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My girlfriend and I had our first swap with another couple at a club last weekend. We were both very nervous although we had fun for sure. We did not know the other couple before hand although got along well in the club. My girlfriend made out with the other girl on the dance floor which was very sexy to watch. We ended up with full swap beside each other on a bed. I got nerves so could not get it up. I did get a blowjob from the other girl which resulted in a quick and short orgasm - not my usual. So I got first time nerves. May have also been due to some alcohol and we had had quite bit of sex at home in the days prior as we were both quite excited. I watched her with the other guy and found it very exciting, also intimidating and experienced some very anxious feelings which I guess is normal. She did not have an orgasm as she was nervous also and had a few drinks for her nerves. We talked a little later. She feels the full swap was fun and is open to doing it again. She doesn't seem very willing to talk much otherwise though and I do feel that need. She did say she might need some time to process. I am having some intrusive thoughts about seeing her with another and realized I am being somewhat possessive and a little insecure around this. Again, not my usual. I am not cocky generally just not usually jealous or down on myself. I realize that I loved this experience and this type of thing is for sure for me. I love my girlfriend very much and really want us to work. We are 4 years in to our relationship and get along really well. We are very close, live together and are best friends. She is not as much of a talker as me though and sometimes that frustrates me - like now. Hence me being on this chat. I am ok with her reticence to talk and I believe her when she says we are fine and that she really doesn't feel that much has changed. I want to get past these feelings so we can have fun without the anxiety I am feeling. I have read and will follow the usual advice for males - minimize alcohol, not too much sex in the days before we play with others again, and I will use a pill the next time as insurance. Our sex since has been a bit spicier and her orgasms seem stronger, so I think this has given us a boost. I could use some advice about how to navigate the next steps.

Your wife had sex with other people before you, and if something happened to you, she would have sex with new people. So what's wrong with her (and you) enjoying sex with someone else while you two are together? The only thing you two need to agree on is to try it several times (hardly any activity, riding a bike, skiing, is fun the first time) and if you both can't agree to continue, then stop. No blaming, no recriminations, just stop and move on to the next adventure: hang gliding, scuba diving.

The object of the game is to be sexually satisfied by whatever excites the members of the group and nothing more but the lack of acceptance is terribly hypocritical. My best friend is gay and he's constantly hammered by "straight" married guys to have sex. That is no surprise but for a swingers group to be so close minded is disappointing.

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Don’t rush it, but play again. I had a similar experience to you in our first time out. The other woman performed oral sex on me and I was so excited, I came in .001 seconds. I apologized for coming so fast and she said “ If you’re happy, I’m happy.” Very generous. You sound like you understand the process. Your GF may just be reserved about it. Have more experiences, gain more experience, you’ll have fun. When we became experienced and met with other experienced couples, things went smoothly. You have to ride the pony. Have fun!

I personally have no desire to see that. We were playing at parties and have never seen it occur within the guys in our group. It also has not come up in any conversations. I try to keep an open mind to what others do and would not disparage guys who are into it. So here I am, a participant of same sex play saying two females is fun but not wanting to watch two males. Does that make me a hypocrite?

Main stream swinging is an oxymoron. Swinging is not main stream. Within swinging there are diverse interests. Bisexuality by both genders, BDSM, hot wifing, vixen/stag, dom/sub. Many of these sub interests are currently of no interest to me, but if I am open minded enough to participate in the lifestyle, I owe it to participants in these subgroups to be tolerant and supportive of their interests and not denigrate them.

I would be turned off. The few times we have played with couples it has never happened. If you meet a couple make sure the man is okay before.

I noticed that you never mentioned getting involved in the gang band. If she getting the whole train (GB) then maybe you should get on board. Besides, I must agree with the person who said that she's really the one in power when she's got more guys to please her. All aboard!