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So hey all long time no see. Works been busy as always and had some family things come up but we are back! So on a recent trip we decide to visit a swingers club. Now as you know we both in a line of work that scared me with this one… I could see the fbi rolling in and my picture plastered all over the paper etc etc. I digress… so we went in and did ID checks and all that jazz. So they have wristbands that corresponds to what all you are comfortable doing. Somewhere between my slight wine tipsy state and the loud music I ended up with a few bands on and off we went. So we came because my husbands birthday was coming up. He quickly found a very attractive blonde and they decided to go off into the sunset and have their fun. This very handsome 30’s guy chats me up a bit and we decide to head to one of the rooms. Big room with the typical strip club couches and a bed. Well needless to say we started having sex and it was pretty good actually. Now I didn’t know, but soon found out that green wristbands meant you were ok with multiple partners… at one time. So here comes one guy and another and another. Total of 4 guys. Now first things first props to prom stars because that is not an easy task. Talk about multitasking like no ones business. All in all it was definitely fun and we both had a great time. These clubs though not common are a blast. I definitely recommend them as long as they are clean and not gonna end up with you standing in a mugshot line lol.

Lmao I kind of figured this would be the case but we both are pretty open about things so all in good fun!!!

We were first-timers to a couple once. Not that we're quite seasoned veterans here, but as long as the chemistry is right and they seem in the right place, emotionally? Sure.

We had spent most of the day at San Onofre on the nude beach. As usual on a summer weekend, there were many people on the beach. With so many people there, people were close together where they were on the beach. A couple about our age was next to us and after a little while we struck up conversation with them. This continued all afternoon long that we would talk with them and periodically go in the water to cool off. As the day was nearing an end, we invited them to stop by our apartment for wine & cheese. It was on their way home and they readily accepted. On the way home we stopped and picked up the wine & cheese. They followed us home to find the way and get in the gate of the apartment complex. The conversation picked back up as we had the wine & cheese. After a while we suggested going into one of the complex’s hot tubs. Since we had been with them at the nude beach all day we knew that they would have no problem getting nude in the hot tub. While this was in an apartment complex, this one hot tub was far removed from the buildings and had quite a bit of privacy. We also found out where to turn out the lights in and around the hot tub. The four of us dropped our clothes and sank into the hot water. The view in there was so nice with both of the girl’s nice small breasts sitting right at the water’s edge. More conversation ensued. Then without anyone saying anything, the four of us came together as couples in the middle for a group hug. When we moved back, we were in different couples. It started with our arms around one another kissing quite passionately. That lead to hands starting to roam all over as all of us explored someone new. I was erect by then (who wouldn’t be?) but she was too tight and with the water I could not slide into her. There was a definite difference in size between myself and the other guy. He was not very big and so his girlfriend was not as accustomed to larger. Once again as if something had been said, though it wasn’t we lifted the girls out of the hot tub and they laid back on the deck. We then went down on them and were eating them, continuing with different partners. We were quite fortunate that in this time no one came down to the hot tub. Maybe they did and stayed back to watch. I remember being the one to think about the possibility of someone coming down and suggested that we should move this up to our apartment. After the walk back to our apartment, all four of us dropped our clothes once we were inside and we resumed where we were at. Now in a private place we did not need to hold back on anything we were doing. I went back down and was eating the other woman while the other guy did the same for my wife. Now the girls could let loose verbally as they orgasmed. Now that the girl I was with was ready I moved up and slid deep inside her. It took a little bit for her to get used the difference in size, but she enjoyed having me in her. Before the night was over, we had gone a couple of times with these new partners. The girls even went down on one another which was quite enjoyable to watch but soon had us guys participating again. We did see this other couple many more times at the nude beach but unfortunately this one time of swapping was all they desired sexually.

Agreed on what many of you have stated already in that we all feel part of something larger, the LS "community" if you will. We also feel a debt to those couples who have helped guide us on this journey, and those who have been so generous with their knowledge and experience. We are happy to share what we have learned with newbies, in, and out of , the bedroom, albeit with an eye towards the avoidance of "trouble waiting to happen" sort of situations.

