Leaderboard

Oh... good topic... so many stories, but here are a couple of the good ones. Communication - Before my wife and I really knew what swinging was, we were open to the idea of sex with other people. We were at a party where the vibe was moving pretty solidly toward crazy sex, if not outright orgy. So, naturally, we got up and left. We were in the car, driving home, talking and suddenly it was "Well, I thought you wanted to leave.", "No, I thought YOU wanted to leave." By the time we turned around and got back to the party, the mood of the party had shifted and the opportunity was lost. In reality that was probably for the best for a lot of reasons concerning the actually people involved but still, I always remember that conversation as one of the points where we realized we really needed to communicate better. Say no - Fast forward more years than I like to think about. We're swingers. We've done some crazy stuff. We're at a club and have met a couple. The guy is clearly very into her. The lady obviously couldn't be less interested in me. The sex happens and it is not good. I'm left feeling pretty rotten. Never take one for the team, especially since my wife really wasn't that into the guy either, she was just playing for the sake of playing. We realized we needed to remember to say no when a particular match up doesn't work for us. The worst person you can lie to is yourself - Fast forward again, more years than I'm comfortable with. We discover that several of our friends, including one incredibly hot younger (20-something to my 40-something) lady are also into the lifestyle or at least not adverse to it. So I ask her if she would like to hook up. To my shock, she says yes. We have a great time and decide to do it again. She is very clear - she has a wife, a boyfriend, a girlfriend and she can't commit to anything beyond friends-with-benefits / occasional fuck-buddy. I say that's fine. I say, I'm an experience swinger I can handle that. I say, I'm not looking for anything more. Every word out of my mouth is lie. I am totally crushing on this woman. I absolutely want more. Even when I admit it to myself, I pretend I can handle it. Crash and burn (you can find the whole thing the archives here).

One more thing, as I said in the original post that my wife's vagina has a dryness problem. I used mineral oil on the condom, which probably caused it to fail. And I think one of the biggest reasons she likes men's cum inside her, is that it lubes her up for more sex.

As this was first post, did wonder about the use of the "C" word while writing, will refrain from it's use in the future. The point of the first post was to relate our first experience in the swing life style, and the lessons we learned in our younger years. The biggest one was that we were both in agreement about having unprotected sex. The only time we used a condom, was when we were still in high school and we were having sex in the backseat of the car. The condom broke and basically wasn't there, except for the roll at the base, we had almost complete skin contact between penis and vagina, during ejaculation, the semen coated both our sex organs, lubricating us both. For her, the sensation of warm liquid spurting against the back of her vagina, really sent her over the edge. She knew what was happening, and it ignited the most intense orgasm that she had ever had, at least, up to that point. The die had been cast, we both knew what we liked, and we never used a condom again. And once we wed, it was pure heaven. Many times over the years, when the subject of condoms came up. she would say "I just don't like them, they get in the way of the feeling". Years later,when we entered the lifestyle, the act of cleaning her pussy after she had sex with another man, wasn't for me, although, now that I think of it, on Saturday nights and it was just the two of us, we would have sex, I would wake her up in the middle of the night, and again in the morning for seconds and thirds, and I do remember that I would lick her pussy to excite her. But that was a few hours after we had sex, and of course, It was my own semen, which had pretty much drained out.

