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Miss you Doc!

I have had countless moments like this but I really enjoy sitting back and watching the view so it works out quite well for us.

The problem arises when you are more of a meat and potatoes kind of person, and you find out your swinging partner is a vegan!!

A silver lining of the pandemic: asking for a video call (Zoom, Skype, whatever) is now part of the fabric of life. Perfectly reasonable to suggest a 15-30 minute "get to know you" call, adult beverage in hand and whatever virtual background you want. You'll quickly learn: 1. Who shows up 2. Whether the couple is on the same page 3. Whether the photos were ten years ago and 50# lighter 4. Whether they can hold a conversation 5. Whether you might be interested in meeting them in person If the 'other couple' cannot find 15-30 min to meet you on a "Zoom call" , it's telling. If after 15-30 min you decide to go your separate ways, it's a small investment. If you decide to meet, at least you'll know what they look like when you get to the restaurant or bar or whatever.

I read and read and read and not comment because I am learning from others. I can’t comment intelligently without have the experience the posters are sharing. I also have a life and not the time to write lengthy answers that don’t add anything significant. His claims seem to want others to rebut, nobody agrees which I think says nobody cares. Is he trying to hijack the Swingersboard and chase others away. I have spoken to our friends who pointed me to read posts on here, friends who are swingers, they say continue to read and learn. It was pointed out that the poster has as much experience as I do, none.

Shortly after we moved to Florida (summer 2006) we were contacted by a couple on sls. The age was right and they lived close by. The husband even opened their private pictures. Turns out that their definition of h/w/p was way different from ours so we replied that we weren't a match and wished them well. I then received a number of additional emails that got progressively more obscene and confrontational. The last one described the front of our home and our Bassett hound and he stated that my wife was fat and he'd maybe stop by one day just to meet her. I replied that we usually had 3-somes, me, Mrs Doc and our good friend Mr Glock. I told him he was welcome to stop by anytime, Mr Glock would welcome him. Then I blocked him. This was the photo in which he described Mrs Doc as a fat bitch. Go figure!!

I think what I'm hearing here is: "She all I need. Why aren't I all she needs?" I think that's a question asked in lots of couples in crisis. Of course, there is no simple answer... and any answer anyone here might offer would be nothing more or less than a blind guess. Only your wife has a chance of knowing how she feels, and she might not even really know. We loop back the subject of counseling. By trying to work this problem through with you wife, using the aid of an impartial professional, you may get the answers you need... though perhaps not the answers you want.