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"Hey I'm flying in from Kalamazoo to spend one night 100 miles from your neighborhood so let's fuck!" never gets old!

We block single males on swinger sites. We prefer to swap partners. Just how we roll, we understand other couples prefer MFM and it’s easier than finding a four way match.

In our St. Louis home, we had a (secluded) pool. In our Atlanta home, we have a hot tub and a fire pit. We are just finishing the build of our forever home and it has an Endless Pool X2000 swimspa and a firepit. 1. Hot tubs are covered most of the time and require regular but modest maintenance. The Endless Pool is hot tub like in that regard. 2. Much of the maintenance is weekly: balance the chemistry. 3. A little maintenance is use -specific--shock it after use. 4. Drain, clean, and refill should happen at least a couple of times a year. Two things help keep the hot tub clean. (1) Shower before getting in and (2) no swimsuits allowed.

I suspect that those types of messages are more often than not, by a long shot, from men. I suspect men think differently. Sorry Apple. They/we have a 'hook up' mentality. Men generally WILL fuck anything anytime and they mistakenly assume women who are open about their sexuality, are open to multiple partners, are open about challenging stereotypes etc are the same. I've seen the same attitude towards lesbian couples. If a lesbian couple is out, then they must also be promiscuous and open to alternative forms of sex. I blame the neanderthal/lizard brain which seems to still be quite active in men.

I have a boat so glad I'm following rules. It does overheat, much like me when I'm swinging. Trust me, a hot tub is way less maintenance, but crashing over waves and watching boobs bounce (totally innocently) is not possible in a hot tub. Have a great time in Tahoe. we've never played games in a hot tub. As others have said it just lends itself to getting close. Thinking back, it's been where we have just talked, gotten to know each other and then because we're usually naked, begin touching etc. Does seem like a good place to play truth or dare.

We think 100-101 is about right. If it feels warm, a few moments standing up and out is sufficient to cool off. Eventually, it's just time to get out. After getting out, we like to sit by the firepit for a while.

Not all cuckolds perform m/m play. And, bisexual m/m play has little to do with cuckolding. Seems like a stretch to conflate the two topics. There is enough confusion of terms as it is… The Venn diagram has overlap- leave it at that.

I would certainly hope not. We've got enough people in the world these days trying to rewrite dictionaries to meet their own agenda - hope and pray it does not come to the LS community. Our take on this is simple - we believe in total truth in advertising. I hear the stigma thing, but don't buy it. Common now - there is stigma associated with everything in the LS in the non-LS world. I thought one of the more appealing aspects of the LS was honesty. We know what we are, and advertise as much. People who read our profiles know what to expect, and we expect the same from others. If readers don't like what they see, then they know we're not a great match and move on - a win-win solution IMHO. Anyone who does not have the balls to admit and be truthful about why they are here and what they are looking for should probably not be in the LS to begin with. Sorry for being so brutal - we're not trying to hurt anyone's feelings but feel rather strongly about being able to openly communicate about who we are and what others are looking and expecting.

Seeing the missus being naughty with other people is my favourite part of the lifestyle.

✔️✔️ I've always been a rule follower I guess 😁 Very little. 10 minutes a week is about right, tops. When you are using it, just make it a habit to check the floater to see if you need some more bromine tablets, and that takes care of that. A few seconds to stick a test strip in weekly, and if needed, a minute or two to put in whatever it needs. With ours, pH is about the only thing we have to ever mess with, although everyone's water is different. Within a week of a refill, I'll have to bring the pH down. A few weeks later, maybe again. A few weeks after that, and then I usually just drain it and refill it, which is like an hour job, most of which you can be doing something else while you are waiting for it to be finished draining or filling. We bought ours used. Hot tubs are one of those things not easily taken with you to a new house, or just stored away if you are taking a break from it. So, people will just try to get what they can from them. You can find some good deals on nice ones in great shape. Ours is at very least 10 years old, since we've had it for almost that. Shortly after we got it, It had a drip drip leak when running and I replaced a pump shaft seal, part was like $10 I think and not hard if you are even somewhat handy. Or like anything, if you want to pay someone and just be done with it, it's not going to be any huge repair bill. We painted the skirting too, but that was just because we wanted a different color, took like an hour. We have a pool too, and while that's not any big deal either like some make it out to be, pool way more maintenance than a hot tub. Hot tub runs on cruise control and stays covered 99.9% of the time, so other than checking the water occasionally, not a whole lot to keep up with.

Now I'm feeling like some crazy freak, we keep ours at like 101-102 in winter! 😂 Late spring and early fall we do drop it down to 99-100, and we just close it for the summer. We usually don't really hang out in there for a long time though. It automatically cycles off after 15 or maybe 20 minutes. Sometimes we'll restart it and stay in a few minutes more, but we are usually ready to get out after the first cycle. We've tried hot tub sex, both at home and at friends, and agree that water doesn't make the best lube, so the hot tub itself is just foreplay playground. Now mrs. cplnuswing's wet and literally steaming body bent over the hot tub after you get out, that's another thing entirely

I don't know... how different is it really from the general "you have to kiss a lot of frogs" mentality of finding a couple or single that is a good match for you and isn't a fake or flake? Yes, these guys are looking quick, easy, no strings attached sex and they don't want to put in any real work to find it (beyond sending out lots and lots of copy n' pasted messages that say "hey, wanna fuck"). Yes, they are exactly what gives single men in the lifestyle a bad name. Yes, 99 our of 100 of us will turn them down without a second thought... but for that 100th couple, for whatever reason, these guys may be what they are looking for. You're not wrong. At the same time, when my wife and I used to go to clubs, we were totally there for the no strings attached, one night hook up with some agreeable anonymous guy... and as long as everyone agreed that was the deal and had a good time, everyone was happy. Basically, we were the sluts and we enjoyed it. I'm not saying these guys are right or good. Honestly, I've ignored and blocked guys like this on swingers sites too. Still, if they do have a 1 in a 100 or even 1 in a 1000 success rate, who am I to judge to people who do respond to those messages with "hot dick, do me now"?

Some people think that after knocking on a hundred doors and only having limited (at best) success that maybe they are doing something wrong and come up with a new plan.

People who want a quick hit knock on a hundred doors. If one person says yes, they’re happy.