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We are passionate lovers, we prefer same room sex and group dynamics like moving back and forth between partners and positions, we also enjoy lots of dirty talking. Some people love this but others can find it distracting and/or overwhelming, sometimes leading to glances of jealousy or performance issues on boys. Because of that, we have suggested and/or agreed on a few occasions to separate room play, not our preference like I said, but it has worked fine and we have managed to have fun.

Yeah... I really don't understand the issue the OP is raising...? "The passion was palpable?" Gee. I would hope so. And why would their spouses want to intervene? "Honey, I'm cool with letting you fuck him. But, only if you promise not to have too much fun. Then I'll have to put a stop to it!" Lol! WTF?

We both are extremely passionate people in anything we do! Whether it is sex, sports or playing music it isn’t worth doing unless we can put all of our passion into it. We both want each other to have the best possible time they can when they are having sex with other people or we just don’t see the point of doing it. That is why we don’t have a list of do’s and don’ts for each other when it comes to lifestyle play other then we are both there. We also avoid couples that do have big lists of rules for each other. No kissing is a big no thanks for us. There have been many times in play with others where she is completely lost in passion and not paying attention to me at the same time! I love the fact that she lets herself get lost in the moment and is the best lover she can be with someone she is attracted to. I just back off and enjoy watching her until my opportunity opens up. I know at the end of the day that I will be getting that same kind of passion from her all the time. Some folks enjoy random robot sex with others! We do not.

We have been in the lifestyle for a very long time. We always have fun and try to keep things light. We were playing next to a couple last night and alarms bells were ringing in my head while I watched. The passion between a couple who swapped (one man, one woman) was palpable. Their spouses lightly played and enjoyed each other but this couple had a passion that was hard to ignore. When their spouses noticed how hot they were, they tried to intervene and touch but they were completely ignored. My husband and I agreed that there is a fine line between fun and lifestyle danger. This seemed like more than simple swapping. Ignoring your spouse seems so wrong to me. Thoughts?

Lunacy is posting over and over again with the same points. I wear seat belts, I don’t smoke in theaters and restaurants, I stand for the National Anthem, take my hat off, don’t drink on the beach, stay within the speed limit, don’t drink and drive, all these infringements on my rights are for the benefit of all. My father said that people were annoyed when they were made to wear seatbelts, I was annoyed when I was told I couldn’t drive and text or talk on my cell. I get flu shots every year because the goal posts change location every year, so what if I need a booster as science learns how this virus mutates or the find out if the potency wanes over time. Ok you can go back to your rants that are convincing nobody. Just preach to your choir and be happy.

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I see girl on girl followed by a couple swap. Seen this movie before! But ready for your part two!

A few weeks ago, my wife and I went to visit some long time friends. Both of our wives have always liked to have fun, but this time things got more exciting than ever and I saw a kinky side of my wife I’ve never seen and it really turned me on. My wife is in her early thirties and has a gorgeous body. She is in her early 30’s and is beautiful. She is about 5’4, 135 pounds, dirty blonde hair, great breasts (C cup), plump ass, and her legs look amazing (especially when she’s in heels). She is a great woman and an awesome mom to our kids and I would never worry about her cheating. But I do know she has a kinky, sexy side to her, especially when music and alcohol is involved. Just watching her dance turns me on (and probably every other guy around). And she’s always kind of played it safe until this night. About 10 that night, the ladies had already had a few drinks and brought out the speaker. The girls were grinding on us husbands and from where my buddy was standing, when my wife bent over to grind her ass on me, I know he got a straight show right down her shirt. I knew she knew exactly what she was doing, as I her make eye contact with him as she pushed her ass up against my hard dick. A few minutes later, I was talking with his wife in some causal conversation and I overhear my wife joking with her husband about getting in the pool and jokingly gesturing like she was taking her clothes off and even make a comment about skinny dipping. My buddy and I convinced the girls to head down to the pool. His wife disappeared quickly and came back with a very revealing bathing suit and my wife followed her in her short shorts and tank top down to the pool. His wife got in and my wife, while momentarily hesitant, pulled her pants down, took her shirt off, looked back at her husband and climbed up the ladder to the pool, right in front of him, wearing just her bra and thong. His wife took her top off and had her beasts available for everyone to see. My wife looked at me, I nodded, and she took her bra off and tossed it out of the pool. My buddy caught a glimpse of my wife’s bear breasts and I could see his eyes feel up with excitement. Both wife’s backed up against their husbands in the pool, while giving each of us a nice view of each other’s wives bare breasts while they both stuck their hands in our pants. I slowly stuck my hand in my wife’s parties and started to rub her pussy. Her friend noticed a look in my wife’s eyes, so she moved closer to her and put her hand on my wife’s breast. I noticed my wife’s hand move over towards her friends husband, and in both shock and excitement, I knew she had reached for his cock. Her hand stayed under the water for some time. Without missing a beat, positions in the pool switched to my wife being backed up against her husband and his wife and my wife were making out. My wife was pressed up hard against her friends husband and I knew she could feel his dick pressed up against her ass. I watched as she slipped her hand down into his pants. I watched as her husbands hand bushed against my wife’s bare chest. Positions changed back to each of our wives back with their Husband. My wife pressed ip against my dick. She felt my dick with her hand, and knew this was exciting to me. I whispered in her ear to take her panties off, but she was reluctant. I the reached down and slid them off — making it known to everyone she was fully naked. The water was getting cold, so we decided to all get out and head back inside. I watched my buddy watch my wife get out of the pool, completely naked. To be continued….

