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  1. 2 points
    We are in our early 40s and we didn’t start swinging until about 3 years ago. It made our sex life even better, and put things in a different perspective for us. It eliminated a source of potential jealousy by erasing that psychological barrier. For us it’s been a net positive. It certainly isn’t for everyone. The key is communication and consent. If the other person is feeling pressured, that’s a sign that more communication is needed. It should never be one person pushing and the other goin along just to make them happy. That leads to stress and problems.
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    If I may say so, I think it's very positive that you seem to be getting a handle on what does and doesn't work for you. I wanted to toss out another bit of advice (which you may seen in other posts but just in case). As you continue to talk, remember there is a big difference between what sounds really great when you're all hot and naked and having sex, and what sounds like a good idea when things are calm and clear. Lots of people find the fantasy of a thing really hot but when they think about it in the clear light of day, they could never do it. So, when your talking about swinging and considering actually doing it, focus on how you feel about it when you're dressed and sitting down to breakfast, not when you're all hot and bothered and climbing into bed.
  3. 2 points
    No interest in a swingers club for us, no interest in watching strangers have sex in a club. Our big problem is can we have sex with others and watching adds to the problem. We are still talking about it, inching closer to maybe.
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  5. 1 point
    I love big butts and I can not lie! Share them if you got them.
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    Let’s call our age 40. College graduates, Debbie has advanced degrees. We think of ourselves as thoughtful and open minded. We are discussing. Our haste is only due to a holiday visit with the friends we are considering having our first with. We are reading posts here and other resources, Debbie is very proficient at research. Pretty methodical in her approach to everything we do. Even dinner reservations have to be researched. If we go forward the decision will be mutual. Discussing swinging has been fun for us in the bedroom, we are talking more during sex and laughing more.
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    How old are you? It sounds like the two of you likely have a lot to discuss. It would not surprise me if this process took years, not months to work through. There are any number of very good resources on ethical nonmonogamy. We went through several on our journey. One was by a fellow list member fundamentallaw. Haste is not your friend.
  8. 1 point
    Not all. Neither of us are interested in seeing or being part of that kind of activity.
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    There are swinger’s clubs, such as Trapeze in Ft.Lauderdale, Colette’s in Dallas and New Orleans. Newbies can go there one night with no intention to swap and watch what happens. Not to be pervs about it, but there are open play areas where people are ok being watched. You can even have sex just with each other there. It’s a step in the swinging direction and a chance to feel the vibe.
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    You are more than thinking if you signed up asking for advice. I asked all the same questions you are asking all the time trying to reconcile the thought of having sex with my wife’s best friend. I did that too. Heck she is good looking and I knew she wanted me, they were the swingers already just like your friends. I can tell you friends are the best way to start, they will be the least pressure and can make it fun.
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    WE read so many posts last night. Some questions brought up more questions. Questions brought up conversation, conversation lead to SEX. Not a bad thing. Debbie asked me if I would watch, do I want to watch, would I enjoy watching, would I watch if it was our friend or better with a stranger. Good questions. She additionally asked if I think our lady friend is attractive, would I pick her up if she was in a singles bar and we were all single. She asked me if ever thought of her friend sexually before. Last night I sure did all night. I blocked out the thought of our male friend and Debbie and undressed in my mind the girlfriend. In my mind YEAH I would do it. Can I? Read a lot about sex with friends, pros and cons. I could go bad, more for us, less for them. They are already swingers. We read a thread that it’s better with people you know and like, and we read do we lose friends if it goes bad. We are still dealing with the can we question. Do we want to question. The more we talk the more curious we become. We found a recent article in a newsfeed, Is Monogamous Sex, Monotonous Sex. I never thought it monotonous but is it? Do we have the same sex every time, do we change it up? We have been monogamous since we became committed. She never complained about our sex, I’m happy, is there more? Debbie’s question if I would watch and enjoy, I asked her if she could watch. She said she would if I wanted. More talk, more questions, more answers, more excitement, more doubt, more reassurance. We decided that to the moment we can change our minds.
