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5 pointsWelcome. Here, I think you will find lots of people open and willing to answer any questions you have. So, to the heart of your questions... Depends on what you mean by "normal" I suppose. Conventional wisdom suggests that swinging just isn't right for the vast majority of people. Our society trains us for monogamy. Our cultural stories emphasize the idea that people should join together in pairs and that breaking that bond is wrong. There is even an argument to made that jealousy is a hardwired response related to our instinctive drive to perpetuate our DNA. Swingers, however, don't embrace that. For my wife and myself, we were never monogamous even before we knew what swinging was. We simply are not wired for it. I personally take great pleasure in watching my wife fucking someone else and she takes great pleasure in being watched. For us, it's a happy, positive, enjoyable experience that actually strengthens the bond we share. For you, it sounds like it's not. What is important to realize that that is OK. It is OK for swinging to wrong for you (just like it is OK for it to be right for us). Everyone has different things that work for them.
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3 pointsWE read so many posts last night. Some questions brought up more questions. Questions brought up conversation, conversation lead to SEX. Not a bad thing. Debbie asked me if I would watch, do I want to watch, would I enjoy watching, would I watch if it was our friend or better with a stranger. Good questions. She additionally asked if I think our lady friend is attractive, would I pick her up if she was in a singles bar and we were all single. She asked me if ever thought of her friend sexually before. Last night I sure did all night. I blocked out the thought of our male friend and Debbie and undressed in my mind the girlfriend. In my mind YEAH I would do it. Can I? Read a lot about sex with friends, pros and cons. I could go bad, more for us, less for them. They are already swingers. We read a thread that it’s better with people you know and like, and we read do we lose friends if it goes bad. We are still dealing with the can we question. Do we want to question. The more we talk the more curious we become. We found a recent article in a newsfeed, Is Monogamous Sex, Monotonous Sex. I never thought it monotonous but is it? Do we have the same sex every time, do we change it up? We have been monogamous since we became committed. She never complained about our sex, I’m happy, is there more? Debbie’s question if I would watch and enjoy, I asked her if she could watch. She said she would if I wanted. More talk, more questions, more answers, more excitement, more doubt, more reassurance. We decided that to the moment we can change our minds.
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3 pointsWelcome to the site! There is a ton of great info and a lot of great people always willing to give advice, so ask away with all of your questions Lionheart's post is right on the money and touches on things that are absolutely true. Some (most) people just aren't cut out for swinging, and absolutely nothing wrong with that. I too am a big believer in people need to do what's right for them. I think the cause for a lot of bad or failed relationships is when external influences (work, toxic friends and family, societal pressure, etc.) and/or selfishness within the relationship (cheating, dishonesty, etc.) are allowed to override that innate feeling that a couple develops of what's right for the relationship. There are those that shouldn't swing but do, those that should swing but don't, those should swing and do, and those those shouldn't swing and don't. Odds are people in those last two are having the best overall relationships since they are going with what they know is right for them. Another important thing is a word you don't see very often. "Compersion", which means taking happiness in someone else's happiness. So if you see your partner happy from enjoying a great sexual experience, no matter who it's with, that makes you happy. For most people, the negatives of even thinking about or especially seeing your partner with someone else block any compersion. They likely share their partner's happiness at other things, career achievements or whatever, but it doesn't extend to the sexual realm. With swingers, that line isn't there.
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2 pointsA theme I'm sure you've seen by now in many, many posts is that the key to successful swinging is communication. Communicate, communicate, communicate. It sounds like you're doing a great job of that! Even if you never end up swinging, that kind of open, honest communication is the bedrock of many a great relationship.
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1 pointHi Everyone. We are Billy and Debbie thinking about having sex with old friends. We have friends from our old city before we moved who we know are swingers. They told us to sign up on here to ask and find answers to all the questions they haven’t answered. We always were amazed that they are so free to have sex with others when they told us about friends they have and vacations they took. They always asked us to join them and they joked that we were like old people thinking sex is bad. I always asked how do you let guys fuck your wife, he would answer why not. I couldn’t do that to her and I don’t want you fucking Deb. We have been invited, always laughing it away. By joining here you can tell we are thinking. It has to be normal to feel you can’t let your wife fuck someone. Right? Is there a reason not to feel that way? Even thinking about my friend and my wife has me thinking how wrong this could be. We are making the list why we shouldn’t try this. Debbie and I are talking about why shouldn’t or could do this. We aren’t religious or so high moral thinkers. Why do people make judgments about swingers? My friend has made an offer to be our first or he would invite friends to the house so we can watch and chose. Thanks for letting us join this group and read comments and other posts. I am sure everyone answering will tell us how great swinging is.
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1 pointYes, but... There is only more with your sex life as a couple, which can be greater than the sum of the two parts. Individually, if you both are already happy with your individual sex lives, I don't think you are going to find swinging changes that much. Nor should it. But as a couple, I think you will find it supercharges your sex life as the compersion thing kicks in and her sexual happiness becomes part of you on top of your individual happiness and satisfaction, and same for her with you. I'm going to quibble... I don't think there is "more." I think there is "other." My wife and I are happy. We enjoy sex together. We have fun together. As cplnuswing says later, we know each other and we know what works for each other. What's more, because we communicate well, when we want to explore something new (in the bedroom or out) we are pretty willing to discuss it. What swinging brings to us is new and different opportunities. It isn't more. It isn't better (A lot of new people post the question "what do I do if the other person my partner is with is better/bigger/hotter/whatever than me?"). It's just different. Part of it is new experiences. My wife and I have both picked up some new tricks from swinging partners that we wouldn't have known we enjoyed if we hadn't encountered them. Part of it is things you just physically can't do with only two people. However, as I said, I would never call any of it "more." We actually haven't been able able to swing since we moved several years ago. While we both miss the fun of it, our sex lives are still plenty satisfying without it.