A good amount of the people we have been with in the past were newbies like we all are at one point! Although we would be with newbies again it would only be with ones who were very sure about what they want and have very few rules for each other like ourselves. No more not so sure people. We don’t like to have to figure it out for them during fun time, because it ruins our fun time. At this point we do prefer people that have already had some experience.

We all had a first time, all a newbie at one time. We searched out a couple for our first time. That couple in retrospect was not an ideal one to have our first experience with. It wasn’t horrible, it wasn’t ideal. Alan and I talked about how many others would have run away and never tried again. We agreed that we would never act like the idiot we started with. Being a first for a couple starting out should be a positive memory and we searched out couples looking to experiment. We make a concerted effort to make their first everything they hoped it to be. From a selfish side, we enjoy being a first. Their nervousness is our excitement. We find couples with curious women and not that I keep a scorecard, I have enjoyed being the first woman for so many other women. Until recently we only met newbies and didn’t continue relationships for too long. We didn’t want to form friendships that could become messy. We enjoyed the newness and excitement we gained.

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Yes we would. For us also it is a matter of repaying what we received when starting out.

This is very true. It only takes me walking away for 2 minutes to get drinks for guys to start swarming around my GF at these clubs. That shouldn't really surprise anyone though. The guys at these places have 1 thing in mind.

mediccouple sounds experienced and had fun, but just a tip for newbies. If you separate from your wife at a swingers’ club, the whole club is going to bang her.

Sure. Our first couple were very experienced and we were not. They initiated us in a thoughtful, sensitive, way - checking in every step along the way. While it was not without a bump or two, overall our first time was a fantastic experience in large part because of this couple. We've replayed that evening many, many times. We would absolutely pay it forward with the right couple.

Hey everyone, I have updates! So we did go on vacation, while on vacation we started watching swinger porn, that turned into deeper talks and we have officially made a profile on a swinger site. It been very interesting and I can't wait to see where it goes!

In fairness, I think the point they're making about the virus remaining transmissible is an important one - but it's also true that vaccinated people are infectious for shorter periods of time, which is also important. We do still need to be careful around the elderly and immunocompromised, even if they're vaccinated, and personally, neither of want to get sick anyway, even knowing we'd be fine. There's a misconception about what "serious symptoms" means, as in medical parlance, that often means hospitalization. Vaccination is very good at preventing this. Vaccinated people can still be miserably sick for a week+. (I don't understand the "it's just the flu" mentality, either. You ever been knocked on your ass for a week by actual influenza, not just a winter cold that people are calling "the flu"? It's shit. I have things to do.) With that said, our idea of being careful is avoiding crowded indoor bars and restaurants, etc. We're still playing semi-regularly, just not in a large group setting. We traveled abroad this summer, and we'll probably do it again around the holidays assuming borders stay open.

No, illuminate. We never go bareback with other people.

Bareback?

I meant to come back and suggest for your next vacation to go to Desire RM. At its base, it is a 'clothing optional' all inclusive resort. What you do from there is up to you. There will be the entire spectrum happening there: from couples fully dressed (at least the first day or two) and not willing to get naked, to topless, to full nude, to couples and groups having sex out in the open (usually at the roof top jaccuzzi, things can get out of control there and that place should come with a warning sign ). Not only is the restaurant a buffet, but what you choose to do at the resort is a buffet. Swingers rarely will do anything without asking permission first (golden rule is always ask permission first). You get to decide how far you want to go and with who. And planning the vacation is half the fun...thinking and talking about the possibilities. Once there, sometimes they happen and some times they don't, but thinking about them will usually cause more than a few steamy nights before you even depart. Remember to keep reporting back, no matter what you decide to do.

Go to Desire RM next time. We had our first swinging experience there with a couple that told us they were not swingers. All levels of swingers there, including nudists and non-swingers.

Well vacation came and went way to fast but here is an update. Though the resort was packed with beautiful friendly people nothing happened as far as swinging or swapping though I believe if we would have pursued it more we probably could have made something happen. BUT! we did for a first time, watch swinger porn together multiple times. We have never watched porn together. It was hot and it definitely added to our "adult time". She got into it, I got into it. So I would say that even though nothing happened I think we took a small step forward. It was hot!