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    Welcome to the site! There is a ton of great info and a lot of great people always willing to give advice, so ask away with all of your questions Lionheart's post is right on the money and touches on things that are absolutely true. Some (most) people just aren't cut out for swinging, and absolutely nothing wrong with that. I too am a big believer in people need to do what's right for them. I think the cause for a lot of bad or failed relationships is when external influences (work, toxic friends and family, societal pressure, etc.) and/or selfishness within the relationship (cheating, dishonesty, etc.) are allowed to override that innate feeling that a couple develops of what's right for the relationship. There are those that shouldn't swing but do, those that should swing but don't, those should swing and do, and those those shouldn't swing and don't. Odds are people in those last two are having the best overall relationships since they are going with what they know is right for them. Another important thing is a word you don't see very often. "Compersion", which means taking happiness in someone else's happiness. So if you see your partner happy from enjoying a great sexual experience, no matter who it's with, that makes you happy. For most people, the negatives of even thinking about or especially seeing your partner with someone else block any compersion. They likely share their partner's happiness at other things, career achievements or whatever, but it doesn't extend to the sexual realm. With swingers, that line isn't there.
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    Here are a couple more of Missus Enhancer in her new green outfit! Getting ready for Christmas.
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    OR flamingos with black neck bands being fed pineapple by gnomes sitting on a white rock in the pampas grass
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    The start of an anal session.. We love the butt
  16. 1 point
    From my playdate with a submissive a couple weeks ago, she's been asking me to find outlets to display her so I'll make sure she sees this thread.
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    I admit it, I had cheated with the cable guy. However, it was my first ever time to cheat on Jerry, and I lived in mortal fear of him finding out before I confessed to him. Over the holidays while in a festive spirit I decided to fess up and get his reaction while we were involved in some hot sex with our next door neighbors. To say that he was upset would be an understatement!! Jerry was furious with me and didn't speak to me for a couple of days while I thought he was cooling off. As it turned out he was plotting his revenge. He felt that I should never have had sex with one much less two other men without him there to protect me. I think he really just wanted to watch as that is what gets him off best lately. However, that is now beside the point. Last night we were making up and having a nice dinner at a fine restaurant and enjoying several glasses of wine. Around 10 p.m. we headed for home and he announced to me that I owed him for my indiscretion and that he had a plan for me to make it up to him. Well, what could I say but yes, he was right and I would do it. As we pulled into our driveway I noticed several cars parked in the street and commented that the neighbors must be having another party. With a smile on his face he said, 'It's a party but it's not the neighbors who are having it. You are the party tonight baby'. I then noticed that the lights were all on in our house and Jerry admitted that he had given the key to Steve and his buddies who were setting up and waiting for the guest of honor to arrive. As we entered the house I spotted Steve, Dave, and three other men whom I didn't know in the process of moving our furniture to clear a spot in the middle of the family room and rolling out a huge inflatable mattress while all of them were nude. This started a small fire in my pussy, but I was apprehensive about five men and only me as the lone woman. Jerry told the group that here I was and the party was ready to begin. With that, Steve who is a really big man picked me up and deposited me in the mattress on the floor while all of the men began to undress me rather hurriedly. I asked them to wait and I would get undressed for them, but Jerry said, 'shut up and let them have their way with you as you deserve all you're going to get.' In about 30 seconds they had me nude, spread-eagle on the mattress while Steve was rubbing KY jelly all over his 9" dick and smearing my pussy with it as well. Normally, I would be lubricating and ready for sex, but the three strangers as well as the total number of men ready to fuck had me frightened. Steve mounted me without any foreplay and as he sank his dick into my pussy even the KY jelly didn't prepare me adequately and it was uncomfortable to say the least. Now Steve is a nice guy, but they had all been put up to a gang bang by Jerry and all I could do was lay there and accept it. I had no choice as my arms and legs were being held firmly by the other four men. Steve pumped his dick into my pussy faster and faster until my body began to betray me and I began to lubricate until my juices ran down my legs. In about five minutes Steve shot his load into my cunt, and Dave took his place not giving me a minute to recover from my first orgasm. Dave isn't quite as large as Steve but he put a lot of effort into his turn to fuck and I was breathing heavily and humping with him in a few minutes when he too shot his load in my cunt and was immediately replaced by one of the other men whose name I still don't know. One by one these men fucked me until all five of them had enjoyed my pussy once and then they started over again. All the while Jerry was sitting there watching and taping the whole thing. 'How do you like this gang bang Cheryl?' he said as he was getting his rocks off just watching and taping the whole thing. My agony and ecstasy went on for over three hours until I had been fucked at least a dozen times, had at least that many orgasms and I was begging for relief. At this point Jerry said to the crowd, 'That's enough for now guys, lets give her a chance to recover and then we can repeat this some other time.' As the men left they all had to kiss, squeeze or twist one of my nipples to let me know they all had a great time. Meanwhile I was exhausted and just wanted to soak in a hot tub and go to sleep. This morning Jerry is his old normal happy self and I am the one who is furious with him and not speaking. Yes, I admit I enjoyed myself last night for the most part, but it was too severe a punishment for what I had done in my opinion. Oh by the way, I can hardly walk today much less think of sex for at least a week.