Like you, in the late seventies, after 10 years of marriage we discussed having sex with others, years before we actually did it. During sex I would say to her just before cumming in her, "Imagine it's Bill or some other male we knew, cumming in you." More times than not it would give her a more intense and pleasurable orgasm. Which leads me to the next reason why we eventually let other men cum inside her. In high school we both had sex for the first time together, I popped her cherry, and you could say she popped mine. I was selfish, and only cared about using her so that I could get off. Then the third time we had sex, she started moaning loudly, i asked her if she was all right, I thought I had hurt her. she replied, "No, you just made me cum." I really wasn't expecting her to enjoy it. It changed my outlook toward having sex with her. I suddenly realized that I liked seeing her enjoy sex more than satisfying myself. After that I worked hard to get her to enjoy. I would eat her pussy, manipulate her nipples, anything to get her to orgasm. Then one night I bought some condoms with the thought of not having to pull out of her, as she didn't produce much lubrication by herself, I put oil on the condom. We were enjoying the sex, I noticed it seemed much more sensitive, and the feeling sent me to orgasm. When I started cumming, she had the most intense orgasm that I had ever seen her have. When I withdrew, she said, "I feel a very wet and warm, in my vagina. We both looked down and saw my semen run out of her, and the condom tattered, I realized that the feeling of being inseminated had given her the most intense orgasm to date. In 1982, after a few years of looking, one night before going out she asked me, "Do you still want to share me with another man?" I replied "Of course". When we got to the night club she said, "Give me 20 minutes before you go in, I'll be more likely to get hit on if I am alone." I entered, and there she was sitting at the bar with a young college boy. His name was Steve. When she introduced me to him, he said "you didn't tell me that you are married". She said "Does that really matter?" I knew then, that tonight, it was finally going to happen. She teased him relentlessly. She had on a, red dress with no bra, it had a plunging V between her breasts, and the sides were wide open from her arm pits to her waist. He could see the entire side of her tit and her nipple was plainly visible. They got up and danced to a fast rock song, her dress slipped from off one shoulder, then the other, exposing her entire upper torso above her waist. She danced and her shaply 36c breasts swayed to and fro, for the entire night club to see, after a minute or so she slowely raised her dress back onto her shoulders. Then they returned to the bar, she said, "I'm hot, come on boys, take me for a ride". I drove, and Steve directed me to a secluded spot, out in the country. He was in the backseat with her, and was rubbing her breasts. When we arrived, I joined them in the back of the van. Steve and i lowwered her dress, I sucked on her right tit as he did the same to her left one. She was rubbing his cock thru his pants, when she blurted out. "Oh, that's a nice one". His hand was all the way up her legs under the dress and he was fingering her pussy thru her panty hose. Then she arose, and removed her dress and hose and said "Sorry honey, guests go first". She laid down and spread her legs, exposing her hairy cunt for his pleasure, and hers. Steve unbuckled and exposed his manhood, he was about 6"+ inches long, but his cock was really fat. Karen winced as the girth of his cock, split her labia apart and drove all the way into her. As he was humping her it occured to me that we never disscussed whether she would let another man cum in her, but knowing her, I was sure she would. She had an I U D so she was protected from pregnancy. I could see Steve tense up and he plunged all the way inside of her as he grunted his orgasm. When he got off of her, I couldn't believe what I saw, his spunk was gushing out of her, and left a big puddle of his semen on the car floor. It was now my turn to mount her. I stuck my 7-1/2 inch very skinny cock into her. I couldn't believe the sensation. Her cunt was red hot from the friction of his cock rubbing against her vaginal wall, I slid right in, because his slimy cum had lubricating her normally very dry passage. I didn't last long because of the feeling of her used pussy. I came and added my semen to his. We went back to the club to have one last drink, as she stood there, she told me it was time to go home, because cum was running down her leg, and was visible to others. it was obvious she had sex with the two of us, and where our semen was deposited. Now I have to say, after numerous encounters, a few times after having sex with a guy, and him cumming in her, as I layed there she would pass her used cunt over my face, to show me what she had done, I couldn't bring myself to put my tongue on her just used pussy, although I'm sure she would have loved it, if i would clean her, and I'm sure she was giving me a hint. But no. I didn't desire another man's cum in my mouth, but sloppy seconds and another man's semen on my cock, didn't bother me. My wife dislikes condoms, and hates facials or the mess of cumming on her breasts or stomach. She gets most of her satisfaction from a man ejaculating inside her. It has been medically proven that when a man cums in a woman, the hormones from his semen are absorbed thru the vaginal walls into her blood stream. The result of this is, a euphoric feeling of relaxation for the woman. Ever notice how, if a woman, who has just been inseminated, will lay there in a daze or goes to sleep? I have read that a man's DNA can be found in the woman's body afterwards. So if you are sharing your wife for her pleasure, Being inseminated by the bull, is I know what, my wife desires, and very likely yours.

I agree with all of your advice, especially the two above. As a couple, hubby and I did the same thing with single women. After two years of hubby letting me keep my boyfriend from before we met, I finally overcame my jealousy and set it up for him to have sex with an acquaintance of mine. The jealous burn for me was addicting so I wanted to do it more, and be able to watch. We never used any dating sites or other online hookup methods. I would approach acquaintances from the gym, coffee shop, bookstore, one from church even. We would date them together: take them to dinner, the theater, concerts, even on vacation with us (separate rooms), paying for everything and never expecting anything. We would never come on to her, but create opportunities for her to take it further: I would leave her alone with David to show I was not jealous and comfortable with it (and call her phone letting her know when I was coming back), I would undress/dress in front of them both. While I was primarily looking for her to play with David (and hopefully letting me watch), we were open to her being Lesbian with me and to having threesomes. Most didn't go anywhere sexually but were fun (the fantasies and sex afterwards between hubby and me were incredible); some were willing to fuck hubby; a few got with me and two were lovers for both of us. Regardless, there were no hard feeling or regrets by anyone and we still occasionally get together with all of the women that we are still in contact with - two with their husbands, one of whom openly discusses the adventures we three had in the presence of her husband.

Not really our thing. With reference to the poster who mentioned that the TS person they met being a bit abrasive - in my previous life (living in the San Francisco area) I knew many TS in the area. They tended to be some of the nicer people whom I knew at the time. I guess it's just like the rest of society - all depends on the personality of the individual, not so much their sexual orientations.

M=>F transsexual, it depends on how "passable" they are. I have a post op tranny living across the street. I knew her well as a man, it's not very different now. She still is taller that I, (I'm six feet) and has lots bigger muscles. She would be a no, not necessarily because of her physique, but because he was annoying before, and she is annoying now! F=>M trannies are much rarer from what I hear. Correct me if I'm wrong.

I'm pretty open minded when it comes to play partners. If there is sexual attraction, sure.