I saw that. Sort of a downer to start the day with over your morning coffee I feel for the vast majority of people who just want to live their lives in a safe and peaceful manner and people just wanting to get away to somewhere beautiful. I don't know exactly what the answer is, other than the status quo isn't it. Money corrupts, and the more money, the more it corrupts. We are from the rural Midwest, and during Prohibition there were running gun battles on dusty county roads, broad daylight assassinations of rivals on Main Street, and so on. The stories you heard growing up are true, you can pull up old newspaper clippings about them. Most of those gangs were made up of rural farm boys, at least at the lower levels. On one hand is a lifetime of backbreaking work and drudgery and poverty, on the other is a fast and flashy life with an ocean of money out there to put in your pocket. Once those conditions exist, some are always going to make the latter choice. Only difference is time and place...

F2C female condoms are fantastic! To the guy they feel like he is bareback. The woman does not develop sore spots in her vagina from the condom rubbing her raw during a long session or multiple guys. They are available in packs of 12 from Amazon. First, it is best if some lubricant is put into the condom. The condom has a rubber ring at the bottom and a larger rubber ring at the top, or open end. The gal or guy can insert the female condom into the gal's vagina with fingers or his penis. The rubber ring on the bottom end helps hold the condom deep in the gal's vagina. The rubber ring at the top or open end keeps that end of the condom from slipping into the vagina. After a few minutes the inside of the condom gets to the same warmth as the vagina. When the guy slides his hard penis it feels just like sliding it into a warm, slippery vagina, bareback. It works with guys who have small penises and the gal does not have to worry about the condom sliding off his penis and him cumming into her vagina. It works with guys who have large penises because it is large enough to easily fit a penis with an 7 inch circumference. My swing buddy became a size queen and we used to seek guys who were 8X6 and larger. She was allergic to birth control pills so we depended on condoms. After some scary situations with broken condoms, we found out about the F2C condoms. She loved the protection they provided against breaking and against sore spots in her vagina during long sex sessions. She also loved how the guys with large penises could pound her for long time and she would not get sore.;

The best feeling for me are the Durex Real Feel Non-Latex. They are made of polyisoprene and not latex. The seem to run on the bigger side for a "normal" condom, either that or they stretch more. I'm a bit over 8" and find them very comfortable, even forgetting I have one on at times. I have ripped several putting them on, especially if I try to pull it to cover all the way to the base. They cover about 7". They are thin and do tend to break easier than traditional condoms, but have never broke one during actual sex. I also like 'Skyn', but not quite as good as the 'real feel', but they do seem more durable and come in a larger size.

Welcome to the board! Everything said above by others is good advice for you and the same way we look at it. You have no idea how many men fail in this lifestyle, because they think their big unit alone is going to get them some! It just doesn't work that way for most people out there. A bigger or better body part does not make someone attractive. A dude can have the biggest most magnificent penis in the world, but if he has the personality of a toad and looks like a troll he will be the only one playing with it. Ms Enhancer has never in all the years we have been online said even maybe to the guys with just a picture of their massive penis and a couple of lines of how they are going to use it. It is laughable. Being insecure will also not get you very far in the lifestyle! Nobody wants to be around that. It is one of the things that will bring the drama so many talk about into the lifestyle. It is also not a very attractive quality to see in someone. Own who you are and if that isn't good enough for someone oh well move on. You will never be for everyone. No one is.