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    For the first time in my life, I had a surprise birthday party - but soon I had more surprises in store! My wife had arranged the party at her friend's house. I suspected something was up, but I figured she'd have my friends meet us for dinner or drinks. Instead, I walked into Katherine's house which was full of my friends, food, and booze. Out back, there was a pool that looked as if it were grafted from a resort. Palm trees, a jacuzzi and tiki-torches ringed the pool, and soon everyone was outside. With the booze flowing freely, it wasn't long before the craziness started! One girl loudly announced that she forgot her swimsuit, stripped to her bra and thong, and then ran around the pool and jumped in. Her bra was beige and sheer and her thong was lacy and nearly completely see-through. After that show, everyone was stripping down to their underwear. My wife was shooting evil looks, so I decided to take a breather inside the house. I had a drink or two in me when one of my friends told me, “You'd better get out here. Thad is accosting your wife.” Sure enough, Thad was blitzed and he was snuggled up to my wife – the same woman who earlier had been mad at me when I saw the girls stripping down to the underwear. I jumped in the pool and tried not to make a scene, but then I found that Thad had his fingers firmly inside my wife's cunt. She wasn't fighting much, but that was probably because she was as nearly drunk as he was. Typical. It was my birthday, but as usual, I was driving us home. I lifted Thad and my wife in the water and basically threw him off of her, trying to play off the whole episode as horseplay. I was hoping that everyone was too preoccupied with the wet-bra-show to notice what Thad and my wife were doing. Just as I got them separated, the hostess announced it was time to wrap it up. It was about 1:00am, but in a small neighborhood like hers, we were really pushing the limit with the noise. It was really only a matter of time until the cops showed. As we collected our gear, the hostess asked, “Who's going to take care of him?” pointing to Thad. He was half-passed out by the pool and couldn't stand. Since we couldn't leave him there, there was a virtual drawing of the straws – meaning, everyone jumped in their cars and left me holding the short straw. I guided Thad to my car and poured him in. I thought about driving him home, but it was already late and he lived across town, so we decided to let him sleep it off on a futon in our game room. I just hoped he wouldn't be loud and wake our kids. After putting him to bed, my wife started to give me my real birthday present. She lit a couple candle and then slipped on her sluttiest, skin-tight, black lace teddy. She basically threw me on the bed and started sucking my dick. She nibbled at the head and licked down the shaft to my balls and swirled her tongue in circles. Then almost as quickly, she stopped and mounted me. She thrust down hard in fast in a single motion, burying my dick in her all the way to the hilt and then devilishly wiggled her hips. She was hot – much hotter than normal. I knew Thad made her hot, and to be honest, I wasn't terribly upset. She knew I was into kinky sex; I started to wonder if she had been putting on a little show for me. Before I could say anything, as she nibbled on my ear, she whispered, “Would you like to watch?” I said, “Watch what?” She said, “You know – like in your fantasies...” Holy shit! She knew that I had a fantasy of her fucking another guy, but with my dick buried to the hilt while she wiggled and clinched her cunt was too much for me to resist. “y..yy..essss”, I weakly said. She pulled off and slammed her pussy back onto my dick. “What?”, she said. “YES!” My head swimming, before I could utter another word, she lifted off and raced out of the room. Seemingly an eternity later, she guided a still somewhat intoxicated Thad to the other side of our bed and laid him down. I have no idea what she said or did, before they entered the room I heard a hurried and hushed conversation. As he laid down, he pulled her onto the bed. Very quickly, our hands were all over her. I sat up an rubbed her wet and warm pussy as he pulled off her top and started sucking on her tits. He worked them like a pro as she reach between his legs and pumped his hardening cock. I was still working on her clit when Thad pull her hips hard up to his face. He started working on her cunt as if he was licking the best tasting ice cream he's ever had in his life. My wife arched her back in obvious pleasure, so I reached up and started running her breasts and pinching her nipples, which I know she loves. My wife still astride Thad, I pulled back for a moment to take in the scene. The