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We've wanted to go back to Desire RM since we left the last time, but have been concerned about the cartel activity. One of these days we will return, but not until we feel that it is 'safe'. We both feel once we arrive at Desire, we have nothing to worry about, but getting there and back to the airport is the real problem (especially with Americans being singled out for kidnapping/robbery).

Ok so update. We were on Aff for a few months. The wife talked to a few men. The ones that met our needs were flakes or didn't show or just lied. But we finally found a single male, lives with in 30 min from us. The wife and him talked for a few weeks, I was kept in the loop of all the conversations. We finally decided to meet and this is how it went. We got to his apparentment, he welcomed us with open arms. The wife and I sat on the couch together as he sat across on a recliner. We just chatted for a short period of time had a drink and I could see he was interested in my wife. Thank God he broke the ice. He politely asked if she felt comfortable if could sit beside her. He praised her on how he outfit. She was wearing a black skirt, black sheer top and black thigh highs. He began to caress her leg with one hand. I asked him if her legs were soft and he replied yes. We were both touching and kissing my wife on the neck, breast etc...and he kindly asked my wife if he could kiss her. She replied yes. I couldn't believe this was happening. With one hand on the back of her head he pulled her forward and they locked lips. My eyes could not unfocus from both their lips and tongs meshing together. I felt slightly taken back but was very turned on. All three of us played on the couch for a few minutes and as things got hotter i asked him to stay seated and asker her to stand. With her standing in front of him I slowly removed her skirt, it slowly fell to her feet, I then removed her panties and top. We eventually made our way to the bedroom were she dropped to her knees and began to sucked his well endowed penis. We ended up on the bed were he slicked her pussy as i was playing with her upper extremities, she was a little disappointed with the performance pussy linking. He asked if he could have sex with her and we both looked at each other and said we were comfortable . He was a gentleman and put on a condom. They began to have sex. He took her in six different position and each time she moaned and screamed. This went on for 45 minutes pounding her. I was pleased as i couldn't put on a performance as such. Once he finished up i then took my wife. It took me a few minutes to get ride of the stage frieght but eventually i was able to get fully errect and cum. We all cleaned up and sat in the living room and chatted for a few more minutes and eventually said our good night. He shook my hand and she gave him a soft kiss on the lips. Today after many hot discussions with my wife we will continue to see him. Thats my eventful night.

If they have nothing more interesting to say other than 'hey', then answering them would be a waste of both of our time.

The post about being with newbies brought back our memory of our first and was wondering how most others found their first and whether they were experienced. I know memories fade though most of us can recall our firsts. Our adventures began with Alan saying he missed out on my wild days, he never experienced watching two women having sex. After a lot of talk, and I mean A LOT of talk, we registered on a swinger site. I know I have related this before, plenty of fakes, plenty of no shows, we finally decided to meet a couple, not a unicorn. It took much more discussion to make sure Alan was going to accept that I would not only be with a woman, most likely sex with me and another man. We agreed we would see how it would go. The question I am posing, why that couple? For us we received a message from a couple, just like we had before. We normally discounted pictures, always of the woman, this time we got pictures of the couple, dressed. They were younger than us and very attractive, the big negative was they weren’t married or living together. We replied with a very current picture, letting them know we were older than them. Next picture of them was a totally nude picture. It would be a lie if we say looks don’t matter, they more than fit any doubt on looks. She had a perfect body and he was handsome. I need to add he was well endowed, not that I noticed lol. Were they the best choice? No. Was it the greatest sex? No Did we break the ice? Yes.

We've not been to the resorts but would like to some day. Sadly, these issues are a big part of what has kept us away. Hopefully better days ahead and that will change sometime. I never give much thought to gangster on gangster crime. It's always been with us and always will be. Prohibition-era Chicago wasn't exactly a safe place either depending on what path in life you had chosen. When it starts spilling over to "civilians" though, I prefer to just keep a safe distance away. To be fair, Mexico doesn't have a lock on that. I've heard the same thing from people about resorts that aren't in Mexico too. Once you are on the resort you feel pretty much safe, the coming and going not so much.

Why that first couple? Because the woman knocked on our door in the semi-private room we were enjoying at the swing club and asked if she could join. Then just dove right in between my wife's legs. Her man followed a few minutes later. Couldn't even tell you their names.

