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Our Rules No long term relationships No couples close to home No single play, couples only together. It has been months since I met a gym member who is friends with a couple we met who lived hours away. She searched me out and after getting to know her we agreed to be their first swinging friends. In these crazy times I became close friends with her as we have much in common, seeing her in the gym, lunches, shopping and the husbands seem to get along, easy talk and liking the same sports. Up to now we would ghost people after a month, not our new friends. We had broken two steadfast rules, getting involved with locals.

All very interesting advice and much more in detail than I had considered. So we reached out to the photographer and met for a drink. I was more than a little taken aback by his initial response which was no. My heart sunk a little until he provided his explanation. He explained there’s a line which has been drawn by he and his wife and that anything beyond artistic application is not allowed. Interestingly though we had a long and productive conversation about the subject. The conversation led to a couple he’s also friends with and who have been swinging for several years. Although well to do professionals, they sometimes take part as help for shoots he does with other women and couples. I was a little nervous once he presented it as a possible option but liked 😍🤤 what I saw. Yesterday we ended up meeting the couple for a drink as well and it went great. They are definitely a couple we can get along with. We made it clear with each other we’d just go to get a feel for them and not get anywhere close to anything sexual which we both accomplished and failed at. We got along so well that it got very flirtatious not only because our attraction physically but also because they seem to be great people. Eventually we made out with the other’s partner and ended going home and having the best sex with each other. It may be a little quick but we’re getting together tonight and going to a small concert at a great venue together with them and one of their couple friends. Fingers crossed I’m so excited!

When my husband, James, and I started doing full swaps we decided early on we preferred seperate rooms while swapping. It wasn't long before we unexpectedly indoctrinated a couple that were very good friends of ours into the life style. We had known them for 10 years and had been there when they met, dated and eventually got married. After we all started sleeping together we became even closer to them. They are truly our best friends. When it comes to Adam and Julie we had decided that we were comfortable being completely open with them. So permissions or planning are not needed to be affectionate or intimate with them. So if I want to spend time with Adam I can, if Julie wants time with my James she can. If Julie and I want some female affection, we just do it. So I quickly realized that Adam started his days early and ended his work day around 3 PM every day which was when I got out also. After a full day of work I am ready for a brain break and for me sex is the ultimate brain break, since my husband wasn't out of work yet, I started using Adam to reinvigorate the work engine. So I'd stop at his place on my way home and we would get frisky. My husband and Julie start their day later and they both enjoy morning sex, so Julie would leave her house just after Adam and I went to work and she would drop by our house and go upstairs and wake James for morning loving. Now I know this happens but had never experienced it or saw it, so while it was real, it wasn't "real" to me. One day I got to work and realized I wasn't feeling well so I left work and headed home. To my surprise, my husband and Julie were naked on the couch, she was on top and was seriously riding my husband. Now I know this happens, we had talked about it a lot, but I had never walked in on them doing the deed and it was just as she was orgasming. I should not have been shocked, but I was, and I shouldn't have felt a pang of jealousy, but I did. I had to step out of the room momentarily to compose myself. I'd have been devastated if I had ruined such a beautiful moment. To this day I have no clue what made me flash temporarily jealous shades, was it a first time thing, or was it reality catching me off guard, or if it was how amazing Julie looked. She is fit, thin and beautiful and James deeply enjoys her company. But I can't blame him, cause I regularly enjoy her company also. It doesn't flare anymore now, it was just that first time. So have you ever walked in on a moment you weren't expected to see? Did you react the way you expected too?

Most couples know each other’s sexual limits with each other very well and respect them even while participating in the lifestyle. Sometimes the couples’ limits are established overtime by personal comfort norms. They settle because the spouses are not agreeable or don’t reach the point of stepping beyond and breaking out. The lifestyle offers an opportunity that may excite a spouse to venture beyond the comfort of their relationship with their spouse. Is there a point where you have gone beyond where you go with your spouse? How would you feel about it if you were told by your spouse that they did? I know it should be discussed but did you decide not to bring it up and elected to keep it your secret? Would you go there again?

Good topic, thanks for bringing it up. I don't think I have done anything with a swinging partner that I haven't done with mrs. cplnuswing, but there are things we have tried that after trying them she decided she wasn't that into, but some of my swing partners have been more into. She is perfectly ok with that, happy even. Same goes for me. When we have played separate rooms or separately all together, I don't measure up what she tells me they did vs what her and I do. And, I don't pry either. She tells me what she wants to tell me, and I accept it at that. I wouldn't want to feel interrogated after solo play and I know she wouldn't want to either. Sexy sharing a whole different story though

To emphasize the point, under the heading of "anything you can do to stand out" - your dick will not make you stand out. No matter how impressive you think your dick is (or how impressive your dick might actually be), your dick will not make you stand out, Neither will your sexual stamina nor your talents at cunnilingus. Guys with self proclaimed superhuman stamina, and horse-cocks, who love to eat pussy are, in fact, common as dirt on most swinger sites... and, as enhancer says, those traits will get you ignored and probably blocked. You want to stand out, talk about your love of jazz or your skill at dancing, post pictures of your nice coat and tie, or your best cowboy hat (or you best coat and tie with a cowboy hat while jazz dancing). These things will make you stand out from the crowd of dicks.

I once walked in on my wife entertaining a roomful of men at a house party. To the best of my vision in a dark room, one man was in her vaginally, another man was working on her orally, she was performing oral sex on a third guy and two men were waiting in the on deck circle. A male friend standing next to me as we walked into the room said don’t interrupt her, she’s having fun. I didn’t interrupt her, but I was impressed! I tease her with John Mayer’s description of Jessica Simpson: sexual napalm.

Sex can indeed relieve pain.

First thing is to make sure your relationship is rock solid with an abundance of love, trust and communication. The thing that overcomes jealousy is trust. Trust comes from great communication. Great communication increases the love. More love leads to better trust (it's a horrible upwards spiral ). Once you are here then talk to him...about everything but especially his and your fantasies. See where that leads and it sounds like it will lead where you are thinking about going. Take your time, but once you both know that you are (possibly) on the same path, the walk together becomes easier. Let us know how things are going.

So have you ever walked in on a moment you weren't expected to see? We have walked on each other many times specially if we split during parties, Did you react the way you expected too? Yes, well, it is always hot to watch, to watch each other having sex, it is a huge turn on for us and one of the main reasons to be in the lifestyle.

Na, we split up ages ago, and I haven't found anyone like her

I think this is a topic worth talking about. My last play session on Thursday I was super hard, my wife was a little dry on one side when she started a reverse cowgirl on me. Which tore the skin on the side of my cock. About a half inch gash. It's happened before but this one was bad. I kept going and got sucked off to completion by the other wife before the night ended. Now a few days later my cock looks terrible. Big gash in the side that hurts and is slowly healing. Which means no play this weekend....dang it. I told the other wife about it yesterday, she wasn't bothered by the prospect of my cock having a wound on it, which is cool but I'm gonna have to not get sucked off or fuck anyone. I guess it's fingers and tongue this weekend. Anyone else get an injury that had them out of commission? Anyone get a similar injury to mine?

We played with a first time couple. The wife sucked me and I could tell she wasn't real skilled orally bc it was uncomfortable. After a minute I had her stop and saw that her teeth left scrapes on my D! She was super apologetic and I downplayed how much it hurt but that took me out of commission for a while.

Made out with a woman in the medical profession (and more). Contracted an upper respiratory infection that lasted three months.