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You didn't do anything wrong at all. Everybody's frustrated and it should be possible to talk about that. I just don't see the value in people taking it personally and pointing fingers at each other or their neighbors on here. We're not setting Federal Reserve rates in these threads, we're on an internet forum about group sex. None of us control any of this, and if we "win" on here, nothing changes in our real lives.

Our age difference is similar, but in the other direction. Socially, we've found that most good couple-friends are right in their early-mid 40s, a few years older than me and a few years younger than her. For play, we're both open-minded. We both feel like 21 is a hard stop and 24 is where we stop the app settings, but have each met a grad student off Tinder. We're both open to older partners if the chemistry is there.

You are probably correct when you say most folks online are the male half! You are probably also correct that they are either not a couple at all or the male half likes what he sees, but the female half has taken a pass. I also think a lot of males in a couple jump the gun and make an account without the females knowledge thinking it is okay to start the search when things have not got to that point for the female. Hoping they are going to find that sexy porn star couple that is going to change the wife’s mind and bring her on board. My experience is that they are not going to find that. Also although most of the time it is the male online doing the search it is almost always going to be the female that is going to make the decision in the end. Women tend to have the power and control when it comes to the lifestyle and they have every right to be as picky as they want. I personally wouldn’t have it any other way. As for reaching out to these lookie loos and being ghosted it can be very frustrating! It is something we would do in the beginning of our search years ago and no longer will do at all, because of the reasons stated above. It is not worth our time and we are pretty sure for the most part we are not missing out on anything by not doing so. If people have profiles we feel inclined to check out often we will reach out to them. If they ghost us that was their one chance and there won’t be another. If they feel inclined to check out our profile often and are interested they can contact us first.

Hey everyone, I have updates! So we did go on vacation, while on vacation we started watching swinger porn, that turned into deeper talks and we have officially made a profile on a swinger site. It been very interesting and I can't wait to see where it goes!

The biggest age difference we had has been with a guy who was 61. He was really fit and had a lot of energy!

Peterj is correct Sophy! Your picture gallery is top notch. You are a smoke show. Love seeing more members of this site sharing themselves on here. Sharing is what this lifestyle is all about.

Thank you, I have allowed comments on all my pictures, please comment! I would love to read your comments, they encourage me to post more pictures.

Oh... good topic... so many stories, but here are a couple of the good ones. Communication - Before my wife and I really knew what swinging was, we were open to the idea of sex with other people. We were at a party where the vibe was moving pretty solidly toward crazy sex, if not outright orgy. So, naturally, we got up and left. We were in the car, driving home, talking and suddenly it was "Well, I thought you wanted to leave.", "No, I thought YOU wanted to leave." By the time we turned around and got back to the party, the mood of the party had shifted and the opportunity was lost. In reality that was probably for the best for a lot of reasons concerning the actually people involved but still, I always remember that conversation as one of the points where we realized we really needed to communicate better. Say no - Fast forward more years than I like to think about. We're swingers. We've done some crazy stuff. We're at a club and have met a couple. The guy is clearly very into her. The lady obviously couldn't be less interested in me. The sex happens and it is not good. I'm left feeling pretty rotten. Never take one for the team, especially since my wife really wasn't that into the guy either, she was just playing for the sake of playing. We realized we needed to remember to say no when a particular match up doesn't work for us. The worst person you can lie to is yourself - Fast forward again, more years than I'm comfortable with. We discover that several of our friends, including one incredibly hot younger (20-something to my 40-something) lady are also into the lifestyle or at least not adverse to it. So I ask her if she would like to hook up. To my shock, she says yes. We have a great time and decide to do it again. She is very clear - she has a wife, a boyfriend, a girlfriend and she can't commit to anything beyond friends-with-benefits / occasional fuck-buddy. I say that's fine. I say, I'm an experience swinger I can handle that. I say, I'm not looking for anything more. Every word out of my mouth is lie. I am totally crushing on this woman. I absolutely want more. Even when I admit it to myself, I pretend I can handle it. Crash and burn (you can find the whole thing the archives here).

We don’t care about age, all about attitude and outlook, as long as we find the other couple attractive and appealing. We have met May-December couples. He may live until December.

It adds to the excitement when you have some doubt, check, and find out you're both ready for more.

I was at a party in California a few years ago. I was in my mid fifties at the time and played with a girl that was 70. Twice. We both had a lovely time and she was very responsive and smoking hot! I would never limit myself by something as trivial as age.

There is a new group on Facebook called rv swingers just do a search

"On the outside looking in".... Might be just the case, If the profile is on SLS you might be showing up on their random matches. They just might be newbies trying to figure out what to do, or to screw to up their courage. When we first started we did just what you describe. We have nothing on the profile open gallery that they couldn't put up in our parish bulletin without embarrassment. If someone might be interested they will find out by first reading our profile.

In my (perhaps weird) opinion, the fascination is with women who greedily swallow semen, and moan while humming, "Ummmmm," as if they'd just been given a special chocolate treat.