Welcome to Swingersboard. A very nice place where people love to help each other out with their problems, questions, and quandaries. Just give us the benefit of the doubt, please. We're the real deal, I assure you, but one thing you'll find that we don't do here is just tell people what they want to hear. You want advice, you got it. But it may not be what you want to hear. If you're okay with that, you'll get some killer advice from some long-time veterans in the lifestyle. So let me take a shot at your predicament. So yes, you're going to run into couples with women who prefer men with gigantic schlongs. You're going to just want to avoid those couples, because you're not a match with them. But whatthefuckever. Plenty of fish in the sea, and there is really, really, REALLY no reason to let that make you feel inadequate. There is always something that you will never be physically, and that goes for either gender. There will always be bigger dicks, bigger tits, tighter pussies, smoother skin, more glorious ass, tinier waist, blonder hair, bluer eyes, more washboard-y abs, on and on and on. It. Doesn't. Matter. The sooner you can get your head wrapped around that simple fact, the sooner it becomes true. For you. This is all about you feeling good about who you are and what you've got to offer. So you don't have a huge penis. Apparently, you've got some skills though: congrats on the squirting thing. Don't underestimate the power of physical chemistry, enthusiasm, and an authentic desire to please your partner. We recently had a great time with another couple and while the other husband was not as big as my husband, we had wicked chemistry. Holy fuck, this guy had me dialed IN. Dick size had NOTHING to do with it. In contrast, I've been with partners much bigger than my husband, but didn't have a really great connection with them chemically. I didn't enjoy myself nearly as much with them. Okay, sure, the big dick thing was an interesting experience, but then again...I'm not a size queen. Give me a confident, enthusiastic guy who knows how to use what he's got, and adores seeing a woman in the throes of ecstasy, and I'm all over that. The thing is, penis size is just one of the variables of getting to explore other people. It's not better or worse to be this size or that, it's just different. Hey, are you interested in anal sex? Ask how many well-hung guys get invited in the back door. You've got an advantage there. Just saying. Mr. intuition did have a hang-up about it at one time, many years ago. I'm not sure what he did to get over it, but he did. He seems to have evolved his thinking and now embraces a more humble attitude about it: he can't be everything to me. But he can be the very best of everything that he is - which is what I love about him - and he can give me everything else in the world by proxy. He doesn't make me choose between the world or him. I get to have both. I would be insane to leave a man who loves me so much!! The emotional connection and chemistry that I have with my husband are beyond words. Transcendent. No other man is even in his realm. He has no competition, and I don't care what they're packing. Yes, I've come home buzzing and high from getting my brains fucked out by some other guy (again, penis size didn't matter). Honestly, he's more turned on now by the idea of me being with bigger guys than I am. His attitude about it? These other guys are almost like extensions of him; he makes it possible for me to have this kind of pleasure because he allows it in our relationship. He recognizes that he's not competing with them; they're helping him out by giving his wife something that he can't (if that happened to be her thing). His focus is on my pleasure, because that's what brings him the most pleasure. And likewise, I just want him to have the whole world as his candy store and get as many beautiful, passionate, confident and sexy women into his bed as he can handle. Thinking of him having that intense chemistry with someone else gives me an instant lady boner. I don't know if this helps you at all, but it's a peek inside our minds at least, and how we look at and deal with "the size thing".

I don't think you will be happy swinging. I know you set out a list of things you don't want to hear, but I'm going to tell you some things I think you do need to hear. My husband is average size and we have great sex. I have had sex with guys who were larger, and some of the experiences were amazing (some not so great). It really depends on the person. I have had orgasms with other people in ways that my husband couldn't. He does not seem to be bothered by this. Swinging is just one of our many fun adventures that we share on this road of life. He gets to play with lots of girls and we play together in unimaginable ways, and that makes us happy. You will hear your girlfriend making sounds you never heard, it's not just their cocks, it's them and everything about the experience. If that isn't appealing to you, you shouldn't swing. I think swinging happily requires a long term commitment and a deep understanding that comes from years of togetherness and enduring the ups and downs of life. Unless a relationship is explicitly non-monogamous or polyamorous from the start there is so much security and communication you need to build before swinging. You don't say how long you've been committed to each other, but I really think it takes years and the intensity of living together or being married for quite some time before you can swing. Perhaps you can tell us how you and your girlfriend came to the idea of joining the swing scene? What are you or she hoping to find?

