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Why are you on this site? It seems like you have plenty of nothing to add. Are you trying to set the record for posting on a bulletin board that you have no connection to?

Looking for other couples on CL (which, as pointed out, hasn't allowed meet up posts in years) is like buying gold and rare gems at a swap meet...whatever you get is probably not real and not worth the time to find. If you want to catch fish, first try fishing where you already know the fish are: Stick to websites where swinger are (see 'please visit our sponsors' at the top of the page). While you will still run across fakes and flakes there (especially if they are 'free' members, which is why it is important to actually join whatever site has the most members close to you), at least you know that most of the people are serious about swinging.

Sorry CC =CL. I am happy that I did turn him down. He emailed me blaming me for not wanting to have fun. At first he wanted his wife to be involved and both couples could meet up and start flirting and maybe she would get on board if not we all would go our separate ways. He went from wanting her there to he didn't care and didn't want her involved at all. I agree with enhancer that he just wanted to cheat on his wife. I even told him I was more concerned more about his wife than he was.

One of the best things about LS couples is that they grasp the importance of clear and open communication. The standards discussed here are simply that much higher than we ever see most vanilla couples of our ken. Much better to hold to high communication standards and acknowledge when one falters than to ignore the need and benefit of those standards.

I am not reckless by any measure, but my philosophy is the opposite. Regrets come from what is not tried as well as what is. You only need to ponder an adventure for a long time if it is something permanent, like quitting a job and moving elsewhere or having a child. Having sex with someone is not such an event, you can just stop, it doesn't detract from you. One of my biggest "regrets" early on was playing for some months with a guy who turned out not to be nice and not even a good sexual partner. My husband recognized that I was persisting at it even though it was unfulfilling because I hate to fail at something; I was trying to make sex with this guy "work," and hubby told me it was ok just to let it go. It turned out to be a good lesson, and not really a regret.

Did the women think that it was worth the time? Discovering my Lesbian side was certainly worth it for me. That beats my husband, I was having no limits sex with my boyfriend for two years before deciding that I wanted to be on the other side as well. It helped that I selected the women from among my friends. My recommendation is to just go for it. If it's not working out, just pause, readjust, and decide how to move ahead.