few drops into her mouth

Our choices show our lack of sophistication, but saliva works fine for us for vaginal intercourse (I get wet pretty easily, but sometimes I need a little just at the entrance to get started). Mostly there is pussy licking going on before fucking anyway, so it's not a problem. For anal play, if it's just a finger in my/her bum, pussy juice will do, otherwise we use astrolube for dick-in-bum sex. My obsession is with products for cleaning up his dick afterwards.

I am a voyeur, but only when it is those in our family pleasing each other that I am watching. Even though our family has been together for over a decade, it still makes me jealous, which is something that I crave. It gives me a great desire after they have finished to get with both of them (suck him up again to do me, eat her out). Watching other people, porn or real life, is sort of interesting/exciting, but not something I seek out. As to being an exhibitionist, I don't mind letting other people see me naked or having sex (as long as they don't distract me when I am trying to orgasm) but it's not something that particularly turns me on.

It's good that you have your rules and are sticking to them. I may be wrong, but even among non-swinger, monogamous couples I think most husband wouldn't be troubled (surprised maybe) with his wife playing with another woman. Guys aren't threatened by that, they like it.

Interesting observation. Lora, Clair and I are on different kinds of birth control, so there are no "fertile days" to compare now, but when we were trying to conceive I should have taken notes.

Looks like it changed again to “unlimited” membership.

Odd.

I'm a woman and that's what I like too, starting with him totally flaccid and letting it grow until it no longer fits.

Not exactly what is being discussed here, but hubby and I eased into it. My ex and I couldn't give each other up, so we kept seeing each other after we broke up and I moved out. I met the guy who would become my husband and after a few dates, we started having sex. He knew that I was still seeing Red and was OK with it, so that became my new world. The arrangement made me feel powerful, in control, and loved.

Think the cable companies learned anything from the video rental companies??

There is a documentary on them that we watched (The Last Blockbuster - 2020). They're in Bend Oregon: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blockbuster_(Bend%2C_Oregon) So your lifetime membership is still valid!

My wife loves to get strange cock in front of me. I love it! Seeing her have many orgasms is a real turn on. If the guy fucks her bareback that is even better since I love it when she is dripping wet with cum.

This is interesting. Of the limited number of responses in this thread, of the people who have professed a belief one way or the other, those that have named a religion they belong to are generic Christian, or specifically Catholic. Does someone know how to start a poll along the lines of "If (and only if) you belong to an organized religion, which best describes it:" And then list a number of religions. My hunch (and it's only a hunch/gut feeling at this point) that the majority of 'swingers' who claim to be Christian are specifically Catholic. In my own experience, I'd say from 70-80 percent of the couples we've played with have been, or were once, Catholic. I have my own suspicions *why* this may be, and it has nothing to do with repressive sexuality or abusive clergy. (Akin to the easier/more prevalent acceptance of sensuality within prayer than other Christian faiths... Dont' get me started on this.... ) Anyone want to develop (or know how) to post a poll like this? -J of the SJBluebirds:)

OK; Who here believes for a minute that I am a regular married church-going Christian who both attends weekly church services *and* occasionally plays in the bedroom with friends? Let's see a show of hands! OK, I thought so; no one believes me. Nevertheless, it's true. I'm a practicing Roman Catholic, and I'm active in many parts of my parish, including acting as a former parish council member, Lector, and currently active in the Social Justice group. My kids are enrolled in the CCD classes ('religious education'), there, too. Why do we 'swing'? The answer to that is different for each couple, so I won't go into that, here; it's not the question I'm answering. Why do we *not* have a problem with swinging vis-a-vis 'religion'? Because we feel it's not "Adultery". It's not a matter of being 'unfaithful' to our spouse; it's not 'cheating'. The commitment is to each other in this (or any other valid) marriage. The promise is to work together to build a life for us and our children. We have friendships, true, with other couples, and we can express those friendships through some very intimate means; but we're not building a life with them. We're not part of their families, nor are they part of ours. It's a matter of focus and commitment. Of course, this is just a gloss of our thoughts and reasons. Entire books could be - and probably have been - written about this. We simply don't see a contradiction between playtime and faith. - J, of the SJBluebirds