Hi invrpm, I strongly agree with what SW_PA_Couple says - if you're wife says you're fine, believe her. I get where you're coming from and felt the same for a long time, before I realised that I was actually above average - but then there's still a bigger cock out there that maybe would make her orgasm stronger etc etc. I realised that there would be bigger cocks that maybe physically could do that - but my wife chooses me and even if there was another cock fucking her that felt better physically, she would prefer me to fuck her overall because of the feelings that she has for me and she knows that I love her. We started using some dildo's occasionally and I bought a few that were big - some with a good head and others that were so big I really didn't think she'd even ever use them. Well low and behold she did and LOVED the feeling of being full by a big cock (dildo). That's just her though, some other girls would never be able to take them or enjoy them. For some girls there is such a thing as too big. Each girl is different. Anyway, even though my wife absolutely loves the large dildo's and has massively intense orgasms with them she much prefers my real cock overall. It's me as a whole person she wants fucking her and that she appreciates rather than a large cock or dildo or someone who doesn't care for her. We're both glad for the 'bigger cock' experience and what it can do for her body but it's me that she is attached to and loves for more than what I can do with my cock. If it was a one night stand would a big cock rather than a smaller one make a difference? Maybe, maybe not, you've already said you've got her feeling and responding to things that no one else has - so you're doing a good job and she enjoys sex with you. Whilst cock size is a factor to some degree, there are 10,000 other factors that are just as or more important. If you are struggling with these feelings though, then until you are 100% comfortable with it, I think the jealousy would eat you up and destroy your relationship if you went swinging. I am certainly not an expert - just starting out with the idea, but all the advice is that you need to be confident in each other and yourself! The other thing to realise is that if she has an intense orgasm etc because you go out swinging together, than you are giving her that orgasm - or at least permission to have that orgasm, which is not far off you giving her that orgasmic experience. Good luck but tread carefully where jealousy sits and remember, that despite what you see as a lack of size, you seem to be satisfying your girl really well. For size increase, check out thunders place penis enlargement, If you're sensible and consistent it does seem possible to increase size, but don't neglect other aspects of your relationship.

Let me blunt... It's a hang-up, get over it. It is not true that women derive more pleasure from a bigger man. Some women do. Other women do not. Some women can reach orgasm from penetration. Others cannot. Some only can with certain partners and not others. I have watched my wife have sex with many men. Some of them where bigger than me. Some were smaller. All were different. I have watched my wife have earth-shattering orgasms with other men. No, it did not "fuck me up" ... it made me so hard I could pound nails with my dick. That's why I do this. That's the while point. You need to deal with your insecurity, and you need to not swing until you do. You need to listen to your wife and trust that she is telling you the truth, and you need to not swing until you do. In fact, I honestly wonder swinging is right for you at all. If you are this insecure about your wife having good sex with someone else, why do you want to do this at all? Believe it or not, I am actually trying to help. You need to seriously consider why you are feeling so insecure and - since this clearly bothers you so much - why do you want to swing at all.

My point about the booster shot recommendation was, as someone said since my post, was that the goal posts are moving. This will never end. San Francisco is requiring 5 year olds to have vaccine cards to eat at restaurants!?!? You've got to be kidding me. This is the insanity that I just can't grasp. A higher percentage of children die from the flu every year than Covid. Why isn't there a mandatory flu vaccination for children? And as for 'what's wrong with the recommending the immunocompromised get boosters'....nothing, if that's where it ended. How many NBA players are immunocompromised? NBA to players, coaches, refs: Booster shots are recommended | NBA.com There are no goal posts any longer. So if you live in California, do you need a booster every six months to remain "fully vaccinated" so you can continue enjoying the freedom to eat at a restaurant? A buddy of mine told me Austin TX canceled their President's Day parade for the second year in a row due to Covid. This year it was canceled because the organizers stated there was no way to check everyone's vax card who attends the outdoor parade! Lunacy.