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Yep! We don't understand why you would go to the trouble of signing up for a swingers site and then not post a single photo. We understand editing the photo so you cannot be easily identified, we do the same, but nothing at all...unless you are just another guy fantasizing about how you wish your life could be. If that is the case, then like it was said in the Rocky Horror Picture Show: '...don't dream it, BE it'. Take the steps you need to get your relationship where you can be posting pictures as a couple looking for others. As for us, if you have no pictures, you don't even warrant getting a response when you ask...

Perhaps some day, you will. You may think that it's beautiful or not, but either way you'll agree that it's a wonder.

So we got a message from a couple on one of the sites we are on that says we can’t stop looking at your pictures can you give us access to your private pictures! Open their profile and there is not one single picture on it. Meanwhile we have close to a hundred pics of both of us on our profiles. Why in the hell would we want to give access to our private folder when we already put ourselves out there so much and they have put absolutely no effort into giving anything of themselves? Are people really that clueless about what it takes to get interest back?

They are not wanting to swing. They want to look at pictures.

Trying to figure out what to do from here. We have been in the lifestyle for a decade. Had a recent, and extremely unfortunate, separation. We both had partners (unfortunately, neither one confirmed tests🤦🏻‍♂️), and are now HSV2 positive. We both love the lifestyle but do not know where to turn or if we are just fucked ( no pun). Yes, we are working on us first, but are wondering if there is “life” after this. We will not hide it, we are respectful of others, and we do not wish to risk anyone. Any direction is appreciated (shitty comments will get ya no where… jus sayin)

If there was a setting on the sites that only allowed people with pictures of everyone who wants to be involved excluding useless cock pics to contact us we would install it. It would save us a lot of time reading and ignoring messages from people that do not have them. We all have real lives and would like to keep them private. No one is more special then anyone else in this regard.

We haven't seen an ugly one yet. Different, yes, but unattractive, no.

Uhhhhh … evidently! ;-D

Sorry you are having to deal with this, but it sounds like you are approaching it in a mature and reasonable manner. If it is any comfort, we know someone who found themselves in a similar situation. After the initial shock wore off, it turned out to be not anywhere even remotely close to the life-altering event initially feared.

There's another aspect to this question - does the size of the external parts of a woman's pussy matter? Both Clair and Lora have "dainty" pussies, everything is fits together nicely and neat. I OTOH, have large inner lips (long, but not "meaty") that protrude way beyond my outer lips, which themselves are bigger than normal. And to top it off, my clit is enormous and sticks out from my labia majora as well. It all sometimes makes for bathing suit problems. My older sister used to call me a freak and say I wasn't totally a girl. It didn't help that I'm scrawny with no tits. It ultimately brought my confidence back that both the men and women who I love like it down there with their mouths and dicks and fingers. And all that equipment works great for me.

The first step is to take a deep breath. HSV2 is quite common. It is a chronic condition, as the virus hides in the nerve ganglia and emerges especially during stress. As njbm mentioned, there is treatment and it is quite effective in suppressing the lesions. Valacyclovir, trade name Valtrex. Speak with your physicians. This is an infection that millions and millions of people live with. It is much less complicated to live with and treat compared to (for example) HIV. You should disclose the condition to potential play partners. So long as you are taking Valtrex and there are neither lesions nor the sensation that a lesion might soon develop (often described as a tingling/burning sensation) your risk of transmitting the virus is very low.

Hope you see a medical doctor. I understand that anti-viral medications, such as Valtrex, can suppress the symptoms. There are other posters on this site who are far more medically informed than me. Hope they pipe up. A great number of swingers ( and the general public) are HSV and HPV positive. We’ve learned that condom usage is not that protective. Sorry to hear of this problem. Hopefully, it can be improved through medication.

I get the "your pussy is tight" comment a lot also, and it always surprises me too, for the same reason, two kids. So whenever a guy says "Wow your pussy is tight", I always laugh and say "well you should have fucked her when I was in my twenties, cause that pussy would have crushed your dick. ?????

This thread should make me insecure due to my vagina being unsecure. That’s a reference to another post lol. I am not old, not stretched out by some oversized partner and I never gave birth. I have always had an insecurity about my vagina being to big and after becoming involved with other females the insecurities only got worse. I know I shouldn’t compare myself to others like men who think their penises are too small. We have what we have. It doesn’t help when I see ads on Groupon for Vaginal Rejuvenation. Thank you but my vagina is fine and awake. I have never been told by anyone that I was too loose. I did feel special with a guy who was bigger and I felt he was having a harder time and though it hurt a little I did smile to myself. I have secretly done all the exercises to “tighten” and I am pretty sure my insecurities are as much mental as physical. At least that’s what I say to myself.