We really lucked out. Our first couple were people Mrs. E knew, used to babysit for. She renewed the long-distance friendship with the wife years after they'd moved to Las Vegas. One way or another, it came up in conversation, the friend managed to discern that we were curious, and dropped hints that they were already open and had another couple. I'd always wanted us to experiment with strangers for simplicity, but if it hadn't been for a wife she trusted and a familiar male she'd already fantasized about once or twice in the past, we'd have probably never gotten started, and we got to start with two couples who already worked well together. It went so smoothly we went from soft swap by their pool to full swap in our hotel room in 24 hours.

That's terrible. Beautiful area that used to be relatively safe to leave resorts as long as you paid attention to where you were walking.

Thanks for posting this. As I said earlier, it is understandable how some in the general public fail to differentiate being vaccinated and being immunized. Whenever you hear someone talk about COVID-19 and polio in the same breath, you know they are confusing the two.

The subject is both topical and entirely germane to the lifestyle. There certainly is no reason to regret it. Why would you feel responsible for someone else's reaction or juvenile behavior? Lol... It's the Internet. You're always going to get a mixed bag between thoughtful replies, gibberish, and ad hominem attacks. It's the nature of the beast. It's not limited to this site, I can assure you! Hah! Ignore the stupid posts and focus on having conversations with people who have something intelligent to say.

Again , someone seen "sneaking" in through the back door is far more comment worthy than any one walking in through the front door.

Anyone who would see her is likely there for the same reason, no?

For what it's worth, a good many of the couples we meet - one of them is a teacher. Go to Desire in March - teachers on spring break! Teachers are open-minded, nonjudgmental, and fun (freaks).

My wife and I have discussed this and we will NOT being seeing anyone we know. This will cause too much conflict. The less the other person knows about our personal life the better.

The problem with ex's and other people that you know is that with ex's there has already been feelings and emotions and most ex's are not ready for the swinging L/S. They all too easily mistake this as your wife wanting to get back together or they just become jealous leading to DRAMA. Ex's and other people you know can also spill the beans when things don't go the way they want it to. Imagine ALL of your friends, family, and coworkers hearing about what you like to do in the bedroom. It's just safer to find what you are looking for by looking somewhere you don't have to worry if things go sideways.

Finding a man for a MFM threesome is like finding a cheeseburger in McD's. They're EVERYWHERE. What is harder is finding the RIGHT man for the job. Establish your limits and rules first (knowing that they can be changed after discussing them outside of a sexual scenario, never when things are happening). Then start looking on one of the swinger websites (see: please visit our sponsors at the top of the page...most will let you set up a free profile). Say exactly what you want in the profile...that you are looking for a connection and are taking your time. You'll still get literally HUNDREDS of responses. Week them down and then start meeting them (you will learn more about them in 5 minutes in person than 5 years of email/text/talking via phone). If one isn't right or steps over the line or moves too fast or whatever, move on to the next. I cannot overemphasize HOW MANY MEN you will be contacted by. Don't be afraid to toss one back if they aren't exactly what you are looking for.

It's not only a delicious physical feeling, but also a psychological high. I've had sloppy seconds with my own semen inside my wife (and other women) but knowing that she just got off with another guy and is now eager for me is much more satisfying.

Well I read the whole thread and I am glad things have seemed to smooth out for you. I feel its best for couples to start together. Get comfortable in this life style together and then if it works the play separate. But you started past this point and gave her free reins and she took them. Now it seem you 2 need to rethink the separate part for awhile. I love satisfying Red with another man its a great thing and we all have a great time. So as suggested above you may want to do a 3some mfm with her and her male friend. This is also a reason we prefer to not play with friends but to become friends with people we play with. Best of luck and enjoy this Great Ohio weather

To me it sounds like she now has her excuse she was looking for. I do not think this was the cause, or even the straw that broke the camels back, I think she has wanted this for some time.

Buy a motorcycle and enjoy the freedom, if it comes to that.. Wind in your face will make any day better.

Your wife isn't a swinger, thats the problem. You were hot wifing. She got to have her cake and didn't have to come to grips with her jealousies and insecurities. You came to grips with yours a while ago, you wanted her to play around, and she did. Then suddenly she sees you doing the same and that visceral green monster comes out even though logically there is no reason she should have it. But thats only part of the problem. The real problem is that you don't communicate, or more she doesn't. If you can't talk about sex and swinging, you can't really be a swinger, communication is the most important swinger "trait". Finally by giving her the option for other men without you, you have created a grass is greener situation. She has a place she can go when she leaves you if she chooses. Basically you done goofed. It happens all the time here, and I really makes me sad because we have seen marriages die on this board do to these kind of mistakes. It will be up to your wife to rationalize her behavior and emotions.