smell of sex was heavy in the air and I was overcome with sensations of jealousy and arousal. Just then, Thad pull my wife's cunt over his throbbing dick and she willing push down hard. He moaned and arched to push it as deep as he could. It obviously worked because she again started bucking and thrusting hard up and down on his dick. At some point, she realized I wasn't there and beckoned me over. She reached out, grabbed my dick, and pulled me to her waiting mouth. Her expert technique and the scene in front of me almost took me to the edge all too soon. Again I pulled back, and after recovering I moved in behind her. I watched Thad's dick as it spread her pussy lips apart as he trust in and out. She lifted up and I quickly put in my dick where Thad had just been. Obviously Thad and I were similarly sized, as her pussy still seemed nice and tight. I pumped her sopping wet pussy hard for several minutes before I need another break. Only as I was pulling out did I notice that Thad had his hands under my wife. He had been working on her clit while I was fucking her and the effect of my dick and his hands were making her more excited than I had seen in a long time. She seemed to be in another world and completely given over to lust. Sitting behind them, watching her ride him again, I couldn't help but want to fuck her more. I considered the next step – something we had not planned, but then I realized that nothing this night had been planned and now was my chance. I quietly slipped off the bed and pulled some lube out of her nightstand and returned to my position on the bed. I seriously don't think that she even noticed me gone. I took the lube, drizzled some on my dick, and then drizzled some down her crack. She didn't notice a thing until I was grabbing her hips and pushing the head of my dick against her asshole. She was kissing Thad as I began pushing my throbbing cock into her ass. She stopped pumping Thad just long enough to let me in. The sensations were overwhelming as I slid in and she began pumping us both. At this point, she lost all control and started making noises like a wild animal in heat. Thad was biting her neck, grabbing her tits with one hand, and working her clit with his other. Unable to take anymore, I shot my load in her ass. She pushed back on me hard and ground her hips until I had to pull out or pass out. I went to the bathroom to clean up and when I returned, Thad was rolling my wife over and laying on her back. Weakly I heard her protest, “no... no, lower”, and then she let out a long moan. She started biting her lip as he trust hard and deep. From the sounds she was making and the look on her face, I realized what he was doing. He was balls deep in her ass and she was enjoying every second of it. This continued for several moments until she couldn't take any more. Just as she started pushing him off, he finished. As he pulled off and pulled out, a long string of cum dripped from his dick to her ass. After that, Thad returned to his futon without saying a word and the rest of the night was a blur. The next morning, not a word was said by any of us...so far.
  19. 1 point
    You know many many many people in the world would/could/do say the exact same thing about swinging/partner sharing/infidelity etc. Everything is a matter of degrees and here in this community I hope a pray we can all be open to others without judgement regardless of our/their unique kinks. My wife loves men sucking each other. Don't know why exactly, but I also don't care why. She gets off and that's all that matters. Is it for everyone? Nope. But I'm not into ass licking either, whether with a man or woman. But I don't judge those that enjoy that activity and I would never suggest it isn't desirable in this setting.
  20. 1 point
    My wife and I have developed feelings for sex play partners, her "strong" feelings even. We believe it's a good thing actually to care about the people that you're fucking, and it's never diminished the love we have for one another. Besides, those feelings fade after a while. Fire can be useful, as can be playing alone. It's easier for two people to get together than three or four, and part of the variety.
  21. 1 point
    The couple that plays together stays together. Couples that play separately have my admiration, but they are playing with fire.
  22. 1 point
    If the wife has said stop, then you stop. The reason why doesn't matter. If either one of you says no, then the answer for the both of you is no. Time to move along.
  23. 1 point
    yup, happens here all the time. It's like a Beavis and Butthead episode..."heheh he said 'swing'"
  24. 1 point
    Apparently they don't like it when you finger a girl against the wall.
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