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1 pointAgreed. Communication is all, it is totally essential. Yes, but... There is only more with your sex life as a couple, which can be greater than the sum of the two parts. Individually, if you both are already happy with your individual sex lives, I don't think you are going to find swinging changes that much. Nor should it. But as a couple, I think you will find it supercharges your sex life as the compersion thing kicks in and her sexual happiness becomes part of you on top of your individual happiness and satisfaction, and same for her with you. Swinging sex can range from bad to ok to fantastic. Honestly, most encounters are going to fall well short of fantastic, and you just hope the bad ones are few and far between. After you have been with someone for so long, you and her know each other in and out, including in the bedroom. For a lot of people, having sex with someone new, especially someone you just met say like at a club, that comfort level just isn't there and for many (including us), the more comfortable you are with someone the better the sex tends to be.
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1 pointWe think 100-101 is about right. If it feels warm, a few moments standing up and out is sufficient to cool off. Eventually, it's just time to get out. After getting out, we like to sit by the firepit for a while.
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1 pointThe last time my wife and I played with another couple was back in March of 2000 and it was more than a couple, it was a few couples to say the least. My wife is 5’ 8, about 125lbs with huge breasts and an ass that won’t quit. I am 5’10 about 175lbs and in pretty decent shape myself. She and I met at a swingers club so we never had any doubt we would continue the Lifestyle. My wife’s birthday is in March so I planned a little party for her. I called up 11 of my friends and their wives, thinking this could be one great orgy and she could get all the attention she could possibly handle. Understand my wife is a sexual dynamo, she can go forever and take it in every hole. I told the men to arrive at 5:00 when she got home from work, I told the women to show up at 7:30. I planned it so my wife could take on 11 men {including myself} and then spend the rest of the night getting eaten out by their wives. The night began quickly. She opened the door and found 11 men naked. Her jaw dropped and then a smile quickly formed. She was lifted quickly to a mattress that was placed on the floor and quickly stripped. No sooner were her clothes off than she had a cock in each hand, one in her mouth and a man licking her shaved pussy. She was in heaven after only about 3 minutes she was already cumming and begging to be fucked. What I had planned for her was for her to be royally gangbanged in every hole she had. First up was Tom, nice guy with about a 7 inch dick and he starts fucking her pussy, all the while the guys are rotating sticking their dicks in her mouth. By this time her excitement has made her totally wet and wild. She cums immediately, screaming, “cum in my mouth” which set off Scott who blows his load deep in her mouth and a little on her face, while at the same seeing her suck down all that cum set off Tom. The look in her eye says she is loving every minute it. Jim lays down next to her and says jump on. and with great speed she straddles Jim and shoves his cock deep into using Tom’s cum as lubricant. Just as she gets going Bill smears a handful of Lub on her ass and starts working his fingers in and out. She lets out a scream telling us she wants a man in every hole. Bill shoves his dick forcefully into her ass and she jumps a little but continues fucking both Jim and Bill. I, being the loving husband that I am, let her blow me all the while. Their is nothing like seeing your wife getting double penetrated by two men and she still has energy to give you a great blow job. Bill was the first to lose his load and slaps her ass just as he cums deep into her bowels. My cum hungry wife starts to squirm and shake and I can see that three cocks is giving her the best orgasms of her life. She has completely turned into a groaning cum filled sex slave. Jim blows his load next, the sexiest thing in the world is watching cum ooze out of your wife’s pussy and ass at the same time. But this is a gangbang, so quickly Harry gets under her and Brian gets behind her and start fucking her ass and pussy at the same time again. By this time I am lost in my own orgasm and grab my wife’s head and shove my cock down her mouth and blow my load. Quickly Mike takes my place in her mouth loving every minute of it. Now here is the birthday present, my wife is being fucked in her ass, her pussy and face fucked, but I know she wants more. I grab one of her favorite toys. A long thin vibrating dildo about 10 inches long but rather thin. I greased it up with KY and slid it into her pussy with another dick. This gets her wild and set off Harry’s orgasm. Like clock work though Brian and Mike finish and its time for the next team of Chris and John. Chris slides under and starts fucking her and John starts ramming that ass. With all the cum in her pussy and ass, as the guys push in you can hear squirting noises as cum is pushed out. All this and I still have the slim vibrator in my babies pussy. At this point she can’t suck anymore, she is in constant orgasm and is lost. The best part is the two guys left are a major surprise for my wife, Andy and Tim are twins and though they are not that big in stature they have 10 inch dicks that are the width of a grown man's wrist. As Chris and John finish, I remove the vibrator and tell my girl to look at her last present. She almost gasps and then says, “Ohh fuck yes”. With all the cum in her now the twins slide in rather easily and start fucking. I have never seem my girl go so nuts. She is cussing and groaning and screaming and having the most out of control wildest orgasms in her life. As the twins blow their loads deep in her twat and ass you can visibly see my girls legs shaking and her body quivering. She was give a birthday gangbang to rival all gangbangs. As we laid her down the women arrived and saw my wife, they couldn’t believe all the cum oozing out of her ass and pussy and the fact that she couldn’t even move. I laid down next to my wife and said happy birthday. Then I told her I lied, her last present wasn’t the twins, the last present is that each of these women have agreed to eat her out and clean her ass and pussy with their tongues. HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABY My wife died not long after that from a car accident, but I think she loved to share herself and sharing her favorite sexual night with people would make her happy. Believe it or not this is all true.