Desire RM is just a few miles north of there. You can purchase a day pass for the resort. Desire Pearl is actually in Cancun. Fish where you know there are the kind of fish you want to catch. No special lingo (other than we call swinging the 'lifestyle' or L/S and anything that isn't swinging 'vanilla') and no secret handshakes. As for do's and don'ts: don't do anything without asking permission first. No means no...anything other than yes means no. Communicate with your partner and with whoever you are with. I can't tell you how many couples we have met (we usually have a vanilla first meeting with a new couple to make sure that there is a connection and to verify that both of them are on board) that don't want to talk about s-e-x...if they can't talk about it, how are they going to be able to actually DO it? We're all grown ups here and we've probably all had sex by now ?. Let everyone know what you are looking for and expecting. Since you are just starting out, it might just be same room sex or it could be full swap, but you don't know unless you can talk about it.

We are a married couple I'm 23 hubby is 24. We are just getting into a open marriage. I have been curious about black men and so has my husband. He wants me to date black men then come home and tell him what happened.

I understand your trepidation and concerns; I'm not making light of them. But . . . if you jump into this, my bet is after your third time with other people you'll say, "What the hell were we worrying about!" You'll be fine.

Find a cute fluffy adorable kitten. Now put on a glove to pet it.

Many years ago, a couple Barb and I played with went to a party over a hundred miles away, The other side of a huge city to be discreet. They met their pastor there. Subsequently, he introduced them to local couples to play with, still discreetly. It worked out very well for all concerned.

Our major focus was to choose our playmates carefully. If you don't feel someone is particularly trustworthy, look to someone else. If somebody is watching the people who go into clubs, he's either a scary pervert or a vice-cop with too much time on his hands. Maybe both. Rarely, a couple can think they are observing all the security precautions only to find out later they missed something rather important. Those who have read Laura's and my book will know what I mean.

This was our rule, too. I work at a university, so it's a pretty liberal environment. If anyone raised a stink about me being a swinger, all I'd need to do is start whining about how I'm being picked on because my organization doesn't "embrace inclusivity" for sexual diversity. Mr. intuition's situation is a little different, however. It's a privately owned company and "family oriented". I don't know if they have a morality clause, but even if they couldn't legally fire him for being a swinger, they find some other way to get rid of him. He's in a leadership position, so we do need to be very aware of appearances. Now, that said, I really don't give a flying fuck if people did find out. We're not doing anything wrong, regardless of their opinion of it. The only reason we're not "out" (other than to keep our jobs), is because we don't feel it's polite to make the people around us uncomfortable with knowing our business. There are a lot of folks in our immediate circle that would have a hard time coming to terms with it when they don't even need to. It's none of their business, it doesn't affect them, and it doesn't change who we are as they've come to know us. All it does is create an unnecessary distraction. We used to be really paranoid about running into someone we know, but not so much anymore. As mentioned, they're swingers, too, so...whatever. I remember one night Mr. intuition and I were out at a favourite watering hole, having some nachos and a drink, and people watching. The next table over, Mr. intuition noticed a woman he worked with out with her husband. She didn't see him right away. Their "friends" came by and sat down at the table and it was completely obvious from their conversation that it was a meet and greet. Two couples who were complete strangers trying to get to know one another. It was after they stood up and she noticed Mr. intuition and I sitting at the next booth that she froze with a deer in the headlights look. Mr. intuition had to hide his amusement and waved at her. The next day at work she (unnecessarily) came up to him with a big long explanation of what they were doing there that night. You were out with some friends; why the big, long explanation? It's not like we caught you in the middle of fucking them on the table. We've discovered that much of our swinging activity mimics normal vanilla social interactions, so we just hide in plain sight. Where it crosses the line from vanilla to swinger, we just try to be discrete about it.

Jews do not recognize Jesus as their savior. Baptists do not recognize each other at a swingers' club.

I once met a couple who had driven two hours to go to a club far from home, so they wouldn't be recognized. The first people they saw when the arrived were a couple they knew from home and had definitely not expected to meet at a swingers club. The thing about meeting people you know while swinging is - guess what - they're swinging too. So they have just the same concerns about being "outed" as you do.