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Hello all, After 36 years of successful marriage, we finally decided to explore the lifestyle. It is mutual decision to go very slow and see where it takes us... Ironically, we did to decide to visit Trapeze ATL on Halloween night :-) which is Saturday (couples only) and I have general question. Thursdays are "newbies nights" where the expectations are perhaps on the low end which is perfect, and yet, single man are allowed. She (albeit 54y old) is extremely attractive and for sure will be more or less intimidated or at least overwhelmed, if you know what I mean. While I do not have insecurities, I don’t want to put her in situation where she might feel uncomfortable. So... which night y'all recommend?

Hey all, First I would like to thank the creators for making this website, there is a lot of interesting information on here that I have read up on. Let me start by introducing ourselves and tell you our story. I hope to receive some feedback from other members, tips and help are much appreciated. We are a couple together for almost 3 years. We are now 29 (Me) and my gf is 21. I met her when we were 18 and she is a fantastic woman both in and out. She matured next to me and we have lived together for over 2 years. We get along great and are very open with each other. Last year we started talking about swinging, she has only been with one man before and I have told her that I have been with many women (over 20). This of course opened her up in her interests in having a threesome. She is a bit jealous about having full on swinging but that is something that I am also not overly interested in. For the last year we fantasized about it. This Friday we went out and she mentioned the local swing club, she was a bit tipsy and so was I. One short time later we saw each other entering through the doors of such a place. I have been to a upscale sauna club before and it reminded me closely of that. We started making out and guys started groping her. In the end she started making out with a woman in her late 30s who was there with her husband and her lover. We took a room and started playing around. She was super open and it was something I was surprised about. She did not hesitate to go down on the guys and since I was with the girl i made out with her. It was all very sexual and really unbelievable. I ended up having briefly sex with the girl while she with the guys. They had problems with erections and finished fairly quickly. I carefully watched them and they where very nice and gentle with her, they never even went close to her without a condom. She took a liking in the woman's lover, a man in his late 20s that was virtually all muscle and a very large member. I nor she was that attracted to the older couple. We ended up taking the guy with us. It was amazing how well we got along. On the way I found out he was a PhD student and a really smart guy. We talked for a while and at home fooled around a bit, he was really attracted by my gf which not only looks great due to her age, but is also a very beautiful woman both in and out. He again was very careful and did not have any intercourse without condoms. It quickly got to be morning and we went to sleep. Him in the living room, us in the bedroom. At this point she told me how jealous she was that I did it with the girl. I explained to her that I was simply bored of just sitting there and that it did not mean anything to me. She reminded me that I promised not to do it (something I later remembered doing). I reassured her and she asked me how I felt. I told her that it was my biggest fetish/sexual dream ever and that it was amazing. Seeing her having that much fun turned me on, and I did not have any problems with it as long as we respect the boundaries of sex being sex. In order to make her feel better I sent her to him, told her to seduce him if she wants and that I will settle watching through the door. She went and they started making out. Hearing them kiss turned the hell out of me. It was great to see her that outgoing, I was pleasantly surprised. This lasted around 15 minutes or so until I heard her moaning and him moving back and forth. When I got to the couch I saw that he was inside her sans condom. I was a bit surprised and of course also worried. He was big and she made no secret of it. We have great sex too but I never saw her like that. They had sex until I passed out because I was tired. The next day he left and I was still hard most of the morning. It turned me on! We talked about condom use and explained to her the dangers. She talked about her jealousy . I explained to her that maybe it is an age thing, but she has nothing to be jealous of. Clearly it was something to do with age and her insecurities I guess. I did say I won't but in the middle of the fact I did not see it a problem. We had great sex since (on average 4 times a day since). The sensory overload we received on that day is probably gonna last us over a week. We are meeting him in 2 weeks and am looking forward to it. She is ecstatic! I am ok with it and I know what I feel for her. She is natural and told me that she couldn't believe that we could do that. This was the third guy she was with, she truly enjoyed it and I hope we can continue without hurting each other. Sorry for the long ass post, felt like sharing everything. Can you guys give me a bit of pointers or advice on what to look after? What did we do wrong? What are the dangers? At this point I feel liberated. Finally I have a partner I can do these dark things with. Sexually I do not see myself ever cheating on her, there is absolutely no point. The same I think goes for her. The freedom this has given to our relationship is incredible!

Thank you for your reply. At this stage, we have not defined “preferences”, but rather “let see where this might take us” … We married at early age – I was 24, she 17 and around fifth year of marriage had an accidental threesome with female friend of hers from college. It was not planned, just happened and was mixed bag of feelings – guilt, shame, excitement, the “now what” question etc. Now I realize what a major mistake we made not communicating, we just kept pretending that nothing happened. Few months ago, when I’ve discovered this web site, I started looking at this past experience from different perspective and brought the topic more than once. I cannot say that she was overly exited to discuss, but said she is open to “explore”, and this is where we are now.

I think the researchers think that if you are over 45, you have already been exposed to HPV. That is what I’ve heard.

And saw this on Facebook … couldn’t resist! 😉 People take their kids on a metal tube that goes 500 miles per hour at 36,000 feet without doing their “own research" about who made the plane, who last serviced it, or even reading about the physics of air travel. They just trust that "Big Airline" knows what it’s doing.

Just wondering … did all of those people who say they want to do their own research on the COVID-19 vaccines *also* do their own research on ibuprofen when it hit the market in 1974? How about statin drugs (1987)? Truvia sweetener (2008)? They’re all approved as safe for humans by the FDA. So if you DIDN’T do research into any of these, why not … and why treat this vaccine any differently?

The vaccines are not sterilizing. They are not perfect. We may have to take boosters. But they are the difference between 700,000 dead and millions dead. If people do not want to take them, don’t. It’s obvious that many people in the US are stridently against them. Maybe they will become opposed to measles, mumps and polio shots and refamiliarize themselves with those diseases. I don’t get it, but apparently many Americans do.

Apparently, this country is unable to unite in a crisis. If we don’t hang together, we’ll hang separately. But apparently, everyone without any medical training has done their own research and it differs from the conclusions of the world’s greatest experts. I prefer to hang out with vaccinated people. I live in a state with a high vaccination rate and a low covid rate. Not a coincidence.

I am 38 and I received 2 weeks ago the second dosage of three,

Pricing is not the issue. From what I am told they just will not give it if one is too old. It is not from risk. THEY figure that 1. above a certain age you are likely already infected and 2.if you do catch it you will not likely live long enough for it to come and bite you with cancer. We are in our late sixties. The likelihood that it will be a player in our demise is almost nothing. They do not consider the very real possibility of us passing it along to those young enough for it to make a difference. We would pay for the vaccine if we could get it, just for the sake of the others. We both had a fairly tame sex life before we married and were sexually monogamous for almost 40 years . There is a strong possibility that we are still not infected, and the vaccine might actually stem the spread of HPV.