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Something that I appreciated about hubby early on, even before David and I married, and still do, is that if I want to talk about it (the physical sex or my feelings) he will listen attentively and give me his thoughts. If there was something that I wanted to keep to myself that was fine as well. Hubby is neither one of those guys who needs to hear every detail, nor wants me to keep my activities from him. It's up to me.

Agree with both PeterJ and njbm … you’re not likely to find a single male who’ll agree to your conditions without trying to change the rules once the clothes come off, and there are couples out there who want to only watch and be watched.

The bad news is that the vast majority of single men eager to join you for sexual games are going to want to do than watch you two have sex while they masturbate. The good news is that there are so many hopeful single guys on the swinger sites that you will find some who are willing to accept the restrictions you are (quite rightfully, as this is your scene) imposing. Given that there’s not going to be any touching between the two of you and the other guy, perhaps you should do this first via video. That’s bound to be easier — guys who want contact will tend to self-deselect.

You might consider joining a swinging site. Join a few for free to see which most actually in your area. I have no doubt that you can find what you are interested in. Matter of fact I would guess that your inbox will fill it pretty quickly. But no one will take you seriously unless you have a paid membership. Taking your time and choose carefully you want your 1st to be as much fun as possible. We recommend having a drink first (that way you don't get stuck when a whole dinner with someone who isn't the one). Decide if you want to play on the 1st date if you don't want to, make sure he knows that. Finally next you will have so responses to your profile that you will be weeding out the ones that you are not interested in. And you will probably have a couple of dates that the handsome guy in the pic is now 12 years older and 50 lbs heavier. Don't becoming too discouraged you may just to meet a couple of frogs before you meet your prince charming. Welcome to the board and please keep us posted!!?